alphamale Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 And if you're an average looking short guy...? you're fooked basically, play in your own league
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 you're fooked basically, play in your own league Pretty much what I was expecting. And what is my league BTW?
alphamale Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 And what is my league BTW? whichever girls are attracted to you and will date you
Beachgirl8 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 whichever girls are attracted to you and will date you This is the pond to fish in. I often detest alpha's posts. But he is right on here.
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 I'm sorry but Alpha's response is basically Captain Obvious. And of course, I have no idea where the pond is in the first place. There isn't exactly a place I can go that's named, home for women that would date SD81 I seriously do not have the willpower to ask out tons of women hoping one will say yes.
Nexus One Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I seriously do not have the willpower to ask out tons of women hoping one will say yes. Then prepare for a life of loneliness, because that's what that will amount to. Online dating, cold approaches, those are some of the options there are.
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Then prepare for a life of loneliness, because that's what that will amount to. Online dating, cold approaches, those are some of the options there are. That's pretty depressing. Are you sure women don't get more desperate at like 35 and will basically throw themselves at you? That's kind of what I've been pegging my own hopes on...
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 Then prepare for a life of loneliness, because that's what that will amount to. Thanks for the encouragement. It's been a while since I thought about killing myself
joystickd Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I remember when I was terrified to approach. I did online for a while out of fear and got rejected a few times. Then I would start talking to a few and then I would try out things to say just to see what reaction I would get. I would ask like text me you titties. I was surprised what happened I started sexting. It was a pic of my member on my phone that a coworker saw on my phone by accident that led to me losing my virginity at 24. That also led to me being nicknamed Joystick lol. Then with the help of some ice cold players I got over my fear of approaching in real life. You just have to get out there and do it. You have to experience rejection to get over the fear
Nexus One Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Thanks for the encouragement. It's been a while since I thought about killing myself San Francisco has some nice bridges and I heard the San Francisco Bay is very cold this time of year. Just kidding Somedude!
joystickd Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 (edited) I dont recommend asking to see titties in a text message or showing pics of your member. Seriously during the day is the best time to try to approach women. Don't believe the hype about meeting women in bars and clubs. Its not as easy as going out during the day. Women are easier to approach and you less likely have cockblocking friends. Edited November 5, 2011 by joystickd
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 San Francisco has some nice bridges and I heard the San Francisco Bay is very cold this time of year. Just kidding Somedude! Nah, I'm not going to drive all the way to the Bay Area to off myself. I'm sure I can think of some local ways. I dont recommend asking to see titties in a text message or showing pics of your member. LOL and I was starting to consider asking this girl I know to send me a picture. There's about a 99.9% chance she'd say no. Though I don't know how mad she'd be.
joystickd Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Nah, I'm not going to drive all the way to the Bay Area to off myself. I'm sure I can think of some local ways. LOL and I was starting to consider asking this girl I know to send me a picture. There's about a 99.9% chance she'd say no. Though I don't know how mad she'd be. I was thinking women you barely know. I don't do it now, but a while ago it was " Hey you wanna see my d**k?".
oaks Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 The thing is, I wouldn't have a clue what to say to a brand new girl, that could lead into her giving me a number if I asked. Sit on the bench and..."lovely view from here"
alphamale Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I often detest alpha's posts. why is that? you've only been around like 2 months. i call it like i see it
Beachgirl8 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 That's pretty depressing. Are you sure women don't get more desperate at like 35 and will basically throw themselves at you? That's kind of what I've been pegging my own hopes on... EWWW! I'm 35. I may have amended my criteria to include a larger looks, age, and height range since my age puts me at a disadvantage to the 20's chicks but NO desperation and will not be "throwing myself" at dudes anytime soon. The approach still remains the man's job. And they are still approaching. Im not gonna come find you in your living room no matter how old and decrepid i get. Sorry.
Beachgirl8 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 why is that? you've only been around like 2 months. i call it like i see it Yes, you call it like you see it. I don't want to go searching for things to quote but your opinion of girls with my demographics is sometimes insulting. But that's my problem. I'm not mad. I accept the reality of my less-desirable status even if I don't like it or think it should be so.
xxoo Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Sit on the bench and..."lovely view from here" Perfect! somedude, flattery will get you everywhere. I was once touring a campus, with my parents, and a guy I saw in one of the first areas chased our group down and (out of breath) excused himself, said something about my amazing beauty , and handed me his phone number. He was short (so am I). Yes, I called him! Looking back, he probably used that line every day , but it made me feel special.
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 EWWW! I'm 35. I may have amended my criteria to include a larger looks, age, and height range since my age puts me at a disadvantage to the 20's chicks but NO desperation and will not be "throwing myself" at dudes anytime soon. The approach still remains the man's job. And they are still approaching. Im not gonna come find you in your living room no matter how old and decrepid i get. Sorry. I wasn't saying all women get desperate at 35. I was thinking about those "stage 5 clinger" types that talk about marriage on the first date that men always complain about. I was thinking maybe those types would be interested in me when I get to be 35. I just got to find somewhere/somehow to chill out until then.
jobaba Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 More. Come on guys. The general belief that I'm getting from this forum is that men should ask out a woman that's attractive just because she's attractive. How would you do it? Tricky one. I just did this last weekend and was met with a grimace like that out of a Fear Factor episode. I would try cold approach on and off, but wouldn't make it your primary. I've never gotten anything from it.
betterdeal Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Men: You see an attractive woman sitting alone on a bench, what do you do? Go home, crack one off, then cry myself to sleep. It really annoys the wife.
LexiB Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I'd do what someone mentioned on page 1, ask to borrow $100. It's funny and random and breaks the ice rather quickly. Yeah... That might work in a small town/the suburbs but as someone from a big city, I'd think it was a set up for a robbery. Even after the guy laughed and said he was just joking, I'd still be on guard for the rest of that interaction.
EasyHeart Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I have a bit of a quarrel with the scenario, since women almost never do anything by themselves, especially sit alone on a bench, but I'll play along. 99/100 times I would smile and walk on. A woman sitting on a bench in a mall is waiting for someone. A woman sitting alone on a park bench or some isolated setting is in a vulnerable situation, and approaching her will almost always be perceived as creepy or threatening. And if she's sitting on a bench in a busy park, ten other guys will probably have already stopped and talked to her. If she's reading or wearing headphones, those are the universal signals for "Do NOT talk to me, a**hole!" I would never, never, never go up to a woman in on a bench and say, "Hi, I'm ___. I noticed you and wanted to talk to you." That might work in a bar where women are going with the intention of being hit on, but in a park or coffee shop or mall it's a gross invasion of their privacy and will set off red warning lights that say "Creepy stalker dude!!!" The secret of the cold approach is that it's never really cold. You're in some sort of environment where things are going on that you can talk about. So if she's sitting in some scenic spot, I might pause and make some witty comment about what she's looking at. I'm simply trying to show her that I am completely non-threatening and that I am both brilliant and funny. (Of course, if you're not brilliant and funny that can be a big problem.). I'm not trying to "score" or get her phone number, I'm simply trying to be memorable. For women, these stories almost always turn into "Gawd, I can't go anywhere without creepy losers hitting on me!" I want her to think, "He's funny. And kinda cute. Why don't guys like that ever ask me out?" Unless you're incredibly handsome (or she's incredibly naive), you're not going to get a date or a phone number in this scenario. Your goal is to chat with her for two minutes and be funny and charming enough for her to remember you. Then the NEXT time you see her, you do the same. And again. After you've run into each other a few times, then you can suggest a planned meeting.
carhill Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Tell me what you'd do. For the sake of simplicity, you are single in this scenario. I've done this, many times. I'm friendly, make small talk and note the existence (or not) of a wedding ring. I enjoy talking with women in general so she doesn't have to be 'attractive'. I do the same thing when sitting next to women on airplanes or in airports. If they don't appear preoccupied, I give it a shot. They're not alien creatures, although sometimes they seem that way in relationships. On the bench, they're just people.
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