somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Tell me what you'd do. For the sake of simplicity, you are single in this scenario.
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Well I think you know what I would do...so I'll refrain from answering.
Nexus One Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Tell me what you'd do. For the sake of simplicity, you are single in this scenario. Well if I feel so attracted to her that I'd want to get to know her better, then I'd start off with asking her name and go from there.
Wolf18 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Nothing. An attractive woman sitting alone is just waiting for her boyfriend.
ptp Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Wow that chick is really freaking h*doink *....... who put this damn pole right where I was walking?
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Nothing. An attractive woman sitting alone is just waiting for her boyfriend. Basically. I don't think I've ever seen this scenario play out any other way.
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 Well if I feel so attracted to her that I'd want to get to know her better, then I'd start off with asking her name and go from there. More. Come on guys. The general belief that I'm getting from this forum is that men should ask out a woman that's attractive just because she's attractive. How would you do it?
Nexus One Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Nothing. An attractive woman sitting alone is just waiting for her boyfriend. Basically. I don't think I've ever seen this scenario play out any other way. Once you know her name, you can ask her if she's single. I know...radical idea.
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 LOL @ PTP, in your case. She gets up and goes to you to make sure you're OK then you...
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Once you know her name, you can ask her if she's single. I know...radical idea. Well, I've played it both ways, done nothing and actually talked to her. Every single time turns out they have a boyfriend. It's basically 13 one way a baker's dozen the other.
loversquarrel Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Uh nothing...she'll probably think you're a weerdoh
Nexus One Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 (edited) Somedude, does this thread mean you've changed your mind on trying cold approaches? Edited November 5, 2011 by Nexus One
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 Somedude, does this thread mean you've changed your mind on doing cold approaches? It's research, For Science! If somebody has a half-way decent idea, I might try it out.
counterman Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I did this not long ago; she had a boyfriend But I would have never known if I didn't approach her. And if similar situation happens, I'll approach again because I've met girls who were single:)
FitChick Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Years ago, my friend was just sitting on the beach when a man approached her and made small talk. He wound up buying her lunch, they dated and eventually lived together for many years. She was a very pretty typical California blonde and he was tall, skinny, big nose, frizzy hair, Jewish guy with a mediocre office job. It can happen.
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 I did this not long ago; she had a boyfriend But I would have never known if I didn't approach her. And if similar situation happens, I'll approach again because I've met girls who were single:) Care to tell me what you'd do? Years ago, my friend was just sitting on the beach when a man approached her and made small talk. He wound up buying her lunch, they dated and eventually lived together for many years. She was a very pretty typical California blonde and he was tall, skinny, big nose, frizzy hair, Jewish guy with a mediocre office job. It can happen. Interesting. So things can happen. Now I wonder what he actually said.
insertnamehere Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I generally don't like to approach women who aren't otherwise engaged. I like to approach women who are doing something (dancing, singing, playing, swimming, etc.). I don't like to go in cold and not be easily able to get any sense of her personality. It's a tough approach.
Dust Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I would probably say something about the weather we've been having lately. I would then proceed to converse with her. Then if that went well I would ask her out. Sorry if I don't have some exact script for you but you need to be able think on the fly and be the cool version of yourself.
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 I generally don't like to approach women who aren't otherwise engaged. I like to approach women who are doing something (dancing, singing, playing, swimming, etc.). I don't like to go in cold and not be easily able to get any sense of her personality. It's a tough approach. Ok, then the woman you see is doing one of the above. What I'm trying to do is get a feel on how men would do a cold approach.
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 I would probably say something about the weather we've been having lately. I would then proceed to converse with her. Then if that went well I would ask her out. Sorry if I don't have some exact script for you but you need to be able think on the fly and be the cool version of yourself. "Lovely weather we're having" "Yes it's quite nice." "I'm Dust" "Cindy" ????? ???? "Lets go on a date Cindy" Is that how it would go?
aj22one Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Ok, then the woman you see is doing one of the above. What I'm trying to do is get a feel on how men would do a cold approach. I'd do what someone mentioned on page 1, ask to borrow $100. It's funny and random and breaks the ice rather quickly.
Dust Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 "Lovely weather we're having" "Yes it's quite nice." "I'm Dust" "Cindy" ????? ???? "Lets go on a date Cindy" Is that how it would go? yeah flirting is generaly pretty silly. Not exactly a serious deep conversation. You can't really learn this stuff from the internet. You have to teach yourself by going out there and doing.
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 yeah flirting is generaly pretty silly. Not exactly a serious deep conversation. You can't really learn this stuff from the internet. You have to teach yourself by going out there and doing. I'm trying to get an idea on how to flirt and what to talk about. If I were to approach a woman tomorrow, I would do what I just said word for for word and there is a 99% chance she'd say no. That's why I see little point in even trying a cold approach.
Dust Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I'm trying to get an idea on how to flirt and what to talk about. If I were to approach a woman tomorrow, I would do what I just said word for for word and there is a 99% chance she'd say no. That's why I see little point in even trying a cold approach. Do you believe in creating your own happyness? I do! You'll be very disapointed if you place that power in some one elses hands. That is what you experience. Whether a girl likes you or not doesn't make you better or worse! Know that and believe it. Even if you do get a gf at this point you'll be so insecure I doubt you'd enjoy that. Unless getting a gf changes you which is posible. The point is you need to change for the better. A change from not believing in yourself, to believing in yourself.
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