fenderjames Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Well , its 3 months this weekend of absolutely NC . No updates from friends , no facebook , no running into her friends . Absolute NC . If someone told me 3 months ago that I still wouldnt have heard from her I would have cried alot . As it is , I did cry alot anyways . It still hurts . Its still hard . I miss her everyday . But it will get better . I know this . I accept that this relationship is over . I accept that nc is for me to heal , not to get her back . Although I said I think of her alot ( and the xmas crap coming out now doesnt help let me tell you ) ..... but I am better than day one , and I will be even better as each day passes . Stay strong to all going thru hearbreak and loss . If I can do it , my God anyone can !!!! I still have a ways to go .... no sugarcoating, no denial .... absolute reality . There are still going to be sad sad times inside me . Im not going to wake up tomorrow and have some revelation . But someday this will be a memory with no overwhelming emotion associated with it . Just a memory . Someday . Cheers all . Take care of yourselves K ? We're all we've got when we're alone .
Bobby289 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 (edited) 3 months! I think after 2 I would break. So congrats on that! It's never easy thats for sure, I really think a roller coaster is the best analogy. You have accepted reality and I think that is the hardest part of healing. Good job man. Edited November 4, 2011 by Bobby289
TheJiltedGeneration Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 yea that is really awesome fenderjames, I am glad you finally have your head set on moving on.. remember though things are probably going to start getting challenging from here on out, as you will need to commit to this unwaveringly... and unfortunately its kind of a given that you might be tempted to see if all this time NC means that your ex might miss you ( she wont.. trust me) .. as everyone has there own different level of time needed to heal.. ...if you find yourself getting frantic or desperate to break NC, dont hesitate to post it here.. we're all here for you man..
Rorschach64 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Congratulations James. It is one hell of a ride to recovery from our situations and a hard one at that, who knows when it will be better, but it will be better in the end. Jilted is right, the need to break NC arises come here and tell us the reasons why you want to break NC so we can promptly tell you what we think, I know I did that today and everyone made me realize it was a bad move. I am so thankful for LS. Good luck James, we're here for you.
Author fenderjames Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 Thanks folks ! Jilted , don't worry nc will not be broken ever from my end . It justifies itself to never ever toss her an olive branch - she hurt me too bad 3 months ago . I have no desire to text / call her . Theres nothing I have to say lol she knows what she did to me . If I ever ran into her ( highly unlikely ) I imagine I would be quite quiet for the lack of anything to really say on my end . And yes, the road ahead is still long ... but as I turn my head I can no longer see the beginning of it - for I am well on now , I've been walking awhile . Cheers Jilt. and all ....
Author fenderjames Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 Thanks Rorch and Jilt and Bobby you rock . Best to you all too
itsmewren Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 way to go!! that's seriously awesome and I'm super impressed! the longest I've been able to go is eight weeks! keep it up, rockstar! (:
Trovador Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Congrats, man... I also am about the three months mark of strict NC but I don't miss her nor care about her at all... not saying I am better than any of you guys, not saying either that I am superman, just stating what I feel and live... For all I know and care she might have died long ago... There was another girl but she was worse than my ex lol...
Thieves Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Congratulations! It's tough sometimes, huh? BUT, you've just proved to yourself that it is possible to get by without the ex, which is what counts. Take it from someone who's been there for a while. It will get better as you go on too, you're right about that, even if you don't feel it at first. One day you'll be going along, and then you'll step back for a moment and see how much you've really improved. I think we all get so caught up in trying to heal though, that we kind of look over any progress we make because we're still stuck on went wrong... Anyway, I'm glad you're making progress, Fender! Keep hangin' on.
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