tribbs14 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Dated my ex-girlfriend for 6 months we did alot of cool stuff together (Great relationship) and I ruined it by calling her up one day when I was drinking hard stuff.I rarely drink. I said some mean stuff to her. I really hurt her feelings Devastated. She said she was tired of me breaking up with her and said we are Done. I call her that night she did not answer. Next day I told her I was flying out to see her and she told me We are Through she never wanted to talk to me ever. I told her I was in town and was going to see her, but I never went to see her. So I text her several times that day bothering her. She was not happy telling me not to come see her and we are done. She called my neighbors next day to check to see if I was out of town and to see how I was doing. So I did NC for about 1 week later and she email me saying she was hurt and she was going to marry me , was going to have my children and wanted to talk to me when I was sober. Another 2 weeks later she emailed me and said she wished things were different and missed me and cared for me alot . She ask me to call her that night. We talked on the phone for 2 hours and I apologize for my behavior. She told me how miserable she was and has not left the house for for 2 weeks She was very upset and she said this phone call was not about reconciling and she said I had control issues. So week later she texted me asking me about the new Iphone because I told her I got the new Iphone. 3 days later I sent her email letting her know how I was doing. 1 day later she replys to my email and was happy I was doing so well and she told me how her life was going and she thinks of me often and we will talk Im sure. I replied back to her email and said we should catch up and talk and she said to call her that night and I called her that night and she did not pick up. Next morning she text me and said she was sorry she missed my call and would call me when she leaves work. She called me after work talked about hour and told her I missed talking with her and she said she missed talking to me also. We talked about what was going in our lifes. Kept it simple. I ask her if she wanted to keep in touch and she said yes. I texted her in the morning and told her It was great talking with her and have a great day. She responded: Thanks you too. She also wants her phone she gave to me so she can give it to her to sick cousin who broke his phone. I told her I would overnite it to her and will talk later. She was very nice on the phone it sounded like she wanted to talk longer but I said the goodbye. Sent her email last night with pic of me and said I miss you. She replied: she thought it was very sweet and said I looked good and would contact me after her race. I really miss her. Whats steps should I take ?
betterdeal Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Why do you drink and can you drink in moderation? It seems it's a problem for you and also you say you have dumped her some times before. Why was that? Your drinking may be related to the reasons you take drastic actions such as dumping her. Get to the root of that, and you'll be able to change the routine. No point getting back together if whatever causes the drinking and dumping is still there, because you will still drink recklessly and still dump, and you don't want that, do you?
itsmewren Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I was just about to say pretty much the same thing as betterdeal. why were you saying mean things to her and dumping her?? if it's your own issue perhaps you should seek out help from a therapist to deal with these issues? getting back together just to be mean/break up more doesn't sound like the best plan. for anyone.
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