clueless2 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 (edited) I’ll keep this short and to the point: I had been living with my ex-girlfriend for over a year and a half until she suddenly dumped me a little less than a month ago. Sadly, her reason for leaving is that she’s unsure about what she wants in a relationship and thinks I might not be the man of her dreams. Now that I have re-entered the dating scene, she has all of a sudden reinitiated contact and seemed emotionally upset over what I’m doing, claiming that I’m breaking her heart by moving on. Even while in tears, she said that getting back together isn’t a priority at the moment for her (too many things going on in her life). WTF! So what I don’t understand, is if she’s scared of losing me for good, then why hasn’t she tried to make more of an effort to get back together? Am I missing something? Thanks in advance for your advice! Edited November 4, 2011 by clueless2
HappyFlower Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 She's probably upset you've 'moved on' quicker than she has - she wanted you to wallow in sadness for a while. Plus, she wanted you to hang around as a fallback...so if/when she changed her mind you'd still be there, ready and waiting to take her back without question. Hmm. If dating makes you happy, do it She decided to end it with you, what you're doing now is none of her concern. If it upsets her, ask her to really think about why. Her getting upset shouldnt be the reason you get back together.
geegirl Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 (edited) Her ego is severely bruised. Besides, I believe it's awfully selfish of her to do this to you. She claims you are breaking her heart by moving on? When you break up with someone, they will move on. Did she think you'd sit there, broken over her and crumble into nothing. I bet the moment she meets some other guy, she'd be off not caring about whether you're dating or sitting in a corner crying. She chose to break up with you, even noting that you may not be the man of her dreams. She has to live with that decision and that is also knowing that people move on after break ups. Immature and selfish. She is not your responsibility anymore. Keep dating. Edited November 4, 2011 by geegirl
AlexisMacabre Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 shes just trying to make you feel bad for moving on. forget her and just do what you are doing, obviously she sees your not there pining and crying over her and it upset her. ignore her and just dont even answer stupid texts of those kind!
BCCA Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Even while in tears, she said that getting back together isn’t a priority at the moment for her (too many things going on in her life). WTF! What shes saying is that making you happy, and worrying about what you want, is not a priority. Its all about her - she's just throwing a fit because youre actually moving on, and not waiting at home, crying and holding a picture of her. She's just being selfish. Ask yourself this, do you think if you went to her and said that she's breaking your heart by leaving you that she would care? I doubt it would change a thing. Youre miles ahead of most people in your situation, keep dating and let your ex wallow in her own missery. Youre not her safety net any longer.
melenkurion Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 She always vaguely assumed you'd be there as a safety net when she wanted an ego stroke, felt a bit down or whatever. Now she realises that perhaps her plans aren't going as well as she imagined (they never do), and that the chances are you aren't going to be around as her backup. And good for you.
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