fucpcg Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I mean cards, clothes, stuff for round the house, etc. My ex has been beyond nasty with me, spread rumors all summer of how crazy, psycho, abusive I was to her while out partying her brains out, refuses to talk to me since april because how good she was to me, and how terrible I was to her (she dumped february this year after year of dating)... okay whatever I've taken the high ground this whole time. However something came up this week it was important personal issue that involved her that I tried to contact her about, and got zero response to the text message I sent. I had a mutual friend text her and ask her just to confirm she got my message (cause she told me she was blocking my number last april), she ignores his text. Finally I call, she didn't block me, she didn't take the call, she didn't return the call. This is a 40 year old woman we are talking bout. She has absolutely treated me like **** after declaring emphatically her love for me after month two of dating, and even discussing marriage and having a child. After this incident im seriously sick of being nice, trying to patch things up after the breakup, and taking the high road. I would never do to her what she did to me, but my gut is telling me pack everything up and mail back, either noteless, or with a note that says "now its like it never happened". Childish? Fair play? Dropping to her level? Im just so pissed at the moment. If only u guys knew the whole story.... I got burned bad.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Bad idea. Keep taking the "high road" you are referring to.
69ways Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Bad idea. Keep taking the "high road" you are referring to. I agree, you will only give food for her rumours. She is doing what she is doing to feel better, ignore the b....
M2155 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Agree with the others. No value added, it'll just show her she's getting to you. Just toss it or give it away.
Kamila Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I would try to get some meditating zen techniques.... inner peace. Or a voodoo doll. You could take a picture of her and vandalize it: give her a moustache, funny hair, make her ugly. That would get a tiny bit of the anger out of your system.
geegirl Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Box up and trash. Then move on. You'll give her the satisfaction of knowing that she still gets to you and she'll probably use it to blab negatively to everyone again. If you think she will get hurt or affected by receiving those things, she won't. She'll probably roll her eyes and go about her day. You're thinking she will feel what you will feel if the roles were reversed. Nope.
Mcnulty Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Just started thinking about the above...I have a dvd and some clothing....bin it eh? I really wasn't sure, thought maybe I should just post it...obviously with no msg/note...hmm.
BCCA Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Do yourself a favof and just toss that stuff in the garbage if it bothers you. Thats what I did. The poster who said she isnt going to feel anything but justified if you send it back is right, she'll just laugh, think youre pathetic, and toss it herself. Throw it in the trash the day before trash pickup so there is no temptation to retrieve anything.
ChelseaLS Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Do yourself a favof and just toss that stuff in the garbage if it bothers you. Thats what I did. The poster who said she isnt going to feel anything but justified if you send it back is right, she'll just laugh, think youre pathetic, and toss it herself. Throw it in the trash the day before trash pickup so there is no temptation to retrieve anything. Yup I am going to agree with everyone here... box it up and trash it. Don't give her any satisfaction that you are hurting or angry or whatever. I find it very pathetic and sad a woman almost my mothers age is that caddy and low. She is not worth your time or effort. Like everyone else said... box it, chuck it and move on. Keep on that highroad. Good things come to those who take that highroad.
radiodarcy Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 (edited) i'm in agreement with the other posters who said to toss it. no good will come of you sending it back to her. when the ex dumped me, i simply trashed everything he ever gave me - - including a pair of sneakers he'd bought me (come to think of it - - i should have given those to good will instead. but it's too late to do anything about it now ) it was sort of therapeutic. much more so than had i dumped it all on his doorstep. that would have made me feel worse because he would have known how much he had gotten to me. Edited November 4, 2011 by radiodarcy
shayla Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I threw away everything that jerk ever gave me. Everything. After seeing the other woman wearing an identical necklace he gave me in their wedding pictures two months after he dumped me....ugh I got rid of it all! I guess that's the way cheaters keep their lies straight.
Author fucpcg Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 For me the whole point of it was, to articulate it better, kind of like to say what the hell happened to you?? I mean, here's a birthday card that has this overwhelmingly deep personal message that concludes with wherever you go in life, I hope to be there with you to share it, and now you can't even talk to me for an important topic? WTF. Its stuff that she gave me while telling me ho3 special I was when she gave it to me, thought maybe it might make her think about what kind of idiot she is acting like, give her some pasue, ya know? But im sure you lot are right, she has twisted everything she could against me this past months, this would probably fo down the same way.
BCCA Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 For me the whole point of it was, to articulate it better, kind of like to say what the hell happened to you?? I mean, here's a birthday card that has this overwhelmingly deep personal message that concludes with wherever you go in life, I hope to be there with you to share it, and now you can't even talk to me for an important topic? WTF. Its stuff that she gave me while telling me ho3 special I was when she gave it to me, thought maybe it might make her think about what kind of idiot she is acting like, give her some pasue, ya know? But im sure you lot are right, she has twisted everything she could against me this past months, this would probably fo down the same way. I get your point, and your intention, but theres what you MEAN it to say, and whats shes going to TAKE it as. And theyre very different. She's just going to think youre being petty and trying to be a jerk, and she'll feel even more validated in dumping you. Its a no win situation for you, thats why the smart move is to either keep it or if you cant tolerate looking at it (which none of us would blame you for), toss it. The best way to show someone how silly theyre acting is to leave them completely out of your life and give them time to reflect. Nothing you do or say will make her see anything, and sending the stuff back would essentially just be breaking NC, which isnt a good idea. Stay on the high road, my friend.
M2155 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 For me the whole point of it was, to articulate it better, kind of like to say what the hell happened to you?? I mean, here's a birthday card that has this overwhelmingly deep personal message that concludes with wherever you go in life, I hope to be there with you to share it, and now you can't even talk to me for an important topic? WTF. Its stuff that she gave me while telling me ho3 special I was when she gave it to me, thought maybe it might make her think about what kind of idiot she is acting like, give her some pasue, ya know? But im sure you lot are right, she has twisted everything she could against me this past months, this would probably fo down the same way. Returning her stuff doesn't really say that at all. I'm sure she did feel those things at that time, but obviously not at this moment. Returning them would show your sentimental, obsessing, angry, affected...some version of not leaving her in the past. I returned my exes stuff and I wish I hadn't- he didn't deserve the effort it took me to box it up:o (Wow I dumped her and she brought me all my stuff).
Sugarkane Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I always get angry and tear everything up into pieces. It feels really good to do. I don't understand wanting to keep things at all.
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