Untouchable_Fire Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 He was bipolar and not on meds. His mother was a shrink. Go figure. He should have been as NORMAL as could be, but was far from it. He was good in bed though, let me tell ya. Crazy sex is always the best sex. That's my opinion now hahahahahahaha:laugh::laugh: Yeah Upstate NY sucks @ss as far as dating. Like I said, it's toothless rednecks and young college boys. I always thought it would be pack with rich metrosexual wall street guys in their vacation homes. However, a friend once told me it's more like an american idol style competition for who can do the best Larry the Cable Guy impression. Trust me, quality relationship sex beats crazy sex every time. I've been with some freaky girls too... My friend Jimmy had to stop dating this girl because she was obsessed with trying to insert something up his butt during sex.
ShannonMI Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Well, sure. I wouldn't kick him out of bed either. But I wouldn't expect him to be relationship quality. I'd give him a shot. With abs like that it would be hard to resist hahahahaha
ShannonMI Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I always thought it would be pack with rich metrosexual wall street guys in their vacation homes. However, a friend once told me it's more like an american idol style competition for who can do the best Larry the Cable Guy impression. Trust me, quality relationship sex beats crazy sex every time. I've been with some freaky girls too... My friend Jimmy had to stop dating this girl because she was obsessed with trying to insert something up his butt during sex. OM f*cking G!!! :lmao:Hahahahaha my crazy wasn't that crazy thank God. He did have a fixation with my @ss, but didn't try inserting anything into it. I would have dumped him for sure
ShannonMI Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 All of the really good, down to earth guys I know are native to NorCal or from Ohio, Illinois, Iowa, Michigan or Wisconsin. They have no trouble with the ladies, it seems. Southern men are the best:love::love:
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I'd give him a shot. With abs like that it would be hard to resist hahahahaha Years ago I had the coveted 6pak for a short time... To this day I wish I didn't know how much female attention it really garners. OM f*cking G!!! :lmao:Hahahahaha my crazy wasn't that crazy thank God. He did have a fixation with my @ss, but didn't try inserting anything into it. I would have dumped him for sure Yeah... Jimmy won't admit it... but we think based on an argument they had in front of us... that she got him with a finger once... maybe a thumb. He denies it, but my cousin has nicknamed him "Jimmy Da Fag".
ShannonMI Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Years ago I had the coveted 6pak for a short time... To this day I wish I didn't know how much female attention it really garners. Yeah... Jimmy won't admit it... but we think based on an argument they had in front of us... that she got him with a finger once... maybe a thumb. He denies it, but my cousin has nicknamed him "Jimmy Da Fag". Oh a thumb ain't nothing. Some guys like fingers in their poopers. It's the strap ons that are more concerning:lmao: And abs are HOT!!!!!!
Wolf18 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 LOL. Well, I've heard that "change your personality" thing, and tried it for a few years. This whole "have more confidence" and "change your attitude" thing is, frankly, a carrot at the end of a stick. Bunk. In real life, I can tell you about a thousand stories about me putting someone else over my well-being. With girls that have gotten close to me I've dealt with cops, I've shared everything I have with them, I don't have a car but I've walked them home despite it being late at night and their home being 3 hours out of my way on the train, I've seen them at their worst and best and was their pillar of rock in both situations. I don't want to toot my horn *toot* but I'm a good guy, and the girls I've known know it. Then they turn around and sleep with some guy who doesn't do any of this because he has a car, has long hair, or is a few inches taller than me. I can be a loose cannon and don't take any ****, but this isn't what women dislike about me, since I know plenty of guys who are like this that are very popular with the girls. It's all just so damn cheap, and I'm just going to act and do what I feel. I still like to think of myself as a good guy (despite being a little rough around the edges), but not because of women. Even though shannon thinks she's joking, it's the truth. If some movie star was 10 times more "bitter" than me, she would sleep with him anyway. Meanwhile, if a guy whose "not her type" was the politically correct, afraid of the truth man you all tell me I should be, she wouldn't care either. Personally, a great testament to this is how I myself am not a virgin and have had my fair share of sexual experiences (and the cluster of them were when I was at my most energitically angry, anti-social, and bitter because of my teenage hormones), while some mild mannered, older nice guys like HardDaysnight or that ginger guy Ross something have barely even kissed a girl.
Wolf18 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Years ago I had the coveted 6pak for a short time... To this day I wish I didn't know how much female attention it really garners.[/Quote] Same here, for 2 years I obsessed with working out because I thought women were the be all end all to life. It worked and I found out how overrated it was , and I saw so many injustices with girls lusting after me instead of their male friends who actually were decent looking, but just didn't work out 3 hours a day or have a wealthy dad like me who could pay for a nutritionist and trainer (my dad bailed 5 years ago so I'm in the same boat now and can appreciate it more lol) . I think a lot of women would be surprised to find out that the reason I can come off as bitter towards women isn't really from rejection, but rather from seeing how easy it is when you have some stupid cosmetic trait like a 6 pack and how hard it is when you don't. I had a 6 pack now I have a somewhat visible 4 pack, those 2 abs really make a difference and that's just retarded.
ShannonMI Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 LOL. Well, I've heard that "change your personality" thing, and tried it for a few years. This whole "have more confidence" and "change your attitude" thing is, frankly, a carrot at the end of a stick. Bunk. In real life, I can tell you about a thousand stories about me putting someone else over my well-being. With girls that have gotten close to me I've dealt with cops, I've shared everything I have with them, I don't have a car but I've walked them home despite it being late at night and their home being 3 hours out of my way on the train, I've seen them at their worst and best and was their pillar of rock in both situations. I don't want to toot my horn *toot* but I'm a good guy, and the girls I've known know it. Then they turn around and sleep with some guy who doesn't do any of this because he has a car, has long hair, or is a few inches taller than me. I can be a loose cannon and don't take any ****, but this isn't what women dislike about me, since I know plenty of guys who are like this that are very popular with the girls. It's all just so damn cheap, and I'm just going to act and do what I feel. I still like to think of myself as a good guy (despite being a little rough around the edges), but not because of women. Even though shannon thinks she's joking, it's the truth. If some movie star was 10 times more "bitter" than me, she would sleep with him anyway. Meanwhile, if a guy whose "not her type" was the politically correct, afraid of the truth man you all tell me I should be, she wouldn't care either. Personally, a great testament to this is how I myself am not a virgin and have had my fair share of sexual experiences (and the cluster of them were when I was at my most energitically angry, anti-social, and bitter because of my teenage hormones), while some mild mannered, older nice guys like HardDaysnight or that ginger guy Ross something have barely even kissed a girl. You're right. I'd f*ck his brains out. Would I have a relationship with him? Probably not. Too much to deal with. And you can call me shallow. I will keep calling you bitter.
Nexus One Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 If my plans work out I will not be chained to any location in the world pretty much. Which can come in handy when it comes to dating.
ShannonMI Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 If my plans work out I will not be chained to any location in the world pretty much. Which can come in handy when it comes to dating. You're a lucky man, Nexus:)
Nexus One Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 You're a lucky man, Nexus:) Well I'm not there just quite yet. Maybe 2012. *crosses fingers* I hope I won't be still saying this in 2020, good grief.
ffw Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 If my plans work out I will not be chained to any location in the world pretty much. Which can come in handy when it comes to dating. That's pretty much my story. From outside everything will look perfect but trust me when you are inside the story will be different.
Wolf18 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 You're right. I'd f*ck his brains out. Would I have a relationship with him? Probably not. Too much to deal with. And you can call me shallow. I will keep calling you bitter. So you don't see the flaw in the idea that it's my " bitter attitude" (even if it was possible for women out in the world to see what I write on this forum)?
Nexus One Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 (edited) So you don't see the flaw in the idea that it's my " bitter attitude" (even if it was possible for women out in the world to see what I write on this forum)? From my perspective as a guy. When a woman is too negative too often, then that's a turn-off for me. There's a lot of negativity coming out of you on this forum. Perhaps you don't express that out in the real world, but I suspect women on this forum are turning off on it, just like I would turn off on a woman that b*tches all the time. For me it's simple, I just want to be happy, so I get drawn to women with a positive attitude. I suspect intuitively a lot of women think in a similar way. That's why I think you're getting some of the replies you've been getting from women on this forum. I'm not saying you can't ever be negative about something, I'm saying it's better to be negative about things that deserve it, when it's warranted. You probably just vent a bit on this forum to get some things off your chest, no biggie. It's very well possible that you don't go around walking with a negative attitude all day out in the real world, but women on this forum don't know that, hence their reactions. Edited November 5, 2011 by Nexus One
Anela Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 All of the really good, down to earth guys I know are native to NorCal or from Ohio, Illinois, Iowa, Michigan or Wisconsin. They have no trouble with the ladies, it seems. I'm in Ohio, and when they check me out in person - one was apparently really having a good look one evening, just recently - they don't approach me. My accent tends to have guys swinging their heads around - something I never really noticed until the past year. Men asked me out on a dating site, but I ended up backing out, earlier this year, because I had a panic attack (I was upset over somebody else, and my self-esteem has been in shards - I know, boo-hoo). And then there was that one guy my age, who lowered his age by three years, and also lowered the age he was looking for when it came to women. He's now in a relationship.
Anela Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Pickings aren't slim, you two just refuse to date guys who are a little younger than you. A guy in college doesn't have the "self-esteem" of a guy whose got a decent job, right? There is no shortage of men, just not your "type" of men. There is nothing wrong with a kind of rural/country man (rednecks) or even a college guy, you just don't want to date them. You'd be surprised, some of these rural guys will probably treat you like more of a traditional gentleman than some cosmopolitan type, but who knows you're probably not into that either. Women can't find a man because they are too picky, men can't find a girl because ...women are too picky I almost went out with someone who said things to me like, "I hope you're keeping warm." He ended up being both racist and homophobic, and he sounded more and more angry and bitter - I was afraid to meet him after that. Frustration, I can understand - boy, can I! but he scared me.
thatone Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Well I'm not there just quite yet. Maybe 2012. *crosses fingers* I hope I won't be still saying this in 2020, good grief. i'm gonna try to beat you to it . as soon as my house sells i'm gonna replace it with a much more modest condo back home in NOLA. leftover money will be spent on traveling to my heart's content. i own two properties now, one is being sold next week, the other will be gone in the next couple of years. all i'll need is a laptop with internet access to manage my finances.
Anela Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Bite the bullet and get your @ss out there. Even though it's beyond uncomfortable, the only way to overcome social anxiety is to go and be around people. It DOES get easier. I can attest personally to this. Yes, this. Sorry, I didn't mean anything like literally taking a bullet.
Anela Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 From my perspective as a guy. When a woman is too negative too often, then that's a turn-off for me. There's a lot of negativity coming out of you on this forum. Perhaps you don't express that out in the real world, but I suspect women on this forum are turning off on it, just like I would turn off on a woman that b*tches all the time. For me it's simple, I just want to be happy, so I get drawn to women with a positive attitude. I suspect intuitively a lot of women think in a similar way. That's why I think you're getting some of the replies you've been getting from women on this forum. I'm not saying you can't ever be negative about something, I'm saying it's better to be negative about things that deserve it, when it's warranted. You probably just vent a bit on this forum to get some things off your chest, no biggie. It's very well possible that you don't go around walking with a negative attitude all day out in the real world, but women on this forum don't know that, hence their reactions. Also, if you are carrying around that bitterness, then it might somehow be felt, even if you aren't expressing it. I'm not bitter all the time, either - although I didn't expect to be having age-related fears so soon (I thought that might happen around 40, at least, if not a bit older, since I felt so good at 30).
Anela Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 It's been a good twenty years since I met a woman in my age group (within ten years either way) who was unmarried and living in my area (which I define as a ten mile radius). Of course, ten of those twenty years I was married. All of my LTR's were technically LDR's since distance was involved. My M only became a non-LDR when my exW moved sixty miles after we married. Closest distance was about 25 miles; furthest around 6500 miles. IME, small town dating, if you're not native (I'm not) is pretty incestuous. The old 'family are friends and friends are family' kind of thing. Outsiders are treated with skepticism. I found this to be true even when working with volunteer organizations and the chamber of commerce. After a number of years I finally gave it up. Perhaps things have changed, IDK. I do meet a lot of women locally, no doubt. They're all married. In 2003, I suggested to my parents, that we go out as a family, to the Christmas Eve mass that we'd received a flyer for. I'm not religious, but I was getting over the agoraphobia, and thought, "what better way to make friends with some locals?" Big mistake. Only one person wished us a merry christmas, and that was as we quickly left (after being stared at by just about everyone, as though we were aliens sporting extra legs and antennae). Mum said she was considered an outsider when she was first here as a newlywed, in the early 70's. A few people were fine, but most were funny with her. The neighbours were very nice when I was looking for a missing cat, and walking around with flyers, but there isn't much actual community around here.
ShannonMI Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 From my perspective as a guy. When a woman is too negative too often, then that's a turn-off for me. There's a lot of negativity coming out of you on this forum. Perhaps you don't express that out in the real world, but I suspect women on this forum are turning off on it, just like I would turn off on a woman that b*tches all the time. For me it's simple, I just want to be happy, so I get drawn to women with a positive attitude. I suspect intuitively a lot of women think in a similar way. That's why I think you're getting some of the replies you've been getting from women on this forum. I'm not saying you can't ever be negative about something, I'm saying it's better to be negative about things that deserve it, when it's warranted. You probably just vent a bit on this forum to get some things off your chest, no biggie. It's very well possible that you don't go around walking with a negative attitude all day out in the real world, but women on this forum don't know that, hence their reactions. Precisely. Well put:)
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