theconz Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I had a first date with a beautiful, smart, witty woman tonight. She shared some things that I think were pretty personal, like she was a breast cancer survivor. She got a guy fist bump btw for that. I had a life threatening illness a few years back so understand all those fears and emotions. There were times she was looking at me I swear like she was entranced or something. I mean I know enough...I think...to know when someone likes me. Yeah she touched me a few times all of that stuff. But when we got outside and I offered to walk her to her car she said you don't have to I'm parked a way's away. Okay so did I read the whole thing wrong? Being the gentleman I am I insisted and I had no intention of trying to kiss her or anything. So I walked her to her car she mentions about how I don't work far from where she does. Then not long after says "so what's your day look like tomorrow?" So now I am really confused because I think she hinted that maybe she wanted to get together? Or was she just making small talk? Anyway I just let it go. If I asked for lunch and was wrong would have felt stupid. Then she says she will drive me to my car. Huh? First she doesn't want me to walk her and now she's giving me a ride? She punched me or something similar as I was getting ready to get out so I did give her a small kiss, quick peck, thanked her and left. Asked her to text me she got home okay, she did and thanked me. I replied and said it was a pleasure meeting her. We had been e-mailing and texting each other for the last week kidding about me being a prince and her being a princess and she had taken to calling me prince. But no prince in the last text just thank you. Lol, look at this message like a kid in 3rd grade "does she like me?" I swear to god I never will understand women. I will always play it safe and assume I read more into things than were there. No mention of calling her, no reference to seeing her again, nothing like that and I never ask then cause I don't like putting people on the spot. So women of loveshack tell me what the deal is?
AHardDaysNight Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 She was hinting that she liked you, and was interested in a second date.
Dust Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 You don't need to worry about it. Be like Tarzan and make it happen.
Star Gazer Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 It sounds like you did everything right! For some reason, it sounds like you're looking for proof that she doesn't like you, rather than evidence that she does. To me, it sounds like she does.
missed_theboat Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Go for it! Ask her out again, and have a specific plan. Women love it when men are able to think of the date and plan it out so they don't just say "Hey, wanna go out... what do you wanna do?" It's much nicer to say "Hey, I'd love to take you out to dinner again." or "I'd love to take you to see... etc" whatever. It makes it so much more personal! I love it! It sounds like she's into you and she may want you to make the moves in the beginning (cause some of us women love being courted, you know ) And just put yourself out there! It may be awkward, but it's so endearing for me personally if a guy says "I really had a great time with you tonight" or "I'd love to see you again." You'll get the hint really quickly if she is not into you (but you would have probably already gotten that hint) and from the sound of it, that's not the case for you here!
Leegh Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Possibly she said out of politeness that it wasn't necessary for you to walk her to her car, even though probably she really wanted you to. She may have thought it was an inconvience to you to walk her to her car. It was great that you did offer, as men should offer to walk a lady to her car after a date whether they are interested in her or not. I think she's definitely interested from everything you've said.
dasein Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Sounds like things are going well. One thing to consider would be cutting out lots of text, phone, email contact with women early on. Only call to ask them out, get to know them during face to face time.
Duckduckgoose Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Seems like she wants to get to know you better.
Eddie Edirol Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Youre in like Flynn. Its on like a strippers thong.
Pierre Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 You may be 54, but that does not mean your insecurity goes away.
2sunny Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Sounds like it went well... Ask her out again!
whichwayisup Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 She's into you.. And, since she opened up to you .. You need to open up to her and let her know that you're new to all this dating stuff and nervous.. Anyway, ASK her out on another date. She dropped hints. Don't over think everything she says, k. Relax and just enjoy getting to know her.
Leegh Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Sounds like things are going well. One thing to consider would be cutting out lots of text, phone, email contact with women early on. Only call to ask them out, get to know them during face to face time. Dasein - I agree totally with you. I've read so many posts where people text, email, etc. all the time after just meeting, and I often wonder what they talk about on the date!
EasyHeart Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Most all of her behavior indicates that she likes you. The only way for you to screw this up is to act like a wimp and worry about whether she likes you. Your first warning was when she asked you about your week and you didn't ask her to lunch. She was handing you a gift and you slapped it away. Call her ASAP and set up your next date. ASAP. She is not going to wait around much longer while you dilly-dally and wonder if she likes you. If she doesn't, she'll let you know. Don't screw this up.
carhill Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 'My day looks like I'm going to be taking you to dinner at xxx'
ja123 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Sounds like things are going well. One thing to consider would be cutting out lots of text, phone, email contact with women early on. Only call to ask them out, get to know them during face to face time. I agree with dasein. Howver, the reason, I think it is unwise to do that is twofold: 1) When we email or text all the time, it builds expectations to continue doing so even after the relationship have evolved into a more comfortable phase; perhaps, then, leaving one partner thinking that he is being rejected when the amount of texts or email decrease. 2) Most important, texting and emailing someone who is still relatively a stranger feeds into the "fantasy" of who that person is (which is often a projection of one's inner desires and hopes at this point), without getting to know the real person. Consequently, one can get so involved in the fantasy, that when it comes to being together in real life one: a) makes assumptions or falls into denial about the real person; then, b) finds out that the real person and the fantasy don't match and comes away very hurt and disappointned.
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