tanner012555 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 (edited) Well basically we broke up because things were not working out and she was to young. So I decided to just break up and restart in the future when she is older. I have gotten a lot of feed back from this from friends and parents saying that it was a great idea and a great thing that I did. We really loved each other and we still really care about each other and such. So I am just taking it easy for a while might go on a few dates here and there with other girls and stuff. So here is the problem, I don't know what I should do should I just completely move on (which i really don't want to do) or is there a good chance that we will get back together in the future. One of my friends told me that if you just let her live her younger years and don't pressure her then things will be great because you love her so much. Edited November 4, 2011 by tanner012555
Author tanner012555 Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 noone walks away from true love noone walks away from 100k in cash in middle of central park whos running your life, because it isnt you I dont get it ... im in complete control here i made the choice to break up because she was to young... im 19 she is 15.... so how am i not in control... i just broke up with an amazing girl because i love her so much and it wasnt the right time... and you come in here and tell me im not in control.. just move along
Rorschach64 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I feel mixed about this. I agree with Plasma but I also agree with tanner....well balls. I guess best I can sum this up in my own crazy words is yes you don't just walk away from love no matter the hardship, the distance, or the odds. Let me ask though before agree with your side tanner, why weren't things working out exactly?
Author tanner012555 Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 (edited) I feel mixed about this. I agree with Plasma but I also agree with tanner....well balls. I guess best I can sum this up in my own crazy words is yes you don't just walk away from love no matter the hardship, the distance, or the odds. Let me ask though before agree with your side tanner, why weren't things working out exactly? 2 things she was to young... like i said earlier i am 19 she is 15... and the last month before we did break up we didnt get to talk that much and we will going down hill... here is my other thread read it if you like www.loveshack.org/forums/t304220/ and i never siad im leaving her... im still sticking with her until the end no matter what happens. im not finding a new gf until she finnally says that there is no more future for us that is basically it. Edited November 4, 2011 by tanner012555
Rorschach64 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Well hell I do believe that sounds like GIGs but at least she was point blank honest and you did a mutual break up. Very mature for you two, kudos. So yeah I will agree with you full heartedly and if homebrew was around still he would too, you can't force someone to be in a relationship no matter how badly you wish other wise, especially in GIGs. Though the advice I recieved for GIGs is NC, bowing out of her life completely, and if she would contact you be yourself....smart, funny, cocky, a bit of a jerk cause god knows girls love that for some reason and keeps you out of the friend zone, and if she says she misses you say 'you know'. Sometimes ignore her, yeah it is a bit of a game but main idea is to have fun with it. Other than that move on, develop yourself physically and mentally, go to school, and date. If she comes back to you then rock on and if not then oh well you are moving on and doing well otherwise.
Author tanner012555 Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 Well hell I do believe that sounds like GIGs but at least she was point blank honest and you did a mutual break up. Very mature for you two, kudos. So yeah I will agree with you full heartedly and if homebrew was around still he would too, you can't force someone to be in a relationship no matter how badly you wish other wise, especially in GIGs. Though the advice I recieved for GIGs is NC, bowing out of her life completely, and if she would contact you be yourself....smart, funny, cocky, a bit of a jerk cause god knows girls love that for some reason and keeps you out of the friend zone, and if she says she misses you say 'you know'. Sometimes ignore her, yeah it is a bit of a game but main idea is to have fun with it. Other than that move on, develop yourself physically and mentally, go to school, and date. If she comes back to you then rock on and if not then oh well you are moving on and doing well otherwise. Well, I will take your advise, but we will have to see thank you for your time. =)
Rorschach64 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 The right thing he did was create a situation where there was a mutual break up instead of a total nuclear holocaust of a break up that would have probably happened if he tried to keep the relationship going. Best thing he did was just letting her go. You're right plasma, if he hangs around he is just smothering her, she gets to have her cake and eat it too. NC is advised. Plasma can you please explain how this is exactly a self righteous thread?
Author tanner012555 Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 The right thing he did was create a situation where there was a mutual break up instead of a total nuclear holocaust of a break up that would have probably happened if he tried to keep the relationship going. Best thing he did was just letting her go. You're right plasma, if he hangs around he is just smothering her, she gets to have her cake and eat it too. NC is advised. Plasma can you please explain how this is exactly a self righteous thread? I really don't get plasmas problem seriously... and ya im really thinking that nc is the best choice here.
Rorschach64 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Plasma doesn't have a problem, he has an opinion and I'd like to hear it Anywhos, yes NC and work on self blah blah. If you need guidance, support or whatever come back here and let us know any updates.
Author tanner012555 Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 Plasma doesn't have a problem, he has an opinion and I'd like to hear it Anywhos, yes NC and work on self blah blah. If you need guidance, support or whatever come back here and let us know any updates. thank you for your time once again and we will see what happens.
M2155 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Does this really matter? She is 15 and he is 19. How about both of you experience life a little bit before deciding this person is the one to spend the next 80 years with. There are people on this planet that meet the one in their teens, but you go through sooooo many changes growing up and figuring out who you are that yes, you did do the right thing. All that aside, you said it wasn't working out and she was too young, so yes you did the right thing. Should you completely move on? I'm going to take a stab in the dark and say yes because you are 19. Be 19. 19 year old guys should be out and dating. Don't try to force yourself into "move on or wait," how about just letting life happen. If you don't meet anyone and she's still around when she is "older" then great. But you are at ages where you make decisions that change the rest of yoru lives, you don't know where she'll be as an adult. Don't life your life based on what someone else may or may not do. Go ahead and move on. If things come back around for the two of you- because true love will- then good for you. If not, I'm sure you have your whole life ahead of you.
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