AliRose2728 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Ive been with my boyfriends for 4 years and ive never met his friends, i have asked him a few times out of curiosity why he's never introduced me to any of his friends, because its been 4 years! His response was 'because i've never had to introduce anyone to them before'..... im 20 and hes 24, i find his response strange, hes met all my friends, i mean like going back when we were in town we bumped into his friend who he hasent seen in years and he never introduced me to him. I just stood there waiting, watching them talk. Even when they finished talking, he just took my hand and carried on walking, i was so annoyed that he just left me there just standing whilst he and his friend had a good chat. I asked him there and then why he didnt introduce me to his friend just then and he said the same thing, 'because he's never introduced anyone to his friends before,'. Grrrrr but i was right there, he could have done it then. I'm just starting to wonder
carhill Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Four years? So since you were 16? How do you and he socialize without involving his friends? I can't fathom that. My first response is you probably should experience other men; men who are happy to involve you in their social circle and family, even if you're only dating a few months. Canary, meet coal mine.
freestyle Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 OP, it sounds like he's compartmentalizing you--you are relegated to be in one corner of his life only. Part of knowing who someone is, is knowing the kind of company they choose to keep. As Carhill mentioned, you are young--you've got so much more that you could be experiencing, and learning. You may find that you'll be much happier with a man who fully welcomes you into every facet of his life. Not introducing you to his friends is , especially after four years, is what I would view as red flag behavior. Thinking about saving your love for someone who will be so thrilled by you, that they will want to shout it from the mountaintops. A secure man who's in love with you will be fine with that.
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