gd1039 Posted May 21, 2004 Share Posted May 21, 2004 Ok, so I met this girl and by the next day I couldn't remember exactly what she looked like. A few days later we go out, and 2 days later I forget what she looks like again. Is this bad that I can't remember? Link to post Share on other sites
Kristine Posted May 21, 2004 Share Posted May 21, 2004 [color=darkblue]What do you remember most about this girl? Does anything in particular stand out? Because you remember say her eyes, or the sound of her voice, or her quirky sense of humor, it's possible you just don't care about her physical self as much as you usually do and have maybe found the one. Does that make sense? If there is honestly nothing about her that stands out in your mind then she is not the girl for you. [/color] Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted May 21, 2004 Share Posted May 21, 2004 "...she's not the girl for you." Oh, bull. Don't worry about it. Not everything is a sign of something. I'm sure you remember plenty about her. If you need a reminder, call her up. I mean, if you remember her phone number. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gd1039 Posted May 21, 2004 Author Share Posted May 21, 2004 Kristine, mabey you are right that I am not focusing on her physical "assets" and instead I am looking at other things like her eyes, or sense of humor like you mentioend. johan - lol, yes I remember her phone number. I can remember things about her, like conversations we had, her voice, even what she was wearing the last time I saw her. But when it comes to what she actually looks like, its fuzzy. I agree that not everything is a sign, but to me, not remembering what someone looks like seems like it could be something big. On the other hand, you point out that there is plenty that I remember about her, which is good. Actually, it might be better to not remember what she looks like, but at least remember things about her and stuff she told you as opposed to remembering what she looks like and forgetting everything else. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted May 21, 2004 Share Posted May 21, 2004 It actually happens to me every time. You'd think you'd remember every detail of her face, but you don't. I remember thinking it was weird that I couldn't remember my new girlfriend's face very well, and I thought there must be something wrong. That relationship lasted 4 years. Same thing about the girl I'm with now. It's OK, I'm not a camera. Over time her image has gotten burned into my brain. One thing, though: you WILL be able to recognize her next time you see her won't you? That's important. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted May 21, 2004 Share Posted May 21, 2004 I have the same problem. It appears to have little to do with the attractiveness of the person. No, it's not a bad sign. You remember lots of things about her - and you want to see her again, right? Hey, every time you see her it will be a fresh thrill!!! After several weeks, you will learn to recognize her and remember her when you are apart. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted May 21, 2004 Share Posted May 21, 2004 I think it has to do with how the brain works and how we remember stuff. I can much more easily remember a picture of a person than I can the person. I was thinking about this just the other day. I suspect the brain deals with 3D images differently than it does with 2D images. If I try to 'freeze' an image of someone or something in my brain - kinda like taking a photo - it sometimes almost works, but the image I get is never as clear as one of a picture, though none of them are ever as though I was seeing someone right in front of me. Can you clearly picture anybody else in your life? I'm guessing you hadn't even bothered to try before. Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted May 21, 2004 Share Posted May 21, 2004 This is kinda weird. (that is if you are REALLY interested in her.) Ok so sometimes I don't remember faces but that is usually because they are unimportant to me or are pretty much like a wallflower to me that I don't even care to remember. Or it has just been a LONG LONG time since I have seen them. Is this person very plain? I don't understand how someone could completely forget what someone looks like that easily, a person they are supposed to be interested in dating. I'm with moimeme, are you this way with everyone? forgetting faces easily? If so maybe it doesn't have much meaning. BUT if you are usually pretty good about remembering faces and this one just doesn't register very well maybe you are not too attracted to her or you just see her as blending in with the wallpaper. I wouldn't think this to be such a good sign if that is the case. Could you even recognize her in a crowd or if you saw her on the street? Any memory loss problems? Link to post Share on other sites
Author gd1039 Posted May 21, 2004 Author Share Posted May 21, 2004 wow...thanks for all the replies. It is good to know that the majority of you do not think it is a problem. moimeme - As far as always remembering what people look like. I think you are right that it happens alot that people don't remember what any particular person (in general) looks like. For example...people that work with my dad, I rarely remember the combination of their names/faces even though I have been there a reasonable amount of times. YX32 - the questions you ask are the same things I was asking myself. I know this girl is attractive. What I think might be happening is that I know she is attractive so I'm over that and want to get to know her more. Also, I am most likely slightly nervous. So, any attention span I have is going towards listening to our conversations and the rest is lost in my nervousness. Therefore, since I know she is pretty, I dont need to focus on her looks. The downside is that I havent focused enough and can't exactly recall them. Link to post Share on other sites
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