youngskywalker Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Background: I've been with this girl for almost a year. A couple of months ago I lost my job forcing me to move back home temporarily. I have a bright future and a job lined up but it doesn't start for another 2-3 months. So for now I'm just chillin' back and waiting. No problems with money because I have a lot saved up from the good times. In fact, I could live a couple of years without working. Now my g/f just hits me up on how she isn't happy with how I don't have a job and how I'm not involved with community work bla bla bla. She expressed how it bothers her that she doesn't know what I'm doing all day long ect. I do have my minor things I do all day but I feel like she's wanting me to keep a daily log on myself each day and then report back to her with it. She hit me up with all kinds of things she isn't happy with. Mostly social issues? Basically she isn't happy about anything right now.... but still "loves me". She is pretty demanding about what she wants in the future. Such as, being supported at home with kids ect ect. That's fine. I don't have much of a problem with that but now during this slightly dim and stand still time in my life she's freaking out. I'm thinking about telling her if she isn't happy with the way things are and isn't willing to trust me then it's time for her to move on. Any thoughts on this?
Art_Critic Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 If your future is lined up and you have a nice fall back position for money then yeah.. she is way out of line on this one.. The remedy... that is a toughie.. why is that she feels you should have a job to fill the void between jobs ? is this job you have lined up maybe on shaky ground ? If it is a sure thing then I would just tell her that you are taking a couple of months off and leave it like that.. If she has a problem with it then she really is just busting your balls for no reason..
ShannonMI Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Background: I've been with this girl for almost a year. A couple of months ago I lost my job forcing me to move back home temporarily. I have a bright future and a job lined up but it doesn't start for another 2-3 months. So for now I'm just chillin' back and waiting. No problems with money because I have a lot saved up from the good times. In fact, I could live a couple of years without working. Now my g/f just hits me up on how she isn't happy with how I don't have a job and how I'm not involved with community work bla bla bla. She expressed how it bothers her that she doesn't know what I'm doing all day long ect. I do have my minor things I do all day but I feel like she's wanting me to keep a daily log on myself each day and then report back to her with it. She hit me up with all kinds of things she isn't happy with. Mostly social issues? Basically she isn't happy about anything right now.... but still "loves me". She is pretty demanding about what she wants in the future. Such as, being supported at home with kids ect ect. That's fine. I don't have much of a problem with that but now during this slightly dim and stand still time in my life she's freaking out. I'm thinking about telling her if she isn't happy with the way things are and isn't willing to trust me then it's time for her to move on. Any thoughts on this? Good idea. And you have to report to her everyday about what you're doing? Ugh! How irritating. She has some major trust issues. What's up with that?
Emilia Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Do you get restless and annoying when you don't have much to occupy your time? Are you going to move out your parents' place soon? Can't think any other issue she may have. Anything else is unreasonable
Author youngskywalker Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 Pretty much my thought on it all. I think she's out of line and just being impatient with the whole relationship. I see her point of view but patience is a virtue also... isn't it?
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