tlamb93 Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Please bear with me, this is a long story. I need all the advice I can get. I really like my girlfriend. A lot! I have very strong feelings for her, and she has very strong feelings for me. However, she's about two months removed from a serious relationship. We met at a party, and we hit it off immediately. We talked about all sorts of things. We talked for about a week over text and then we hung out for two days on a weekend. I then asked her out, and she gladly said yes. Everything was going well for about two and a half weeks. We were really interested in each other, our conversations were happy and flirty, and I couldn't have been happier. However, for the last 2 weeks or so, things have been ****ty. We almost broke up about a week ago, because she told me that she had things to figure out and that she couldn't put 100% in this relationship. The next day, I asked a friend if she was over her ex-boyfriend, and her friend told me that she wasn't....I was crushed. I haven't talked to her about it yet. We ended up staying together and taking the weekend off from each other. This whole week of school has been cancelled because of power outages, so we then hung out Monday at her house and things went perfect. We cuddled, flirted, went out to eat, and time flew by. I thought things were good again. Here's where things really started to piss me off - We were in her basement and she told me she wanted to be alone at my house the next day while my dad was at work and have me all to herself. I told her I didn't know if that was a good idea because I thought that my dad was coming home early from work, and I didn't want to get caught. She then proceeded to sexually convince me, if you know what I mean, and I cracked. The next day when I asked her what time she was coming over, she said she didn't know and acted like we never made the plans. I told her "You convinced me, you know that right?" and she said "Yeah, but now you have to convince me why I still should." What the ****??!!! Are you kidding me?!! She then told me that I hadn't touched her vagina yet, so there was only enough enjoyment that she could get when we hung out....I then tried to convince her using flirty talk and all that but she gave me bitchy answers like "Cool" and "Okay". We didn't end up hanging out at all. I feel like I'm being clingy and needy, but that's only because she gave me the idea that everything was good with us - Now it seems like it isn't because she's acting so distant and uninterested again. What is up with this girl, and why is she so back and forth with everything?! It's really stressing me out, and I really like her and I don't want things to end...But at the same time, I'm not happy at all right now. I'll be even less happy if we stop dating though...I really have no idea what to do and I'm freaking out, please help!
ChelseaLS Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Please bear with me, this is a long story. I need all the advice I can get. I really like my girlfriend. A lot! I have very strong feelings for her, and she has very strong feelings for me. However, she's about two months removed from a serious relationship. We met at a party, and we hit it off immediately. We talked about all sorts of things. We talked for about a week over text and then we hung out for two days on a weekend. I then asked her out, and she gladly said yes. Everything was going well for about two and a half weeks. We were really interested in each other, our conversations were happy and flirty, and I couldn't have been happier. However, for the last 2 weeks or so, things have been ****ty. We almost broke up about a week ago, because she told me that she had things to figure out and that she couldn't put 100% in this relationship. The next day, I asked a friend if she was over her ex-boyfriend, and her friend told me that she wasn't....I was crushed. I haven't talked to her about it yet. We ended up staying together and taking the weekend off from each other. This whole week of school has been cancelled because of power outages, so we then hung out Monday at her house and things went perfect. We cuddled, flirted, went out to eat, and time flew by. I thought things were good again. Here's where things really started to piss me off - We were in her basement and she told me she wanted to be alone at my house the next day while my dad was at work and have me all to herself. I told her I didn't know if that was a good idea because I thought that my dad was coming home early from work, and I didn't want to get caught. She then proceeded to sexually convince me, if you know what I mean, and I cracked. The next day when I asked her what time she was coming over, she said she didn't know and acted like we never made the plans. I told her "You convinced me, you know that right?" and she said "Yeah, but now you have to convince me why I still should." What the ****??!!! Are you kidding me?!! She then told me that I hadn't touched her vagina yet, so there was only enough enjoyment that she could get when we hung out....I then tried to convince her using flirty talk and all that but she gave me bitchy answers like "Cool" and "Okay". We didn't end up hanging out at all. I feel like I'm being clingy and needy, but that's only because she gave me the idea that everything was good with us - Now it seems like it isn't because she's acting so distant and uninterested again. What is up with this girl, and why is she so back and forth with everything?! It's really stressing me out, and I really like her and I don't want things to end...But at the same time, I'm not happy at all right now. I'll be even less happy if we stop dating though...I really have no idea what to do and I'm freaking out, please help! Aww my friend, I do believe you are just a rebound. She's not over her ex and you're a fun toy when it is convenient for her. NC before it's even more long and drawn out.
mike588 Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Yep it's a rebound. Take it from me,, RUN, I wished I would of and have paid a heavy price for not doing so. My ex was still in love with her ex.
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