GivenUp0083 Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 I met this girl once playing recreational softball on a team set up by mutual friends who are married. She only showed up once and the season is almost over and I'm missing the rest of the games due to schedule conflicts. My only way to communicate with her was over gchat messaging. We exchanged some friendly messages for a few days. I then asked her if it would be okay to give her a call sometime and maybe grab a drink or hang out. She responded with: You are sweet! I am flattered! I am kind of seeing someone right now. It's new so not sure what will happen but we should get together sometime! A softball outing! Would be fun!! Have a good day!!!! I don't really care about the rejection, I don't doubt she's telling the truth about seeing someone, even if she isn't, whatever. Just wondering what my next move is. Try to be friends with her? Stay in touch in case it doesn't work out with her current guy? Of course I'll be asking out other women when I meet ones I'm interested in, but I'm not exactly dying for a relationship right now either, I'm content where I am. What's a good way to stay in touch without being pushy or coming on too strong?
Emilia Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 You don't know whether she is seeing someone or whether she just wanted to let you down gently so I'd say don't stay in touch
Author GivenUp0083 Posted November 3, 2011 Author Posted November 3, 2011 Really? What do I have to lose by staying in touch? If she lied then so what. If she was honest and really wants to keep options open with me in case it doesn't work out with this other guy then what's the harm in that? It's not like I'm putting all my eggs in her basket...
jobaba Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Really? What do I have to lose by staying in touch? If she lied then so what. If she was honest and really wants to keep options open with me in case it doesn't work out with this other guy then what's the harm in that? It's not like I'm putting all my eggs in her basket... A woman in a REAL relationship is not going to pay you any mind. She is dating somebody else and knows you are interested. And if she's lying, same thing. Facebook her and then you'll find out if she's really in a relationship or not. If she is, then lay low until she breaks up, then go for it.
Emilia Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Well the fact that you posted about her shows you are somewhat invested already. Yet she is either with someone or not interested. Why bother? Why risk getting too involved?
Author GivenUp0083 Posted November 3, 2011 Author Posted November 3, 2011 A woman in a REAL relationship is not going to pay you any mind. She is dating somebody else and knows you are interested. And if she's lying, same thing. Facebook her and then you'll find out if she's really in a relationship or not. If she is, then lay low until she breaks up, then go for it. Already friends with her on FB. She's not in a relationship and no pics of her and a dude. Besides, she never said she WAS. Did you read my post? Well the fact that you posted about her shows you are somewhat invested already. Yet she is either with someone or not interested. Why bother? Why risk getting too involved? So if you post something it means your overly invested? Weird logic to me. What is the RISK of getting too involved? I don't get it, how do you get too involved with someone you aren't dating by hanging out with mutual friends? I know many people who started out as friends because one or the other was in a relationship and when they were both available they gave it a shot and worked out well. Why limit your opportunities? Anyway, just wanted to see if people thought she was full of it or not. I don't trust my own judgment when talking to women anymore. They just don't make sense to me.
Emilia Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Sure if something doesn't make sense to you it must be the other person's fault especially if it's a woman. You are thick
Cee Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 She responded with: You are sweet! I am flattered! I am kind of seeing someone right now. It's new so not sure what will happen but we should get together sometime! A softball outing! Would be fun!! Have a good day!!!! If this is verbatim, her response is telling. I see her overuse of exclamation points as insincerity. Have a good day is a lame closing yet she ended it with !!!! I don't normally put much stock in analyzing text, but her response reeks of a sunshine smokescreen. As for what you should do, do whatever you want. Contact her, delete her, whatever. The stakes are low, so you don't risk anything by chatting her up or forgetting she exists.
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