Professor X Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I am a virgin now?....soon i will have 2 inch member and i have in basement with mommy....got any more original stuff woman? any more deflective personal emotional attacks? avoiding topic completely....you go girl! What to do, reality isn't original. That's for you: http://mexalapotis.files.wordpress.com/2010/01/political-pictures-nicolas-sarkozy-smallest-violin.jpg And relax yo, why so mad, you came here to troll and I troll you. loool.
Professor X Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 yeah, the links are a waist of your time, hahahahaha. chill and keep refreshing this page.
Ilovewater Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 (edited) Furthermore, it seems you have picked a man that expects the wife to cough up 50% of the expenses. He may support your unemployment for a little while, but I suspect the tension has to do to with your unemplyment. He probably resents the fact that you are unemployed and that is the root of your problem. I suggest you move out and date a better quality man. I am talking about a man that is committed to you through thick and thin. Since they've only dated a short amount of time, he's done plenty for her including supporting her during her unemployment. Nowhere in her post did she state that he's unhappy about her unemployment. The only problem I perceive is how she took out her frustration on him even though he stuck through tough times with her. You don't think he's committed to her whatsoever? Most men would not support an unemployed girlfriend for months after dating her for only 6 months. If anything, it showed that he was serious about her until she acted out on him. For a man to commit, the woman has to show that she has the qualities of stable girlfriend or wife. It's great that she found a job and is getting back on her feet. However, she needs to first show him that she's a suitable partner because she hasn't shown that yet. Otherwise, blindly committing to someone is just stupid. Edited November 4, 2011 by Ilovewater
Pierre Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 For a man to commit, the woman has to show that she has the qualities of stable girlfriend or wife. It's great that she found a job and is getting back on her feet. However, she needs to first show him that she's a suitable partner because she hasn't shown that yet. Otherwise, blindly committing to someone is just stupid. I agree with your words. Perhaps the issue here is that they moved in together without commitment. Playing house with no commitment usually causes problems. I see it everyday on this forum as well as in real life. Generally women are committed and men are unsure. It is the same story all the time. Women lose when they move in. Guys have no incentive for further commitment once the woman moves in.
Cypress25 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Playing house with no commitment usually causes problems. Actually it doesn't sound like their relationship has any real problems. The only problem is the OP's insecurity. Her boyfriend never said he doesn't want to marry her. He just said he's not sure yet, which is perfectly normal. It's only been a year, that's too early to decide that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. Generally women are committed and men are unsure. It is the same story all the time. Women lose when they move in. Guys have no incentive for further commitment once the woman moves in. I've seen plenty of men propose to their girlfriends after they moved in together. But not after dating for only 1 year! Anyone who proposes that early is insane. Of course he's unsure at this point, the relationship is still young. It has nothing to do with moving in together. It has everything to do with the fact that the OP is jumping the gun.
Pierre Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Actually it doesn't sound like their relationship has any real problems. The only problem is the OP's insecurity. Her boyfriend never said he doesn't want to marry her. He just said he's not sure yet, which is perfectly normal. It's only been a year, that's too early to decide that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. I've seen plenty of men propose to their girlfriends after they moved in together. But not after dating for only 1 year! Anyone who proposes that early is insane. Of course he's unsure at this point, the relationship is still young. It has nothing to do with moving in together. It has everything to do with the fact that the OP is jumping the gun. I agree with your point of view regarding time. Imho, two years is bare minimum. The problem I see is that these folks pretend to be couples when in reality they are just dating. Moving in with no plan por commitment is not a good idea. For example the guy could determine if she can hold a job or not by just dating her 2,3 times a week. If op turns out to be a flake and cannot hold a job he simply stops dating her. However, if he is playing house and not committed he has a huge dilemma. He has to feed her, pay her expenses and support her like a husband would. The problem is, he is not her husband and he is not committed. If he was not playing house he would be better off. it is best not to play house when there is no commitment.
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