Lonelypatheticme Posted May 21, 2004 Posted May 21, 2004 My mom has been the person I've been talking to through my breakup..long story short, he ended it because we'd been fighting over every little thing and it's been about a week since it happened. We have talked a few times, I even went to see him last night and told him I wouldn't be contacting him anymore because it was too hard. Anyway, he's been very understanding with me, he hasn't tried to avoid me when I call & the 2 times I stopped by he was very kind about it but not a word about getting back together. I'll get to the point now....my mom has mentioned calling him, talking to him about everything just to see where he really stands and I'm guessing to try to make him see a different point of view. At first I thought it could be good but now I'm afraid he'd be upset and would feel strange about that approach so I told her not to, don't know if she'll listen as she's very worried about me right now but I get the feeling this could be a really bad situation if she goes forward with it. Anyone ever have a problem like this?
ghett0fab2003 Posted May 21, 2004 Posted May 21, 2004 To be honest, you need to deal with this yourself. if you get someone else to call he will think you wanted mom to call for you because you cannot confronr him yourself. That will most likely make him angry and push him further away. The best advice i can give you is to tell you to give it sometime and just reflect on the situation. If you still feel like tlaking to him in a week or so call him up just to see how he is doing. Then you should find the right time to talk to him and tell him how you feel and find out what he feels, too. You will accomplish nothing if you do not talk to him yourself and tell him how you feel. But, be careful. Do not badger him or you will make things worse and dont have other people badger him either. If you do need someone to talk to him, have it be a friend of his and not mommy.. i dont think very many guys will respond to that very well.
Author Lonelypatheticme Posted May 21, 2004 Author Posted May 21, 2004 I agree with you completely. I don't want anyone talking to him about any of this, I realized fairly quick that it wouldn't be smart, but there are a few pushy people besides the parents who would love to have a talk with him. I've asked them not to but again I'm not so sure they'll listen me and that's my biggest fear. I suppose everyone figures it's over so what harm could it do, I am however hoping for a chance at reconciliation which is why I promised to cut off contact and give him time to himself. It's amazing, just when you think it can't get any worse other people jump in and risk screwing me out of another chance. (1 in a million chance but better than nothing).
ghett0fab2003 Posted May 21, 2004 Posted May 21, 2004 I am going through the same thing right now, so i know exactly what you are going through. Im sure if you tell all the people who want to get invloved what you just told me they will understand. tell them simply that you just need some time to let things breath before you or anyone else trys to get involved. most likely if you give him the space he needs and he still loves you, he will respect that and it will defintly improve any chances to work things out later. sometimes love just needs time. With time love can grow. best of luck to you
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