whoareu Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 I met up with an old friend a couple years ago. We were attracted to each other and he asked if he could see me again? I said yes even though we lived in different states. We got together as often as we could and texted/emailed just about everyday. He never liked to talk on the phone, preferred texting, email, and FB messages. Well everything was pretty good until last May when all of a sudden he stopped contacting me. We were supposed to get together, but he either forgot or changed his mind... don't know. Then he would text me that he was thinking of me and couldn't wait to see me! I said me too! How are you? Never heard back. Waited a week, texted him how was his day? etc, still nothing from him. Waited another two weeks, then just texted him that I guess it's over?? Never heard. Now end of June he posts on his FB that he's "twitterpated" (means infatuated, in love, etc). Wasn't sure what he meant about that. Next day I text him, "can i see you". He immediately texted back a photo of him and he looked annoyed. So I said never mind, you look annoyed, sorry. He said sorry, when can we get together? I said anytime. He said he would try to come up next week. I said perfect! He sent me a smile:). Well next week came and went and nothing. Then on July 4, he texts me Happy 4th, etc. Text back and forth a bit, no mention of getting together. Then two more weeks, he texts "hey stranger, how are you???" I said good, blah blah, no mention of getting together. Then two more weeks or so, same thing... Then another week or two, he texts me again. This time I say why don't you want to see me anymore? Do you have a new gf? He said he started seeing someone but we could still get together. I said, it's okay, just tell me you didn't use me because I really cared for you. I wish you the best.. He said he would really like to see me. So I said okay. Next week he texts me again, no mention of getting together. Instead he's all hot for me and wants to sext. He sent me photos. I was working. So I went on FB and saw that he had declared a relationship with this new woman on 8/11. It was now 8/31!! That was the last I heard from him. Stupid me misses him so much. I thought we had such a connection and time would eventually bring us closer and we'd be together forever. Now I am so tempted to send his new gf a FB message and tell her that he sexted me on 8/31. I just want him to suffer a little like I am.... Should I do this?
stillafool Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 I'm sorry to tell you this but he isn't going to suffer from your actions because he is in love with another girl. You really should have stopped contacting him to see you long ago. It sounds like you have been chasing him and men don't like that - they want to be the one doing the chasing. I think at this point you need to let it go and move on as he is clear with you that he has a gf now and any attention he bestows on you at this point is just for sex on the side. Don't be that person. Move on to someone who wants YOU as their gf. Good luck.
Author whoareu Posted November 3, 2011 Author Posted November 3, 2011 I know, but I didn't chase him. I just wanted an explanation. I stopped contacting him after he failed to visit in June. He initiated contact every time after that. I just want to tell HER what he did so she will confront him. He's a coward and a jerk and I want him to suffer the consequences.... then I will move on...
melenkurion Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Sure, get revenge. But "Living well is the best revenge" (George Herbert). Hurting them doesn't help you. Concentrate on you.
geegirl Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 You were not his girlfriend. You both were not exclusive. He had no obligation to you except the occasional meet up. You allowed him to set the terms. You on the other hand didn't set yourself any boundaries and chose to chase this man and be dangled on a stick. You're upset he didn't chose you. Save yourself from looking like sour grapes and move on. You can tell her, but chances are he will butter her up and she will look at him lovingly again.
Mcnulty Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Do it! He messed you about bigstyle and has tried to chaet on his now GF???? Go for it and THEN live your life without him! Probably of this opinion as I'm feeling raw and angry at the betrayal I'm going through. I thought about revenge for the first time yesterday...hmmm
ChelseaLS Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Don't do it. It's bad karma and not worth the time or effort. He's a dirt bag.. let him live his dirt bag ways. You don't want to be aprat of that. Live your life and work on you, become happy and strong. Good things come to those who are kind. He will get his, and seeing you moving on and happy with definitely sting.
stillafool Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 I know, but I didn't chase him. I just wanted an explanation. I stopped contacting him after he failed to visit in June. He initiated contact every time after that. I just want to tell HER what he did so she will confront him. He's a coward and a jerk and I want him to suffer the consequences.... then I will move on... Reread your first post and you will see you have texted him about 5 or 6 or more times to get together. He didn't respond to each of your texts but maybe 1 or 2 and then he broke the date by not even showing you enough respect to let you know. Still you continue to contact him. That is chasing. I think guys have a hard time coming right out and rejecting a girl. It makes them feel bad to make you feel bad. His not contacting you on his own or responding to your contact is him telling you he isn't interested. Plus, when he posted on FB or whatever that he has a new gf you shouldn't have contacted him ever again. You cannot make him suffer any consequences because the feelings aren't there. He will explain to his new gf his situation with you and she will be flattered that he wanted her. Just let it go. I'm sure there are many guys out there who would love your company.
Author whoareu Posted November 3, 2011 Author Posted November 3, 2011 Reread your first post and you will see you have texted him about 5 or 6 or more times to get together. He didn't respond to each of your texts but maybe 1 or 2 and then he broke the date by not even showing you enough respect to let you know. Still you continue to contact him. That is chasing. I think guys have a hard time coming right out and rejecting a girl. It makes them feel bad to make you feel bad. His not contacting you on his own or responding to your contact is him telling you he isn't interested. Plus, when he posted on FB or whatever that he has a new gf you shouldn't have contacted him ever again. You cannot make him suffer any consequences because the feelings aren't there. He will explain to his new gf his situation with you and she will be flattered that he wanted her. Just let it go. I'm sure there are many guys out there who would love your company. I don't think I chased him. He was the one that initiated all the contact. And I didn't know he had a girlfriend until 8/26 only because he texted me and I asked. Then HE texted me on again on 8/31. Last time I initiated any contact was June and I just wanted an explanation. Anyway, I won't do anything. It's not worth it. He's a jerk and she'll figure it out on her own soon enough.
geegirl Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Waited a week, texted him how was his day? etc, still nothing from him. Waited another two weeks, then just texted him that I guess it's over?? Never heard. Now end of June he posts on his FB that he's "twitterpated" (means infatuated, in love, etc). Wasn't sure what he meant about that. Next day I text him, "can i see you". He immediately texted back a photo of him and he looked annoyed. He doesn't respect you enough to even text back and you go back as ask if it is over. Still, he doesn't respond. And you go back again and text him about whether you can see him. That is chasing. Complete douche. Don't ever let someone treat you like this. Set boundaries for yourself as to what you will accept and what you won't.
Mcnulty Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Changed my mind....DON'T do it!! I've re read the post....Karma....don't mess with that stuff believe me, cos it will get you! Yep, move on, get excited about your freedom, embrace your future and screw him, like you said, she will suss him out if she has anything about her, keep out of it and jkeep him away from you permanently. The best revenge is to kepp your dignity, remain silent and try to find happiness...that's exactly what I've done and am trying to do. Best of luck Miss.
Rorschach64 Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Still hell to the no, you know why? Because all you will do in the end is regret it and most importantly treat others as you wish to be treated, no matter what. Revenge's pleasure is only so very short lived and doesn't matter how craptacular you were treated, never worth it.
LelouchIsZero Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Changed my mind....DON'T do it!! I've re read the post....Karma....don't mess with that stuff believe me, cos it will get you! Karma, lol. Back OT: What do you personally think will happen if you tell her about the "Sexting" and etc?
Author whoareu Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 You are right! It is tempting though isn't it?? ;-)
Author whoareu Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 ha ha, at first I wasn't sure what 'hell to the no' actually meant. Yeah, he's not worth my time and energy....
melenkurion Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Yeah, he's not worth my time and energy.... You're right there!
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