Owl Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Rooke, I'm going to politely disagree. I think that you should not increase the drama by getting the police involved. I have some difficulty understanding why you didn't just change your contact information and delete the emails unread. I understand even less why you took the opportunity to take a shot at his wife (telling her that he is a dirtbag but good enough for her but not you). What did she do to you to deserve that? It's also clear from some posts you've made in this thread that you were still holding out some hope that he would get thrown out by his wife based in your actions. It doesn't make sense when you profess to see him as "not worth peeing in if he were on fire". Please understand that I'm not trying to be bitchy, Im just not sure you are being honest with yourself about your motives and so that's obviously going to negatively affect your judgement about what to do next. It's very clear that this man deeply hurt you, and I'm very sorry for your pain. I know how hard it can be to not respond to someon who has hurt you and the temptation to hurt them back. But you can rise above all this. Please do yourself a favor and really and truly cut off this mans ability to contact you and get away from this situation. I didn't catch that before. Excellent point. The wife didn't deserve the insults or personal attack there. The xMM most certainly did, but his wife didn't...and that might have been the basis/impetus for his going to the police. It might have even been considered justified, since that makes it look like you "went after" the wife, rather than just "outed" his continued attempts of contact to his wife.
Brokenlady Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I didn't catch that before. Excellent point. The wife didn't deserve the insults or personal attack there. The xMM most certainly did, but his wife didn't...and that might have been the basis/impetus for his going to the police. It might have even been considered justified, since that makes it look like you "went after" the wife, rather than just "outed" his continued attempts of contact to his wife. Unfortunately, it makes the OP look like she's the harasser and is just bitter that he stayed with his wife, even if this is not the case. If it were me as the OP, it would irk me that I handed him another opportunity to make me look like the bad guy on a silver platter. I hope she doesn't give him the upper hand again.
26pointblue Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 What you did to his wife was really mean & low. Everyone advised you in your previous posts to block all methods for him to contact you and/or go to the police about HIM. Instead you took it out on his poor wife. To me the letter you sent her sounds like you're bitter & angry that she still has him & you don't. It's realy hard for me to feel sympathy for you when you keep coming back here w/ the same story, which involves YOU not taking your power back & ensuring he is out of his life, & instead doing things to meddle in their lives all over again. No one else can give you any advice . . . & your only question is whether he will still contact you again after all of this. It sounds to me like you want him to keep contacting you & you want his wife to get rid of him. If you just focus on yourself & moving on, you won't have these issues. It's been a really long time & you're still stuck on him . .. this isn't healthy. 1
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