george_scruff Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 First of all - I'm a girl, so my username doesn't confuse you... I have also posted this on the Friendship forum, but I figured this was sort of to do with dating as well... I think! I have just bought my first house and am moving in tomorrow. My best friend is going to be living with me. On Tuesday, a guy that I'm currently seeing wants to come around for lunch and we want some time alone, if you know what i mean. Nobody knows i am seeing him as he is a workmate and NOBODY would approve of our relationship for also other reasons, including my friend. I know for a fact, she will be there, but I want her out for a couple of hours! But... I don't want to tell her why because she thinks I'm not seeing anyone and I'm not known to be with guys so if i tell her a guy is coming around, she will think something is very strange and i don't want her asking me any questions about him. I WANT TO KEEP IT A SECRET. If she finds out who I'm seeing (he is a well known person), a lot of things can stuff up, including my job. I thought about buying her a movie ticket, but there's no movies on that she will like. Have you got any suggestions for me? Other than telling the truth, because i do not want to go there at all. Thank so much
musemaj11 Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 If you have enough to buy a house, you should have enough to take your guy to a cheap motel.
Lucky_One Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Bottom line, when you have an affair with a married guy from work, you would be WAY better off to not have him in your home if you have a roommate. If it is this imperative to keep it a secret, then get a HHonors account and find a Hampton Inn; you might as well take advantage and rack some points up.
Trimmer Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Fake a radiation accident. Watch "Hunt for Red October" for helpful hints. But really, you can either (a) have tight secrecy, or (b) have him in your new house. You have to choose which one is your priority. If it's (a), then I agree with Lucky_One: go get a hotel room - problem solved.
oaks Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Sorry to hear that you can't trust your best friend! I'm guessing you can't go to the guy's house? A hotel, then!
grkBoy Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Just tell her you've been seeing a guy and wanted an afternoon alone with him to get it on. If the guy is married though...then you have issues and need to deal with that.
CarrieT Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Fake a radiation accident. Watch "Hunt for Red October" for helpful hints. A better submarine movie for radiation scenes is K-19, Widowmaker...
Professor X Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Sorry to hear that you can't trust your best friend! I'm guessing you can't go to the guy's house? A hotel, then! Ofc she can't. He's married lol.
Trimmer Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Ofc she can't. He's married lol. While that's a reasonable guess, we can't assume that. In the past, she has had a much older lover, unmarried, who she was keeping secret from her parents, etc. because both she and her lover perceive their relationship to be "socially unacceptable." George - can you clarify? Are you still with that guy, and is that why you are still sneaking around in secret?
Author george_scruff Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 Thanks for your thoughts guys. My previous relationship is over and some of you have guessed, yes this guy is married. I know it's extremely wrong but at the moment I'm enjoying every moment I have with him and just want some peace and quiet. That's another reason why I don't want my friend finding out I'm involved with an affair
chphan Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Thanks for your thoughts guys. My previous relationship is over and some of you have guessed, yes this guy is married. I know it's extremely wrong but at the moment I'm enjoying every moment I have with him and just want some peace and quiet. That's another reason why I don't want my friend finding out I'm involved with an affair I hope one day when you fall madly in love with someone or get married to someone, that person cheats on you so you know how this guy's wife must feel knowing you are doing it to her with her husband. And I will leave it at that.
Eddie Edirol Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Your first mistake was buying a house with your friend. You have no privacy when you have a roommate, you have to accept that when you live with someone. So you will never be able to keep this secret from her. You have two choices, either get your own apartment, or hope she will keep your secret.
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