Maria32 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Hello, I am new to this site and I just need someone to talk to. My boyfriend and I broke up about 4 months ago. Since then I've been begging this man to be with me but he refuses. Saturday I seen him with another woman and it's been tearing me apart. I've been trying to let go and move on with my life but I'm having such a hard time. I cry everyday and It's getting to the point where I can't function and don't want to do anything. I've even thought about suicide because the pain is just so bad. He is constantly on my mind and I can't seem to shake him. I'll go two to three weeks with NC then as soon as he contacts me I'm right back to square one. I just want these feelings to go away. I'm starting to think that something is wrong with me because I can't seem to get out of this depression that I'm in. I've tried everything I can to move on, but I just can't. I don't know what else to do....
mike588 Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Hello, I am new to this site and I just need someone to talk to. My boyfriend and I broke up about 4 months ago. Since then I've been begging this man to be with me but he refuses. Saturday I seen him with another woman and it's been tearing me apart. I've been trying to let go and move on with my life but I'm having such a hard time. I cry everyday and It's getting to the point where I can't function and don't want to do anything. I've even thought about suicide because the pain is just so bad. He is constantly on my mind and I can't seem to shake him. I'll go two to three weeks with NC then as soon as he contacts me I'm right back to square one. I just want these feelings to go away. I'm starting to think that something is wrong with me because I can't seem to get out of this depression that I'm in. I've tried everything I can to move on, but I just can't. I don't know what else to do.... I'm sorry your going thru this pain, most of us here are/have felt the same way, you are NOT ALONE!! You need to stop all contact with him!! Everytime you talk to him as you said it puts you back at square one,STOP NO MORE!! I know the feelings your having, crying everyday, depression but alot of that has to due with you continueing to talk to him. Take it from me I was dumped 3 months ago and have been in strict N.C. for about the same amount of time and it has helped so much. Sure I still miss her, sometimes I'll still cry and feel depressed but I don't want to talk to her (sometimes I do ha) but I know it will just set me back. It's ok to have these feelings, go ahead and let it out,, cry all you want/need to. Look into seeking professional help. All this begging and pleading your doing is only pushing him further away,, is this what you want?? and it makes you look weak and PATHETIC , not a turn on!! I assume he knows you want to get back together so if you want ANY chance of getting him back, STOP ALL CONTACT with him NOW!!! This new woman may,, may be a rebound and they usually don't last long, so grief all you need, move on, maybe after awhile he will start to miss you, wonder what your doing,, make yourself mysterious to him, arouse his curiousity,,,, Begging, pleading is not the thing to do.
Moetato Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 The path to moving on is a very long and painful one, indeed. Do not set yourself back by talking to them, its like consuming a poison. Each day is a necessary hurdle to purge yourself of that poison. Surround yourself with a support system- whether it be friends, family, or professional help, or a combination thereof. And like mike588 said, you are not alone in this!
Author Maria32 Posted November 3, 2011 Author Posted November 3, 2011 Thanks so much for your advice. It's nice to know that I'm not alone
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