nyckidd Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 While in the relationship I was getting "bored" with my girl. I should a lot less affection, and the sex got boring too after a while. Now after she breaks it off (for a whole slew of reasons, probably including some from the above), I miss her, and our sex and affection soooo bad. Why would this be? Anyone else ever feel that way? I mean I could care less while we were in the relationship, so why is it so appealing now?
ladyravenloft Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 The thrill of the chase, perhaps. Could also be you consider her 'yours' still and don't want another near her.
b_80_h Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 While in the relationship I was getting "bored" with my girl. I should a lot less affection, and the sex got boring too after a while. Now after she breaks it off (for a whole slew of reasons, probably including some from the above), I miss her, and our sex and affection soooo bad. Why would this be? Anyone else ever feel that way? I mean I could care less while we were in the relationship, so why is it so appealing now? Hmm, I see a few there. Allow me to infer a little bit. First, you got bored, probably because you're the type who enjoys an exciting relationship. If it got too comfortable, you probably wanted something new. Second, you mentioned sex. Hell, I'm recovering from a break-up myself, and I've found I miss the personal connection that my ex and I had sexually. If getting out there and sexing someone up doesn't alleviate this, it's probably because you miss the bond. Also, the other guy is right. You probably enjoyed the chase and the positive anxiety that came with a fresh relationship. When the anxiety went away, you may have started wanting something new, or you started to lament what you and her WERE...
M2155 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Typical cliches! You don't miss a good thing till it's gone. We want what we can't have etc.. And maybe you're just so used to having her that it's just something new to adjust to.
mike588 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 While in the relationship I was getting "bored" with my girl. I should a lot less affection, and the sex got boring too after a while. Now after she breaks it off (for a whole slew of reasons, probably including some from the above), I miss her, and our sex and affection soooo bad. Why would this be? Anyone else ever feel that way? I mean I could care less while we were in the relationship, so why is it so appealing now? I think that happens in every relationship after the Honeymoon Phase ends but it's up to you/her to try to keep the 'fire going" by doing things/different things together,( communication is so important) and not to take each other for granted,, easier said than done I know. I think sometimes people purposely jump from relationship to relationship because they feed on/love the honeymoon period and know it will get "boring" when it's over??
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