ladyjane83 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I'm just after some stories really.... Has anybody ever tried to give a relationship a go after finding out their partner cheated on them quite significantly? How did it work out? Everyone says relationships are never the same again and therefore dont work. Did anyone agree to give their bf/gf another chance because that seems a much better/easier option than going through the pain of missing them/losing them....but then once the initial effort and relief has subsided then realised that they dont feel the same/cant move past it?
Dorian85 Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 I'm just after some stories really.... Has anybody ever tried to give a relationship a go after finding out their partner cheated on them quite significantly? How did it work out? Everyone says relationships are never the same again and therefore dont work. Did anyone agree to give their bf/gf another chance because that seems a much better/easier option than going through the pain of missing them/losing them....but then once the initial effort and relief has subsided then realised that they dont feel the same/cant move past it? hey there I have a story that pretty much answers all your questions. Take this as a personal experience though. Not all relationships end up the same way. Anyways, I was with my g/f for about a year and a half. She went off on a work/school related trip. long story short, she cheated on me. First by kissing another guy, then breaking up with me....and then hooking up with that same guy. So essentially she didnt want to feel guitly about hooking up with the guy while we were still together...but in my mind, that was just as bad. Anyways, when she came back 2 months later, we tried to work things out and give it another shot. We both thought that the time apart would have made us change for the better...but to b e honest, it was never really the same ever again. There was still a lot of resentment (mostly on my part) towards the whole situation. In my mind, 2 of the most important things to me are trust and loyalty. Both of those were completely damaged when I found out about what she did. Hearing it all in detail was probably one of the most heart-wrenching experiences of my life. Is it possible to work things out? Hard to say really. Its all depends on what your values are in a relationship. I myself find that trust is usually #1 with me in a relationship...and once trust is broken, then things become a lot more difficult to deal with. So yes, it will be very hard at times. You may even think that you will never find another person like that ever again. But as I'm sure you've read on this site, lots of people are going through break ups. You just have to learn how to cope the best way possible.
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