herc3352 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I figure I could add a "success story" to everyone wondering whether they will get a second chance or not. Me and my most recent ex have been broken up almost 3 months and I have been NC for 1.5 months. However, I recently got a text from an ex from 5 years ago saying "hey, it's been forever what have you been up to?" and this is where it begins. When we first started dating I was 19, she was 20; She had just gotten out of a relationship of almost 3 years when we started hanging out. Everything was fun with her, we went clubbing almost every weekend until I finally was spent on the club life. We eventually started dating and I was convinced that she was the love of my life (sound familiar?), but after about 5 months of officially dating she broke up with me and I was devastated. Here's the kicker though, I didn't find out until a few months later that she had never broken up with her boyfriend and I was "the other guy" so I went straight to no contact and hadn't heard from her since till about two weeks ago. We only talked through text and she now lives in South Carolina while I live in Georgia. She wanted to hangout and I told her she would have to come stay at my place because my work schedule is a lot more hectic than hers. When she finally got here, she showed up drunk off her ass and acted the same way she did when she was 20. The first thing she did when she got here was try and get intimate to which I turned down. After spending almost a day with an alcoholic, I realized she was rather annoying and was less than caring that she had drove 6 hours to spend time with me. As it turns out though, the whole reason she drove to see me was because she wanted to tell me face to face that I was the best "boyfriend" she ever had and she misses me like crazy and that she's done nothing but think about me for a few months and wanted to get back together (that also being the reason she was drunk...nervousness). I tried to be respectful of her motives but politely turned her down and said that I had grown up in the last five years, but obviously she hadn't and that she was the one who dumped me only to realize it was a mistake, so I had to decline her offer. Her original plan was to stay three days and just hangout with me and then go back home, and I planned on it staying that way. I told her she needed to sober up while I was at work for a couple of hours and we could go out for dinner and a movie; this is when it turned nasty. She threatened to pepper spray me if I left for work and then said she'd do it again if I didn't have sex with her. That I OWED it to her to at least have sex with her since she drove such a long way lol. At this point, I had had enough. I told her she needed to have someone come pick her up and take her back to SC or I'd call the cops and let them settle it. Her friends came and picked her up and I've gotten all these texts/emails telling me how I'm such a horrible person for leading her on (which in NO way did I lead her on; it was a mutual agreement to hangout) and that I will always be an ass. In conclusion, you may think that the love of your life is being lost, but within a few months/years, you may also realize that you're better off without them (as I obviously did).
Emilia Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 In conclusion, you may think that the love of your life is being lost, but within a few months/years, you may also realize that you're better off without them (as I obviously did). hahaha hilarious end to the story. well, not all of us have exes like her, especially later in life but point taken
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