ch47wife Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Back-story: When I got preggo with our son, my husband and I decided to get a more "family appropriate" car. We only had a Toyota Celica at the time. He found one that he liked on Craigslist. (His taste and my taste are very different when it comes to cars. The car that was to be bought was to be for me.) He went to go check it out. He was supposed to go lok at it, test drive it, then come home and discuss it with me. Ha. He came home with the car. A week later, the car started f-ing up...big time.....That was a little over 2 years ago. We still have the car. Currently: Over the past month, there's been nothing but problems with the car, mainly revolving around it dying. Now, this is supposed to be "my" car. The car that I drive around town in with our 2 year old son. My name has never been put on anything regarding this vehicle (or any for that matter). I've asked my husband multiple times to take me out to learn to drive the Toyota, only to receive some laim b.s. excuse for why he doesn't "feel" like doing it. And heaven forbid I ask to take "my" car into the shop to make it safe to be used. (its a guy thing, I get it) Well, last night, i remembered that we had forgotten to go to the store and pick up my meds and a box of tissues. He tells me to take "my" car. Reluctantly, I do. Lowe and behold....I made it about a quarter of the way to the store before the p.o.s. died on me in the middle of the intersection. I was able to limp the car to the store and park it. He dropped the kid off at the neighbors, and "came to my rescue" (after a very irate phone call from yours truely). Now, here's my deal...: We own two cars and a motorcycle. Everything is in his name, including the one car that I drive. He doesn't want to teach me to drive his car in case if something happens. He wants to spend a small fortune on his car and motorcycle, to have them supped up and modified to stardom. He refuses to take the car, that I have to drive around with our child in, to the shop to get fixed. And the mere mentioning of selling it to get a better one, makes him cringe and starts a fight between us. Am I so wrong? Am I impeding on his manly territory or something by asking for a little piece of mind when i have to go take care of something? I realize that because he's the one paying for it, that he has the final say, but that doesn't mean that I should be completely dismissed like i was some 1950's bimbo or something. I just don't understand why it's such a big deal.
norajane Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Apparently, you are married to a selfish and controlling ass. If he won't get the car fixed or trade it in, what is stopping you from taking the POS to a dealer and trading it in for something that runs? Used cars at dealerships often come with warranties. You can buy a car all by yourself, and put it in your name. All you need is your checkbook, drivers license and ID. Drive it home the same day.
carhill Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I suggest being proactive. Ask around and find a good independent mechanic. When the car acts up, simply have it towed to the shop and repaired. The family foots the repair bill, since it's a family car. If the car has proven to be a lemon, simply get it fixed so it is sellable, then sell it. This is how I handled my exW's Acura for the most part, except for simple maintenance, and I can repair most anything mechanical and do it for a living. When her car broke down, she simply called AAA, had it towed and repaired and paid for it. Over and done. If she needed a rental car, she got that. If it broke down at home, she used one of our other cars. It's not rocket science. Since your H isn't proactive and cooperative, it's up to you. That sucks. What's the worst that could happen? He'll divorce you. Think about that.
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