will it be a motivation for him to think clearer about us??!!

[grilled cheese]

well,, my boyfriend of 4 years suddenly ended things up, saying he doesn't love me anymore and that he is not sure if he can love me the way he did when we started, and he needs a break to clear up his mind... i posted my problem here before,, here is a link to it http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t304213/

 

yesterday, after 2 weeks of not initiating contact with him on bbm, he start talking to me and ask me whats new in my life and what i have in mind for future events like new years and stuff like that, and if i can travel and meetup with him somewhere so we can enjoy time together!!! as if were were best friends and nothing ever happened between us!! i kept answering him normal answers like no i cant due to some reasons, not him. the call went well.. until he asked me to open up to him.. and say everything i ever wanted to say since the breakup...

 

the only thing i was able to say that moment,, you have hurt me.. he said yes i know and im sorry for that,, its better than i keep stringing you along and leave you in the end, you will be more hurt.. i tried to tell him that our situation is fixable, and that we only need to work on our relationship a little bit more, i was reasonable, i didnt ask for much,, i followed logic, told him that we were apart for a while and that made us feel cold inside, we should spend more time together.. he said that he is afraid if we did that and we tried to work on it,, he will keep feeling this way,, and he will again hurt me and never feel love for me again.. and that he is not sure of what he wants,, he is soo confused inside, and have bigger problems to think about than our relationship..

 

we kind of went mad on each other, then he said i thought u would be a mature about this end give me time to figure out if i really love you, or im just used to you being around!!! although i never pushed him to talk to me again.. he also said that he needs more time to figure out if he have feelings for me or not,, he also mentioned something about meeting other ppl and i too do it,, coz it will make us really know if we love each other!!

 

i really had no comments,, i was surprised of the way he talk,, its like i never really knew him.. so he ended the call with,, im here for you whenever you need me, we dont have to cut relations with each other, i just need time to know how i truly feel about you!!

 

after 2 hours of this call i was really annoyed of how he treated me,, so i talked to him on bbm, please i need to delete you from here, he was surprised and confused of why i wanna do that,, i said that he don't need to take it too personally, and that if i really wanna know if i love him or not i have to delete him and take a space away,, and it will be easier for me to move on without him here around, he cheered me on my move, he was glad im doing it!! i said that maybe breaking up was the best thing we ever did. and deleted him from everywhere...

 

 

i know i talked a lot,, but,, will he ever think of me again!!?? i sure love him deeply,, i cant just forget about him and move on,, but after what i did,, will he ever consider contacting me again???

[norajane]

he also said that he needs more time to figure out if he have feelings for me or not,, he also mentioned something about meeting other ppl and i too do it,, coz it will make us really know if we love each other!!

 

This is an immature perspective; he's trying to create fake desire by being apart. Mature people actually discuss the concerns in the relationship, whatever they might be.

 

Since he told you he fell out of love with you, I would suggest that it is best for you to move on. No one can predict whether he will think of you or not, so you really should not put your life on hold waiting for him. He will be dating other people so there is no point in waiting for anything with him.

 

Consider this the end of the relationship and move on. I know this hurts now and will for a while, but once you get past the worst of it, you might be surprised to find out how many more mature men there are out there that you would enjoy dating. Don't hang around for this ex of yours who treats you badly.

[grilled cheese]

im trying to move on,, its just too hard, i cant think sleep or eat,, he will not be in my future, he will not be my husband, i wont grow old with him and he wont be the father of my kids

 

i just need to know if anyone ever heard of a story like this that ended up the couple going back with each other again.... and that men change their minds

[norajane]

im trying to move on,, its just too hard, i cant think sleep or eat,, he will not be in my future, he will not be my husband, i wont grow old with him and he wont be the father of my kids

 

You are having such a hard time with this, not because of HIM, but because you have to let go of your DREAM of you and him, your dream of your future together.

 

But you don't have to let go of your dream - just not with him in that picture.

 

i just need to know if anyone ever heard of a story like this that ended up the couple going back with each other again.... and that men change their minds

 

I'm sorry, I can't help you with that.