TooAccepting32 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Ok, I've been dating this guy. He's sweet, supportive, sensitive, caring, intelligent, etc. He would be the logical choice for a long term partner. I find his intelligence attractive and we really "get" each other, but physically I'm not very attracted There's nothing that really strikes me about him physically, he's effeminate, and also a horrible kisser. I think I like STRONG men, but Looking back most of the guys I felt that way about were not really strong, but just overcompensating for inner weakness. What happens when things aren't shiny and new anymore? There's not much attraction there to begin with. To what extent should people prioritize compatibility over physical attraction?
jobaba Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I'll be perfectly honest with you. A LOT of women wouldn't even begin to date a guy they had no physical attraction to, so you're pretty cool in my book just to start, since you were at least able to consider it. The rest is really up to your own preferences. As far as compatibility vs attractiveness, compatibility has always increased the physical attractiveness of someone for me. Like when I meet and like a girl for her qualities, and I finally fall for her, she appears so hot to me, I want to screw her so bad. She looks better than Kim Kardashian to me. I've shown photos of girls I've been gaga for to friends and they have been like, "Eh, she's OK." But, that's just me...
Lobouspo Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I think compatibility and physical attraction go hand in hand. If you're not "feelin"it for this guy now even with all of his good qualities, its just not gonna suddenly appear. Best to let him know now how you truly feel, so he does not needlessly get hurt. If the kissing is bad? Sex will probably be disastrous. I have been on both ends of a situation like this, and it does not get better.
orangelady Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 It depends on how many guys you are meeting in your life. If you only have one guy whose mind you are attracted to a lot but is ugly, then you may just fall for his physical appearance later or you'd just overlook his ugliness. I am guessing you only find this one guy interesting from his personality. Let's say you find 10 other guys equally interesting as this one (even though all are not so cute) you wouldn't even be contemplating about this one guy. Sometimes its really about the numbers.
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