2sunny Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 break up with your GF then - and ask your OW to end her M so she can marry you. see how it plays out. IF she intends to be with you - she will make it happen. the way things are now is all based on lies... not a good start. harming your GF while involved with this MW isn't best - let her go - be honest - tell her you've been attached emotionally, physically and mentally to another gal for some time. THAT would be a good start at honesty. can you do that?
bentnotbroken Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 break up with your GF then - and ask your OW to end her M so she can marry you. see how it plays out. IF she intends to be with you - she will make it happen. the way things are now is all based on lies... not a good start. harming your GF while involved with this MW isn't best - let her go - be honest - tell her you've been attached emotionally, physically and mentally to another gal for some time. THAT would be a good start at honesty. can you do that? Are we placing bets?
Author daaplemet Posted November 3, 2011 Author Posted November 3, 2011 That may be true, but you would be a rare person. My cousins have nothing buy disdain for the man who kept trying to get them to call him daddy when he'd intruded on their home life. They never were comfortable. I would never want anyone's kid's calling me daddy except my own. Her boys have a father and according to her a good one. If we ever got together I would not interfere in that bond. I've decided To put some space between myself and the MW. That's the best move for me now and hopefully will give her some clarity. Thanks for everyone who offered their opinions. You all are wonderful souls and wish each of you much happiness.
Woggle Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 What makes you think she won't eventually do the same to you?
whichwayisup Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Is there any chance that I can be happy with her and her children and make an honest life for us together without destroying myself, her, and her children's lives? Absolutely 100% NO. I can guarantee you there is going to be so much pain inflicted. If you love her, let her go. She isn't yours for taking and she shouldn't be offering herself to you. For the sake of those little ones, walk away. They will never see you as their 'daddy' and don't you dare think you can take their daddy's place. Please let go of this fantasy land that you are believing in. Reality is, everybody (her husband, her kids, your girlfriend) will be completely devastated and you and your MW will not have enough glue strong enough to hold things together, stay together. Her whole life and your whole, doing a complete 180 and total change.. No way in heck will you have this perfect family where THEIR kids accept you as their daddy. Sorry to be blunt. If you want a real chance at your OWN family, dump the MW, work things out with your gf, confess to her and see if she wants to work it out with you, if she doesn't, let her go and find yourself a SINGLE woman who can give you your own flesh and blood. It's unfair of you to want her (MW) kids as your own.
norajane Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 If you want a real chance at your OWN family, dump the MW, work things out with your gf, confess to her and see if she wants to work it out with you, if she doesn't, let her go and find yourself a SINGLE woman who can give you your own flesh and blood. It's unfair of you to want her (MW) kids as your own. Yeah, but first go into therapy and work out your issues!! Don't sucker some other woman into your world unless you have a whole heart to give. And don't have children until you yourself are healthy and can teach them how to navigate their lives with integrity.
robf1971 Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 . any chance that I can be happy with her and her children ? Actually my small children drive me mad quite often, but they are mine and I love them with every fibre of my being. I could NEVER parent someone else's kids as they would simply drive me mad, and I couldn't have any love for them. Also once they grow up and realise you are the guy who tore their family apart I wouldn't hold out much hope for them loving you either.
nofool4u Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Can it ever be simple for us? Can it work? Can it work for someone that is a proven cheater, and someone that doesn't care that he is sleeping with a married woman? sure:rolleyes:
frozensprouts Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Are we placing bets? okay , this may be in "poor taste", but is there anyway i can get on on that? 20 bucks says it won't work out ( okay, so if i win, no one can actually send me 20 bucks:laugh:)
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