Teddi6832 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Hello, I have a situation. Could use a little feedback. Kind of your gut reaction to my story. Been working with a guy for the past 3 years. We don't work for the same company, but I am a vendor that works pretty closely with him and his sales team I am not his boss or superior, but I am not his colleague. His boss would more be considered my peer. I have always thought he was really handsome and great, but only recently (past several months) have started to feel a little something "more" I believe that we have a strong physical attraction; "crazy chemistry" Do you think that kind of spark be entirely one-sided? I know he thinks I am physically attractive, pretty, in great shape, etc. as he has said so several times over the years in different circumstances (not anything weird) In the past couple of months we have gone out for dinner twice after work (not planned. Just last minute "wanna grab a bite? kind of thing) Both times we have basically shut the bar/restaurant down talking for hours (7pm to 12am or 1am) we are friends and talk about everything from movies, food, working out, family, past relationships, work, grief (we have both lost people close to us) He has a 4 year old daughter from a previous dating relationship. They haven't been together for 3ish years, primarily because they have very different views on religion and life. When I have asked if he would like to be with the mother of his child, he says he doesn't know that it would work. He just wants to do what is best for his child. Mother of kid has dated and I believe is currently in a relationship. But apparently says things like "Maybe we should try to be together" off-handedly every once in a while. Second Happy Hour outing he held my hands several times while we talked and very deliberatly put is legs around my leg under the table. So, basic attration touchy feely stuff, just like when you feel compelled to be touching someone. When he walked me to my car - nothing. Not even a hug, which we typically do as a hello and goodbye. I was like, "Wah wah wah." I had thought it was heading in a different direction! lol But, he just put me in my car. Texted me that night that he had fun and mentioned a "next time" After the second outing, I sense he is more distant. Takes longer to respond to messages. Stays pretty "business-like" Saw him two weeks later and he just lights up when he sees me, greets me with a big hug, same old chemistry, and again all is natural and nice. He doesn't tend to text or call outside of work other than the few times we have seen each other outside of work situations. So, given all of the above information - if you were my friend - what would be your impression of the situation? Is this a "He's Just Not That Into You" kind of story? Thanks for any feedback T-
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