AHardDaysNight Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Wait, are you dating Quietguy? LOL Anyway, I'd seriously question his mature state. I don't have stuffed animals in my house, although I have several real cats, and they share the bed with me at night.
zengirl Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 My BF has toys and stuffed animals all around his house. The stuffed animals are like ninjas or the guy from Fallout (video game) or whatever, and they aren't old. At all. He bought them as an adult. Granted, he doesn't sleep with them, but I don't find owning toys odd. And, if they're old toys for memory's sake, it would be a good thing---a sentimental man is a nice change sometimes.
oaks Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 My BF has toys and stuffed animals all around his house. The stuffed animals are like ninjas or the guy from Fallout (video game) or whatever, and they aren't old. At all. He bought them as an adult. Granted, he doesn't sleep with them, but I don't find owning toys odd. And, if they're old toys for memory's sake, it would be a good thing---a sentimental man is a nice change sometimes. Does he have one of these? http://www.toyvault.com/cthulhu/Cthulhu%20Medium%20-%20Large.jpg
ShannonMI Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 What do you guys think of an adult man (40s) who has several stuffed animals on his bed (like 3)? I assume he sleeps with them. Personally, I don't judge this, as I hug a pillow at night. But just wondering what people's reactions might be to this. Ahh I would be turned off. Like he's a man-child or something. Not appealing at all. I have a huge stuffed bear on my bed and I'm 32, but girls are different. A 40 something man shouldn't be sleeping with stuffed animals. It's very odd.
ShannonMI Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Wait, are you dating Quietguy? LOL Anyway, I'd seriously question his mature state. I don't have stuffed animals in my house, although I have several real cats, and they share the bed with me at night. I was waiting for someone to say that!! Hahahahahahaha :laugh:
Pierre Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Ahh I would be turned off. Like he's a man-child or something. Not appealing at all. I have a huge stuffed bear on my bed and I'm 32, but girls are different. A 40 something man shouldn't be sleeping with stuffed animals. It's very odd. The OP does not know for sure if he sleeps with stuffed animals. It may simply be decoration. As I said it is much worse offense to sleep with live animals.
ShannonMI Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 The OP does not know for sure if he sleeps with stuffed animals. It may simply be decoration. As I said it is much worse offense to sleep with live animals. I know. I read your previous post about fecal matter being carried into the bed by animals. That's disgusting, but won't stop me from having my Miloh in bed with me. And decorating with stuffed animals is just as odd IMO. Decorate with some pillows.
Stung Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 He's never had kids. He mentioned one was from his mom, etc., I'm assuming they have sentimental value. I duno. He said if he knew I was coming over he would have put them somewhere else. lol. I didn't push it. I honestly don't think it's a big deal but I'm wondering if I am just so smitten with the guy that I'm not being sane about it. The main impediment they might serve to me would be to my level of sexual attraction, i.e. stunting it automatically. If you are already smitten with him, I wouldn't worry about it overmuch. It seems they have sentimental value. It's a little weird all by itself, yes, but weird isn't synonymous with bad--and there are worse ways to be weird floating around out there. And while it would raise my eyebrow, there are obviously numerous dissenting opinions. My BF has toys and stuffed animals all around his house. The stuffed animals are like ninjas or the guy from Fallout (video game) or whatever, and they aren't old. At all. He bought them as an adult. Granted, he doesn't sleep with them, but I don't find owning toys odd. And, if they're old toys for memory's sake, it would be a good thing---a sentimental man is a nice change sometimes. My husband has a sentimental streak, and it's something I quite enjoy about him. He has several items from beloved deceased relatives, all of our early love letters, old toys of the kids' and clippings of their baby hair. He also has a few geeky, ironic/humorous action figures, in his office, and a bunch of board games etc. I might be splitting hairs, but that all feels pretty different to me from sleeping with stuffed animals at night. Oh well, different strokes for different folks. I myself never formed attachments to stuffed animals or blankies or the like, but my living pets used to sleep with me at night until I had the baby in the room with me, then they got exiled quick for bothering the little guy. My husband breathed a sigh of relief at not having the Cat Brothers wrasslin' at 4 am, so I accepted that even though our son has his own room now, the great Feline Bedroom Exile was for life. C'est la vie.
Stung Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Ahh I would be turned off. Like he's a man-child or something. Not appealing at all. I have a huge stuffed bear on my bed and I'm 32, but girls are different. A 40 something man shouldn't be sleeping with stuffed animals. It's very odd. I know people always say that what is acceptable for men and women is different in this regard--and so presumably most people believe that--but I would be just as turned off to find a female dating prospect in her 30s or 40s kept stuffed animals on her bed, honestly. It would be much worse if she had some kind of massive pink cabinet full of perfectly preserved dolls all waiting to come alive at night and stab me in the eye, though.
KathyM Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 The stuffed animals probably have sentimental value and he doesn't want to part with them for that reason. Doesn't mean that he sleeps with them. I would be a little concerned though, about his maturity and level of insecurity if he does, in fact, sleep with them at his age. He might just put them on the floor when he sleeps. You may want to ask him delicately about those.
ShannonMI Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I know people always say that what is acceptable for men and women is different in this regard--and so presumably most people believe that--but I would be just as turned off to find a female dating prospect in her 30s or 40s kept stuffed animals on her bed, honestly. It would be much worse if she had some kind of massive pink cabinet full of perfectly preserved dolls all waiting to come alive at night and stab me in the eye, though. Well I would turn you off then because I have a HUGE bear on my bed. I don't cuddle up with him at night, but he's still there. And the doll thing is totally creepy!! :eek:
ascendotum Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I guess I'm judgmental, because I would find that weird... but for a girl, too. Some of my friends from college had stuffed animals they'd sleep with. It's just not my bag. For a man, I'd be turned off immediately, unless there was some sentimental story to it that was extremely applicable. It took a few posts, but here was one that matched what I thought, and really what I expected the majority of women to think, unless it was 1 stuffed toy from his childhood that had sentimental value. I have heard conversations over the years from women on this topic and they would freak out over going back to a guy's place and finding stuffed animals on his bed. It was a turnoff for them. If they knew beforehand they would not date the guy. The women even considered it a kooky characteristic for an adult woman to have a bed full of stuffed toys. (the few women I've known with bedroom chock full of stuffed toys to have issues, immature, anxiety, depression, clingy) We're talking multiple stuffed toys here on bed and not a few action figures or pop culture collectables on a shelf.
grilled cheese Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 i wouldn't worry about it,, maybe they hold some kind of sentimental meaning to him..
AHardDaysNight Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 For the record, I have figurines of celebrities. Like I have one of John Lennon, one of Michael Jackson, one of Avril Lavigne, one of Sarah Michelle Gellar/Buffy, etc. I certainly don't sleep with them, though. I haven't slept with any stuffed animals since my balls dropped. Have you checked his balls, OP? Perhaps they haven't dropped yet?
anne1707 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 For the record, I have figurines of celebrities. Like I have one of John Lennon, one of Michael Jackson, one of Avril Lavigne, one of Sarah Michelle Gellar/Buffy, etc. This possibly counts as the most disturbing thing I have read on LS. Ever.
ShannonMI Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 This possibly counts as the most disturbing thing I have read on LS. Ever. Oh stop!! Nothing wrong with loving The King of Pop. I love him too although I do not have a doll of him. To each their own. I bet that doll is worth a lot of cash money right about now!!
AHardDaysNight Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Not a MJ fan, then, perhaps? That's okay. We just won't get along, then.
AHardDaysNight Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 For the record, I think collecting figurines of pop musicians is healthier than collecting ones of Darth Vadar. At least Michael Jackson was real.
anne1707 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Oh stop!! Nothing wrong with loving The King of Pop. I love him too although I do not have a doll of him. To each their own. Hey, I was a fan when he was as honest to himself as he could have been with that upbringing. I grew up to the Jacksons. I just hate what he became (and that was not all his doing)
ShannonMI Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 For the record, I think collecting figurines of pop musicians is healthier than collecting ones of Darth Vadar. At least Michael Jackson was real. And he was cool as hell!! I wonder how much that doll is worth. Have you looked into it? Is it an old doll?
AHardDaysNight Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Hey, I was a fan when he was as honest to himself as he could have been with that upbringing. I grew up to the Jacksons. I just hate what he became (and that was not all his doing) Michael Jackson was NOT, I repeat, NOT, a pedophile! If I did believe he was, I would not support him. If evidence came out tomorrow that supported that he was a child molester, I would throw away all of my Michael Jackson books, magazines, cds, DVDs, and vinyl records. He wasn't, however. There is not a shred of proof that states that he was guilty, and in fact, all the evidence points to him being set up...twice. Now, if you want to argue about plastic surgery, drug addiction, and anorexia...you got me there. He had BDD (Body Dismorphic Disorder), which is why he got all that plastic surgery. His drug addiction started when he was severely burned in the Pepsi commercial in the 80's, which led to him battling an addiction to painkillers...and obviously, that addiction killed him. He also didn't eat properly, out of BDD again, which led to his body deteriorating. But he was not a pedophile. He had issues, but those are the only ones. And he was a genuinely creative and gifted individual.
AHardDaysNight Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I haven't looked into how old it is, Shannon. I would never sell it anyway.
missed_theboat Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 My ex slept with his dog, but the dog was on top of the comforter most of the time, and I didn't mind it, only because I LOVED that dog, dearly. I was never a dog person myself, before that lovely dog. I let my kitty sleep with me at night. Yeah they don't wipe their asses, but humans have a lot of nasty **** going on, too-and to a lot of people, pets are part of the family. So, I guarantee it won't kill people to have a little contact with some bacteria. We get more where that came from in our daily lives anyway. I never worried about my ex's dog's ass, or his smell, because he was a clean little boy! Stuffed animals make me think issues, too. I think there must be some unresolved childhood deal going on. That, or he's trying to remember someone (either an ex or a loved one who passed away). I definitely had stuffed animals on my bed--until I was eight!
anne1707 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Did I mention the word paedophile? No. However the man certainly had serious issues and problems forming adult relationships. I was actually trying to stop a clash but you have just jumped down my throat! Totally uncalled for.
Pierre Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I think it is odd for folks that cuddle with live animals in bed to criticize a couple of stuffed animals in bed.
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