youppi666 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 (edited) A friend tipped me that a mutual friend had attraction for me. So we had a coffee date. The week after that, we went to a dinner date and I think she expected us to kiss but we ate lots of garlic. I set up a 3rd date the next week and we went to see a movie, then went to a bar until like 1am. I drove her back to her place and we finally kissed. Then we had 2 weeks of midterms where we couldn't see each other at all. But we kept having fb chats and we really click together we have the same interests, same sense of humour. And also she mentionned a couple of times implicitely that we would have sex at my place next time. Now after those midterms, I write to her (we both hate telephones) what nights I'm free for this week because we said we were going to meet. I receive a reply saying that she needs to put a hold on those dates and that she is confused and that she wished she wouldn't have to say that. I initially wrote back well you wouldn't be confused if I was a person for you. Then I wrote that I understand her confusion even though it's frustrating and that we can meet again but not on a date but just moments together without attachment. She wrote back that yeah it would be a good idea since we have the same humour and idea of fun. Her reply sounds more meeting like friends and nothing more without saying so. So here it is, is there a way I can get her back where we were? Please don't tell me to let her go, I want to try something. Should I wait 2 weeks, invite her for drinks or an activity not far from my place and try to kiss her or what? I really need help. Edited November 2, 2011 by youppi666
jerbear Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 So here it is, is there a way I can get her back where we were? Please don't tell me to let her go, I want to try something. Should I wait 2 weeks, invite her for drinks or an activity not far from my place and try to kiss her or what? I really need help. There is a way to get her back only IF SHE wants to. Kissing her might work however is disingenuous when you say you are ok with a friendly meeting but treat it as a date. Usually if they flake, they keep on flaking. You can try for drinks or an activity but it won't last long.
Author youppi666 Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 I'm not trying to trick her I didn't say it's a friendly meeting but one without attachment as far as the relationship goes. I'd like for us to meet, have fun and if I feel a connection, try to kiss her. If I don't, I don't see how I can get that back. Any idea on how to get the mood back? She was telling me how we'd meet and dropped sex references and then BANG without me even having the chance to make a mistake.
dasein Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Keep asking her out for specific things every week or so. It's really all you can do, no magic formula. But why not spend the time finding more women who might be truly interested without this hassle? And for future reference, as long as you BOTH eat garlic, onions, stink cheese, turnips whatever, you can still kiss fine. Go to the bathroom, use the dental floss that you always carry in your pocket on dates, and wash your hands and around your mouth carefully. You can also use a napkin as a toothbrush. Get club soda, scrape your tongue with your teeth, swish it around inside your gums and lips. Carry a "moist towelette" or two in the foil packages on dates for nasty bathrooms with no soap.
Trovador Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I think there is another man in the picture... whenever something like this happens is because there is another suitor, an ex or a bf... My advice, whether you want to continue seeing her or not, is to chill out... nothing you can say or do will improve the situation as it is she who has to work out her own problems...
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