Crazy ex stalker girlfriend.. !

[Shontay]

Ok so I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now...I met him in august this yr at a church picnic..Anyway we exchanged numbers he seemed like a cool guy we hit it off pretty good.

 

At that time we had actually hung out at one of his brothers house's had a nice time...Shortly After we met I started getting weird anonoymous calls...I would answer and no one would say anything this happened reapeatedly then afterwords I found out that it was his ex calling me...Still to this day I dont know how she got my Number:confused:...

 

Anyway long story short I really Like this guy his name is Mike..He was with his ex for three yrs and obviously she cant let him go...There was even an instance where she followed us to a club...she confronted me about my relationship with him....And I told him to handle it..But he is just so non-chanlant about the situation saying that" Its out of his control"....And he asked me why was I taking it so personally:confused:...Like Im over-reacting or something..Has anyone else ever has this expierence Or anything Like it ..please share I have no one else to talk to about this..

 

thanks,

[dasein]

Well that's one experience I have not had personally, but your guy sounds like a dud for not accepting his responsibility to prevent his ex from stalking and bothering you. You are saintly patient, I know very few people who would put up with this kind of thing for very long or at all really.

[Shontay]

I know And I feel Like A Idiot when I think about the fact that I hung around...I guess it was because I liked Him..but At this point Im over it I cant deal with the DRAMA..

[fallenenvy]

WELL

 

i think my bf quite possibly has the most psychotic pain in the ass bitch that ever roamed the dating world.

 

I will give a short synopsis.

 

We will call him B and her D.

 

B was my best friend.. and i loved him.

Apparently he was dating D and i didn't know. D managed to split us and make us never talk again ( lonnnggg story.. stupid bitch).

He goes from colorado to jersey to be with D on his last dime.

D was NOT 18 (like him) like she said. She was late 30's with 3 kids.

B was stuck there as he was out of money.. depressed.. and gave up on life and stayed for 2+ years.

B snapped one day and had some money stored and left her... and went back to colorado. ended up seeing me again.

It is obviously more complicated than that but i want to keep it relatively short.

 

anyway... the bitch starts calling everyone he knows and inevitably starts stuff with me (again.. happened years before too.. but yet again part of a long story).... Reads my blogs, digs into my personal life and starts trying to bring me down for deciding to see him again. She called him several times a day every day even though he wouldn't answer. Got onto his online accounts... etc. if it's crazy and stalker like.. she did it.

 

To top it all off the crazy woman goes 1800 miles out to colorado.. tracks him down and shows up unannounced at his house.. and broke in when he refused to grant her entrance.

 

i REALLY hate her for everything she did to his life not to mention the fact that shes a woman pedofile. she really messed up his head and its litteraly taken years for things to go normal with him again.

 

After breaking into his house and getting the cops called on her she went back to jersey and continued to whine about him leaving their "fantasy" life behind....

 

So to my point i feel you on having the crazy ex stalk you. i hate women that do this... honestly i can't blame your guy for having a hard time knowing how to handle it or what to say.. so my advice.. handle it yourself. Be the bigger btch. Make sure this woman knows her advances are not welcome and the calling and stalking is not acceptable and you will take action if it doesn't cease.

 

You don't have to put up with it. She confronts you again tell her how it is. He's yours and she's not welcome.

[elfling]

Wow that's creepy. Probably not many people have had your experience. This type of behavior is probably more common when women suspect their husband or bf is cheating but this seems to be a totally different situation. Is it possible he started dating you before they broke up?

 

One thing you can do is have her phone number blocked so she can't call you from her phone. Most phone companies allow blocking of numbers. It won't stop her from using a pay phone but still might help.

 

Also, keep a record of the time, date, and nature of her harrassing phone calls and other stalking actions, in case she takes things a step further and escalates to worse stalking behavior and you need to provide evidence of a pattern of stalking to show police.

 

Hopefully she will come to her senses and stop before it comes to that.