infinity8245 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 So, I broke up with my ex girlfriend of 4+ years a few months ago, and I'm finally feeling that I'm in a place to start dating again. I've been out of the dating game for some time, and could use some advice and guidance while I figure it all out again. Last Monday, I got the number of the cute waitress at a breakfast place. She just finished school with her nursing degree and is waitressing while looking for a permanent position at a hospital. I learned that she had an interview at a hospital in the town where I live, and thought that it might be the perfect opportunity to ask her out. Before I left, I asked her if she wanted to meet up for dinner or drinks after the interview while she was in town. She told me she couldn't because she had to pack that night because she was leaving for LA to visit friends the next, but that we should do it some other time when she's back in town. I asked for her number and got it. I wished her luck on my interview and went on my way. I haven't contacted her since I got the number, but was thinking of doing so tomorrow, when her interview is (that will have given 2 days since getting the number). I was thinking to reach out to her either before or after the interview to either wish her luck again, or ask how it was. I'm trying to decide between the two options. And then, there's the question of school I call or text? Any thoughts?
dasein Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 1. Don't start dating at all until after the first of the year. Holiday spawned relationships start to taste like stale, cheap fruitcake in February. They are also FAR more expensive for men than relationships started at other times of the year. Use holiday socializing to meet women for AFTER Valentine's. 2. Waitresses, bartenders are a bad bet, not a guaranteed failure, just bad odds for someone getting back into dating after a LTR. Call and ask her out, no congratulations (too familiar). If she says no and doesn't offer a definite alternative this time, done. Move onto next. Remember the scene in "Adaptation" when dealing with waitresses, and if you haven't seen it, rent it. 3. Explore single women in or tangential to your existing social circle. Going out at night and trying to meet women cold in bars and clubs today is absolutely brutal for men and skewed entirely towards women. Try civic clubs and charities also. Good luck.
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