headsashed Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Good news = after multiple rejections i got from new houses i finally got 1 today and its made me so happy,even though its going to be 3-4 weeks before i can move in. I suppose i can cope living here for that long. Bad news = Ive had a crappy few days,house hunting gone wrong and most off all alot of memories seem to be hitting me about my ex,i dont know whats brought these on but ive felt so low for a few days. It feels as though we broke up only yesterday and i just dont know why. Ive stuck to NC too for 2 weeks now,woohoo,apart from today, she has something of my sisters and my sister rang me today to get it back for tonight so i txt my ex and told her that i would be an hour,she replied asking if had had moved and where,i just said ill txt you when i set off,she replied with ok and stop avoiding the question and tell me,i ignored that,anyway i txt when i set off and got no reply then i txt her when i got to hers,no reply.i waited for 10 minutes and nothing so i left. I dont know if she was sleeping or just ignoring me,this was nearly an hour ago and still havent heard anything,well thanx you silly bint lol. I know i shouldnt have txt her but i had no choice as my sister wanted her stuff back. During the 2 weeks NC my ex has txt me a few times but i never replied,she also rang me twice over the weekend and i didnt answer so maybe this is why she is ignoring me lol.
geegirl Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Was this "stuff" so important to your sister that she would have you derail your need to NC and heal because she needed it so badly. Maybe your sister could have contacted her, if you told her that you can't cross that boundary? After all, they must have had a relationship since they shared things with one another.
Author headsashed Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Well,my sister would kill her,not literally but you know what i mean,and thats why she asked me to get her stuff back. My ex did txt back just after i posted on here saying " i was asleep" not sorry dean i was asleep or anything like that. The heartless cow,even though i broke it i dont actually feel any worse,maybe it was because it wasnt for my own needs that i had to break NC? oh well,roll on 3-4 weeks and then i move away totally,lovely house too,its a million times better than where i live and its the same price,how could i not say no lol.
geegirl Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Well, you sound great and completely ready to move on so kudos! New beginnings. 3-4 weeks will fly and please don't ever reveal your addy to her! I have a strong feeling this is a push and pull game. She chased you. You ignored. You made contact. She ignores. Who's next? Her ego is fed a little and once she needs attention again, she will make contact again. But you already know what to do!
Author headsashed Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 (edited) yes i do,ignore,and believe me geegirl,she will never find out my new address. because im struggling financially atm my parents have offered to help out and my mother said today that if SHE starts coming round then they will stop helping me,so its either let my wierdo of an ex round and struggle again or carry on moving on with my life and let my parents help until im back on my own 2 feet. I cant wait either for my mobile to be cut off totally because then ill get a new phone and number and she wont get that either,as my mother said today "new start,new number,new life" Oh and im ready to move on,im still hurting lots and lots,it still feels fresh but ive got some kind of feeling inside of me thats giving me a glimmer of hope and energy now. In the end i will win this battle,and she knows it,what also helps is im losing all my respect for her as a person because shes changed into someone i dont like,heartless,wierd,mind game playing,feels like she dont care type of person. Its her loss because i know im a nice person and i always give my all,someone is going to respect that 1 day. Edited November 1, 2011 by headsashed
ChelseaLS Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I think the reason all these memories of your ex are flooding your mind is because you are taking that next step... Moving. At least that's how it was for me. My ex and I lived together 4.5 years and once he broke up with me it took me two weeks to pull myself together, find a place and move. I was staying with friends before I moved, but the actual moving... It feels so final and in this case it's not a good feeling. It brought a ton of memories back for me. You can do it, it will suck and hurt, but you'll make it. Good luck to you.
Author headsashed Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 Im actually expecting to hurt once i move but i also know that no doubt it will be the final healing process for me,im not exactly moving far from her but its the other side of the village so the chances are we wont really bump into each other. Maybe your right about whats triggered these memories off,i dunno, i was doing ok up until friday when she turned up at my house before she went on her trip and she looked stunning,even though i stood my ground and acted all cool,it still broke my heart again,atleast now she cant just turn up,she wont know where i live,she wont have my new number. That actually reminds me,we have alot of mutual friends so i need to be careful now whom i share my new information with cos no doubt 1 of them will let slip. Its funny how the tables turn though,i used to chase her and now im slowly slipping away she keeps just popping up but im not biting.
ChelseaLS Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Haha good for you. Perhaps that will happen to me, but I'd bite lol I won't lie.
Bobby289 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Another twist in the "roller coaster" ehh. You are moving on, new place, new people, sticking to NC, I think you are doing really well man. Triggers are everywhere I noticed even in the most minuscule event can spark a memory. If I find the off switch ill be sure to share. Congrats on the new place though!
eleanorhurting Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I am so happy for you! I feel like you are moving on! Doing things for you! Dont break NC i dont care the whole sister thing. Shes trying to reel you in because she misses you stroking her ego.
Author headsashed Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 Haha good for you. Perhaps that will happen to me, but I'd bite lol I won't lie. you can bite me anyday chelsea haha hope that made you smile lol. and thanx everyone,i do feel like im moving on,slowly but surely,maybe soon enough ill be on here posting my success story lol,ive just got out of bed for a quick smoke and my phone is in my bedroom,i just got a txt,its like 1:26am,hmm who could this be lol.
Author headsashed Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 It was my ex that had txt,asking if what id done with my female friend..wtf? lol, i ignored it anyway. Today i finally got confirmation about my new house,the woman said upto 6 weeks before its ready,i dont mind tbh because i know it will be perfect and ready for me. Earlier i was down the woods with my dog and who did i bump into,the ex haha,she was with her dog,i told her that i want the stuff back and on the way home she can get me it,she said ok,while walking back she was moody as hell with me,i asked her what was wrong and she said nothing im just always moody,she even said she had heard that id been out with someone this weekend,a male friend,well i was with him but only for like half hour,i asked how she knew this and she said someone told her but she isnt telling me who because i never tell her anything,lol,i was like ok then,i acted all normal with her,never mentioned the relationship or anything,we got to hers,i got my sisters stuff and she then said " u can txt me if you want" ..well sorry love but i aint going to,why be moody with me? anyone would think id done something wrong,or maybe its the fact that im not falling for her anymore,who knows,or maybe its that time of the month lmao.
ChelseaLS Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 It was my ex that had txt,asking if what id done with my female friend..wtf? lol, i ignored it anyway. Today i finally got confirmation about my new house,the woman said upto 6 weeks before its ready,i dont mind tbh because i know it will be perfect and ready for me. Earlier i was down the woods with my dog and who did i bump into,the ex haha,she was with her dog,i told her that i want the stuff back and on the way home she can get me it,she said ok,while walking back she was moody as hell with me,i asked her what was wrong and she said nothing im just always moody,she even said she had heard that id been out with someone this weekend,a male friend,well i was with him but only for like half hour,i asked how she knew this and she said someone told her but she isnt telling me who because i never tell her anything,lol,i was like ok then,i acted all normal with her,never mentioned the relationship or anything,we got to hers,i got my sisters stuff and she then said " u can txt me if you want" ..well sorry love but i aint going to,why be moody with me? anyone would think id done something wrong,or maybe its the fact that im not falling for her anymore,who knows,or maybe its that time of the month lmao. You know it's kind of funny, when my parents split up, my dad was the one to leave. It was a bit messy, and mean stuff was said and my dad went spinning wildly out of control. Anyways he ALWAYS knew what my mom had been up, who she was out with, yadda yadda yadda. He would pretty much spy on her, even though he was the one that left. They leave, but they can't seem to deal with the thought of you moving on.
Author headsashed Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 It was pure coincidence that we bumped into each other because none of us knew either 1 of us would be down there. I just dont understand why she would be moody with me and for the life of me i cant think who has told her that i was out with this guy friend,infact this guy came and sat with me for like 30 mins telling me he and his gf had split up,that was about it really,oh and the next day he came up talking to me in the pub,the only thing i can think of is that his mother is best mates with my ex's mother,but i just cant see him gonig upto his mother and saying "i was out with dean saturday night" ..theres no 1 else that could have said anything,who knows,unless shes been asking about me,you gonig to bite me yet then chelsea? haha
Author headsashed Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 Hey. I used to be in your spot. My girlfriend left me for another man and I was alone and depressed. One day I was browsing the web and I found this site- http://tips2getyourexback.blogspot.com/. Thanks to the free tips that site provided me and my girl are back together and happier than ever. Hey, it worked for me, maybe it can work for you too. Good luck bull***** ****e,buy the book etc,theres no trick to winning your ex back,if they love and want you they will come back no matter what.
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