snowloverbaby Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 (edited) My BF broke up with me about a month ago. We had a few issues that were small but became bigger. We dated about 5 months. Its been a tough several weeks for me especially because he seemed so cold and uncaring and avoided me. We are talking again. Hes just starting to text me back more and we are talking about hanging out again and he has even called me a few times. Basically he has been texting more sweet things and has told me that we will figure things out and let things fall into place and that hes still here. Whatever that means. He has also told me he misses me but doesnt want the hurtful things anymore to happen between us. He lives about 65 miles away. I stressed to him that we need to see each other soon as its been a long time and we tried this past weekend but he had to work. Now we are on for next weekend again to hopefully meet. He says it will happen. I really wanna be with him again because it was great for a long time and we have an amazing connection. Always did. He told me he still feels that connection we have and wants to keep it. We both want to earn trust back. Neither of us cheated but just did stupid things to push each other away. Anyone been here and can help me go forward and be there but not too passive or too aggressive? I wanna pursue him but not hurt things. Edited November 1, 2011 by snowloverbaby
ChelseaLS Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 My BF broke up with me about a month ago. We had a few issues that were small but became bigger. We dated about 5 months. Its been a tough several weeks for me especially because he seemed so cold and uncaring and avoided me. We are talking again. Hes just starting to text me back more and we are talking about hanging out again and he has even called me a few times. Basically he has been texting more sweet things and has told me that we will figure things out and let things fall into place and that hes still here. Whatever that means. He has also told me he misses me but doesnt want the hurtful things anymore to happen between us. He lives about 65 miles away. I stressed to him that we need to see each other soon as its been a long time and we tried this past weekend but he had to work. Now we are on for next weekend again to hopefully meet. He says it will happen. I really wanna be with him again because it was great for a long time and we have an amazing connection. Always did. He told me he still feels that connection we have and wants to keep it. We both want to earn trust back. Neither of us cheated but just did stupid things to push each other away. Anyone been here and can help me go forward and be there but not too passive or too aggressive? I wanna pursue him but not hurt things. Anything is possible. A LDR is a tough one though. I would say if he is truthful about wanting to get back together then I would start slow and sit down and discuss the needed changes and boundaries in the relationship. I would also not jump back into it, start off courting again and take it slow. You both need time to work on yourselves if you plan to have a healthy relationship.
Author snowloverbaby Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Thank you. The not seeing each other was difficult and did lead to the break up. He was more comfy with not seeing me as much but i didnt like it. Im very affectionate and it bothered me. I can see him more now as my schedule has freed up. He has kids every other weekend so this weekend he has them and he works one day as well. Next weekend he doesnt have them. I guess we ill just see what happens but it feels good because he at least wants to try to work towards something which the last few weeks he was total NC with me. He kept telling me to chill out and relax and we would see what would happen. Wish me luck...
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