majomparade Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 The problem lies with that she hangs out with me and our friends regularly, but I don't feel that this cgroup is really that strong. It's just sorta to hang out...and I find that I have a lot in similiar with her. I never was interested in her until recently when I thought she was sending signals of interest. But when I tried a little, I started to realize that it's more of just that she's so good at making people happy that a lot of people like myself might misinterprete it. So apparently a lot of guys like her. My landlord, I know he likes her, somewhat. My housemate got the "let's be friends" from her. In the group that I hang out with, I can sense some like her. In fact, she's the binding force of everything. People hang out because of her. And I hate that. Because it's pathetic. So I'm thinking if I should go for her. I have to say, I don't think I have a particularly high chance of success. It's probably average. But it might complicate things with my "friends". Some of them I'm not worried...they have "class". Like my housemates...I know they will not be petty and try to excommunicate me or whatever. Some however...man, for this group, i'm not counting on making true friends. Not that they're bad people...just not people I trust as much as my close friends. And...thing is I'm not crazy over her. I believe I can live without her. But I kinda want her. No, i'm not planning on playing with her. It's just that I'm at a stage of...I like her...I think we have a lot in common...and I want to be really good friends with her...but good friends that are platonic have to take time to develop...and the situation probably will not allow for that...and why shouldn't I date her? Am I being an *******? Am I doing something stupid by risking friendships and changing the dynamics of the group by trying (and succeeding or failing)? Am I just wasting time thinking and not doing?
oldshirt Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I can't really address any of your specifics but as some general advice that I wish people had told me in my youth is this - if someone catches your eye and makes your heart go pitter-pat, ask them out. Seriously, what do you have to lose? What do you have to lose by asking her out for some ice cream or a pizza or whatever? What do you have to gain by doing nothing? If you spend some time together and get to know each other and things don't progress or don't work out, so what?? At least you got out and had some fun and got to know somebody. that's fair enough don'tcha think? Don't be a pussy, just ask her out and see where things go.
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