Milsch Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I've posted a few times already, so won't go into lots of detail here. Basically my ex-gf and I were together for a year. It was something of a rebound for me and I did things that upset her (notably staying in - platonic - contact with an ex-ex). She says she loved me, but made herself stop after she thought I was going to break up with her. She then dumped me, saying it no longer felt right, and quickly started seeing a co-worker. They're now in the 'serious' kind of relationship she was clearly after with me, but which I was too blind to see. Meanwhile, in my mind I went from casual to in love with her (truly in love) but I never told her until after she first raised the possibility of a BU. I love her so much and see clearly now what a fool I was and how our total lack of communication killed the amazing connection we had (I've never got on so well with another person - we were incredibly good together). We're in nc because she said it wasn't right for us to talk now she's with new guy. My question is this: has anyone had someone come back in similar circumstances? I know I have to get on with life and am focusing on that. NC, painful as it is, does help. I truly feel this girl is 'the one' though. I realise it's out of my hands, but I do want her back. As I say, I'm getting on with my life... even going on the odd date here and there and if I meet someone else I have that level of connection with, I'm not going to let pining for the ex get in the way of that. After all, she might end up marrying this new guy for all I know and I can't wait around forever. However, as I say, I do believe that she is the one. We didn't drive our relationship into the ground and there is still plenty of mutual attraction between us, but she fell out of love with me and I can fully understand why. So yeah, anyone been in / heard of similar situations where things worked out?
jordjones Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I had a crazy European girlfriend and we lived together for about a year. Halfway into that arrangement, we got into a huge fight and I "broke up" with her, though I really didn't want to (she just pushed me to that point). Within a week or so, she vindictively started to sleep with this other guy that was her study partner beforehand, literally the next guy available. It was hell because we lived together, and she would oftentimes rub it in my face. It took about 45 excruciating days before she came back. Although we were together for another 4-5 months, the relationship was dead by this point. The only thing that made her come back, however, was when I essentially disappeared. Hardcore no contact and living at a friends house. That drove her crazy and back into my arms.
Author Milsch Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 I had a crazy European girlfriend and we lived together for about a year. Halfway into that arrangement, we got into a huge fight and I "broke up" with her, though I really didn't want to (she just pushed me to that point). Within a week or so, she vindictively started to sleep with this other guy that was her study partner beforehand, literally the next guy available. It was hell because we lived together, and she would oftentimes rub it in my face. It took about 45 excruciating days before she came back. Although we were together for another 4-5 months, the relationship was dead by this point. The only thing that made her come back, however, was when I essentially disappeared. Hardcore no contact and living at a friends house. That drove her crazy and back into my arms. Yeah, well I'm in pretty hardcore NC right now. But I don't think it's gonna work. This was quite premeditated on her part. Thanks for your reply!
joseph17 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Anything is possible but I f I were you I wouldn't worry about it. She has moved on now it is your turn. If you do want her back then acting like this doesn't phase you is the best possible answer. when she sees you with another girl it will either bother her or it won't. Either way you have to act like you are doing better without her and then see what happens.
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