Zabs Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 :(As you guys know, my sitch has been going on a long time. Loads of things have happened but basically, he is a person who cannot express feeling directly...always through a third party etc.. He put on fb that he was widowed (from me) when I tried to get closure from putting the songs on that reminded me of him and also, accepting it was over..he saw this as an opportunity to retaliate. So he added works at enjoying life. A week previously he was putting images of fallen victims like Quasimodo etc..still spying via other sources etc. So what I did was make my profile public. I drunkenly text him last night..regret it sorely now...but amended it by telling him I know he has moved on and I am happy for him. Hoping that he tells the girl he is with he loves her once in a while instead of making her feel as insignificant as a tear drop in the rain... As sure as I mean it, I anticipate some fallout from this, because I don't actually think he IS with anyone...just trying to exact his anger and still in punishment stage. I know this is tantamount to playing games but sincerely, I cannot take much more of this. I am used to realtionships where when you split up..it is over..dusted...but whenever this happens..in any interpersonal relationship...the other person never lets go. I had it recently with a girl that used to be a friend. She called the police on me..simply because I ignore her and she can't accept rejection. I am not looking for any advice here..just wanted to vent a little..the whole thing hurts so much..somethimes I just wish I was out of it all together.. I truly hope he DOES find someone who he can be happy with and just let it be..however, I don't think thatt will be the case Sad Zabs xx
PegNosePete Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I don't care if you're looking for advice or not, I'm going to give you some anyway. STOP STALKING HIM. Remove friend off facebook. BLOCK him. You are inhibiting your own recovery by stalking every move he makes. Just defriend, block and NC him. If you want for it to be over and dusted then make it so. If you want to keep picking at the wound so that it never heals then carry on doing what you're doing. Your choice.
Author Zabs Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Thanks Pete... However..if you wanna have the real definition of stalking..you should check out my previous posts!! I don't consider I am stalking him...I do however feel that it is preventing the recovery process...it is a cycle and it is hard to get out of it when you are 'used' to dysfunction. Like I said in my post... I am kinda gutted because it ain't like this will ever end on my terms..it is always his.. He WILL get back in touch because being apart from me is not what he really wants..however..he is fond of playing the victim..but I am hoping what I have done today will bring us both the closure we BOTH desperately need. Thanks for reading Zabs xx
Author Zabs Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 I don't care if you're looking for advice or not, I'm going to give you some anyway. The reason I said I am not looking for any advice is for two reasons..I already know what is next and also...there are only a few people on the site that ever replied when I did Zx
PegNosePete Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Defriend. Block. There you go, you've ended the contact on your terms, cycle broken When he gets back in touch, ignore it. Again it's your choice to ignore it so your terms.
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