Sugarkane Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I'm attractive and 24 years old. I don't cheat and I'm a good girlfriend. I look like Sophie Ellis Bextor: I'm very pale with dark hair. But I keep getting dumped by text, coz guys "want to be single". I'm 24 and feel like giving up, seriously. Don't guys appreciate a good woman anymore? Why do guys always think tehre's someone better, even when they have a fantastic girlfriend?
Cracker Jack Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Yes, there are plenty of good men who appreciate good women. It's just that, well...the "men you date" aren't those type of men. And you're too young to be thinking about giving up right now.
Author Sugarkane Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 As I8 said in the other thread, I don't sleep around. I don't enjoy it. And I don't sleep with someone on the first date, I like mystery and taking it slow.
Cracker Jack Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Sometimes that's not enough to distinguish good guys from the type of guys you always seem to end up with. Most of the guys I've known who had sex with the most women (and often was done with them after about a month or so) had no issues waiting for sex. I dunno. Just sounds like you're meeting the wrong men.
somedude81 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I'm attractive and 24 years old. I don't cheat and I'm a good girlfriend. I look like Sophie Ellis Bextor: I'm very pale with dark hair. But I keep getting dumped by text, coz guys "want to be single". I'm 24 and feel like giving up, seriously. Don't guys appreciate a good woman anymore? Why do guys always think tehre's someone better, even when they have a fantastic girlfriend? And what type of guys are you dating? BTW, every thing you said could also apply to women. Just saying...
Mallow Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 As others have noted, it could be your choice in men. You're still young, I wouldn't worry about it. You should take this time to focus on yourself. Not every guy is looking to upgrade, there are many who appreciate what they have infront of them.
Professor X Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I'm attractive and 24 years old. I don't cheat and I'm a good girlfriend. I look like Sophie Ellis Bextor: I'm very pale with dark hair. But I keep getting dumped by text, coz guys "want to be single". I'm 24 and feel like giving up, seriously. Don't guys appreciate a good woman anymore? Why do guys always think tehre's someone better, even when they have a fantastic girlfriend? If YOU keep picking the wrong guys than it means YOU are doing something wrong. Let's be real for a moment, shall we? We both know there are good guys there who want RS and appreciate a good woman but we also know there are guys who just wanna screw around. It's up to you to filter those guys and pick the right ones for you; And if you look anything like Sophie than you should have the selection.
Dorie Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Some guys in their 20s appear more interested in numbers, rather than always trading up. Regardless of how fantastic one is, men will wander propelled solely by their curiosity--not in pursuit of "something better".
ATrainofAngels Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Some guys in their 20s appear more interested in numbers, rather than always trading up. Regardless of how fantastic one is, men will wander propelled solely by their curiosity--not in pursuit of "something better". exactly what's worst is attractive women like this usually only go for the most smooth and most confident men, who are the least likely to be looking down to settle in their early to mid 20s
Ruby Slippers Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 (edited) No one has any idea what they're doing in their 20s. I sure as hell didn't! You ever heard that expression: "Youth is wasted on the young"? There's some truth to it. Edited November 1, 2011 by Ruby Slippers
counterman Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I'm in my 20s and I use to wonder why the girls my age wanted to date douchebags. I realised I was meeting the wrong girls and that I shouldn't bother with them. I bet the guys that you see are really good-looking guys who have plenty of options and are probably looking to date around or sleep around; most of these guys don't want to settle. In my opinion, it's very easy to weed these guys out and tell them apart from the good guys but then again, I'm a guy. If you are what you say you are, I would appreciate you because at the moment, a good girl (that I'm attracted to) is hard to come by.
AHardDaysNight Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 There are plenty of guys out there who want to commit. You just need to find them.
cdm369 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Guys have these problems too. As has been said its all about finding them. I finally started paying close attention to their outward behavior to the opposite sex. It has helped me to identify certain types.
ChessPieceFace Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Thread #283742 by a woman who is dating players and whining about it.
grkBoy Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I'm attractive and 24 years old. I don't cheat and I'm a good girlfriend. I look like Sophie Ellis Bextor: I'm very pale with dark hair. Can you sing like her? But I keep getting dumped by text, coz guys "want to be single". I'm 24 and feel like giving up, seriously. Don't guys appreciate a good woman anymore? Why do guys always think tehre's someone better, even when they have a fantastic girlfriend? It's them...not you. You're 24 and living in an age where too many guys are told being single and free is "wonderful" and that relationships (especially marriage) are equated to "death". These guys want to stay single and hope they can fulfill the fantasy of picking up and banging hot women with no dating or commitment involved. Good luck to them. For you, the only suggestion I can make is to look deep into what you want in a man. Make sure the things you want in a man do not go hand in hand with men who only want to be "single and bangin". I usually like to use my friend as the example. She loves Italian men, and I'm not saying all Italian men are bad, but she's of course into dark-skinned athletically built dreamboats...usually the guys so many women want. Thus every man she comes across won't commit, and she can't seem to understand that the positive things she wants in those particular men go hand in hand with either commitment-phobia or cheating.
stillafool Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 If you are dating guys in the 20's why would they want to settle down when they are in high demand. You may have to lower your standards.
azsinglegal Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 You're 24. You have lots of time to find a good guy...as someone else said, I had no clue what I was doing in my 20s. It's not just men, it's people in general. Sometimes it's easier to meet someone new and start over (cuz the honeymoon phase is so fun) then to work at an existing relationship. I'm at this very crossroad in mine and unsure which path we're going to take.
Woggle Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Women are just as bad as well. They think they are settling if they are not dating some guy that only exists in movies.
azsinglegal Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Women are just as bad as well. They think they are settling if they are not dating some guy that only exists in movies. My current BF was broken up with by his last long term girl by her telling him he's not her "dream man". It totally, royally and completed f'd him up. That was 3 years ago. People can be cruel and selfish sometimes. It's ok to break up with someone, not ok to break them in the process.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 My current BF was broken up with by his last long term girl by her telling him he's not her "dream man". It totally, royally and completed f'd him up. That was 3 years ago. People can be cruel and selfish sometimes. It's ok to break up with someone, not ok to break them in the process. That is a crappy way to dump somebody. My xGF consistently told me that I'm her "dream man", but was cheating on me with a guy from work. So what exactly is a "dream man"??
Woggle Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 That is a crappy way to dump somebody. My xGF consistently told me that I'm her "dream man", but was cheating on me with a guy from work. So what exactly is a "dream man"?? And they wonder why some men become so cynical towards women.
Chicago_Guy Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I'm attractive and 24 years old. I don't cheat and I'm a good girlfriend. I look like Sophie Ellis Bextor: I'm very pale with dark hair. But I keep getting dumped by text, coz guys "want to be single". I'm 24 and feel like giving up, seriously. Don't guys appreciate a good woman anymore? Why do guys always think tehre's someone better, even when they have a fantastic girlfriend? There are studies that show that the most stable relationships are the ones where the woman is at least slightly more attractive than the man she is with. If a woman is more attractive than what a man is used to getting, he is more likely to treat her better and appreciate her.
azsinglegal Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 And they wonder why some men become so cynical towards women. I no longer wonder. My BF is more cynical about relationships and love then I am, I didn't think that was possible. I don't believe in a dream man or a perfect man. I'd just like to find the man who's perfect for ME. Big difference. I've NEVER dumped someone for not being my "dream man". Dream = impossible to obtain.
azsinglegal Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 That is a crappy way to dump somebody. My xGF consistently told me that I'm her "dream man", but was cheating on me with a guy from work. So what exactly is a "dream man"?? Worst way I've ever had a man tell me he was dumped. She moved in with him, they were engaged, and he was planning a life with her. I hate her cuz she ruined it for me. He's a good man, someone I'd be honored to marry and spend my life with. What a heartless bitch to treat him that way. I just keep hoping he'll get over it, but so far, he's pretty heavily guarded.
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