Pierre Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Haha, he is actually from a poor Eastern European country, no offense. I think the problem here is that he moved to the US a year ago and now he suddenly has the prospect of making a lot of money so it has totally gone to his head. He definitely does not meet my needs since I do not see him often. So I'll still be looking. On our last meeting he was actually pretty affectionate and took genuine interest in me. I think he is coming to the realization that he is not meeting any other girls (he is busy with school, does not go out often, lives with his family, is quite fobby, etc...). I also went out last weekend and posted a lot of pics of myself on FB partying so maybe he got jealous and is afraid to lose me. And I had been blowing cold for a while. So who knows? I suggest you move on. Like someone else said, you could fall heavy for this guy and get badly hurt. Had no idea Romanian folks were into making money.
Author annabanana85 Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 Actually it's not Romania. Think ex-Soviet union
Pierre Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Actually it's not Romania. Think ex-Soviet union Folks that come from former communist countries can be very capitalistic. I guess he is from the Ukraine. Is your name Elena?
Author annabanana85 Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 Not Ukraine go north No my name is not Elena, what makes u think that?
alexandria35 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I see nothing wrong with a girl having sex on the first date. I had a 5 month relationship with one girl I slept with on the first date. The thing is this - you need to be consistent. If you're moving into sex quickly, you should be moving into exclusive dating/relationship quickly too. If you don't want to bring up that stuff, DONT HAVE SEX! If a guy isn't willing to talk about his intentions after sex, or where things might go, he was just screwing you for sport and doesn't respect you. If you've been sleep together for a few weeks and he's not ok with being exclusive - or even asking for it - he's using you. It's fine for things to move fast. It's fine for things to move slow. But what you can't do is 'mix and match'. Wouldn't it be better to know if the guy is just looking to use you before the sex takes place. That's the problem with sex too early. It's got nothing to do with making the guy work for it or withholding it as some kind of prize that only gets handed out after a certain amount of dates. Waiting for sex gives both people a chance to get to know if they are even on the same page about what they want out of their relationship. A woman who wants a serious relationship needs to hold off on the sex and thats not because she needs to play some game of make the guy chase her or make him respect her. It's more about her keeping her head clear, staying objective and choosing her future mate wisely. Once a woman sleeps with a guy she is far more likely to overlook glaring flaws that become apparent afterwards. Furthermore if a woman is using cheap and easy sex to try to hook a guy into a relationship, she is likely going to be used by an awful lot of men long before she gets the relationship. This is not a double standard. If both the man and woman are looking for a one night stand or a FWB relationship, I say have at her. It's nobody's business but theirs. However I see far too many women who sleep with men right away and then get their head all in the clouds, daydreaming about the possibilites of this could be the one, when they don't know a single important thing about the guy. It's just an assbackwards way of finding a partner.
snowflakes88 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I also went out last weekend and posted a lot of pics of myself on FB partying so maybe he got jealous and is afraid to lose me. Highly unlikely. Even when things were at their BEST, he was contacting you once a week to set up sex. Not to get to know you, not to ask you out. For sex. This will never turn into a relationship... you set the tone from the start. Are you even reading anyone's advice about having sex too soon?
fallenenvy Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Sounds like the FWB i had once upon a time. And theres nothing wrong with it as long as feelings don't play a role. I had a GREAT FWB for quite some time and it worked because although we were good friends we kept it right there. When the day came i realized i might be starting to care a bit more than that.. i ran like hell because i knew that we would make a terrible couple. Now he has a gf and i have a bf and we are friends again.. minus the previously mentioned benefits. Point is.. you can't always control how you feel so be careful with this guy. Unless you guys start actually having real dates i doubt this is going to go anywhere... which could be fine as long as you don't let yourself get emotionally invested.
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