annabanana85 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I went clubbing with my friends on Saturday night for Halloween. I was kind of drunk and dancing and ended up meeting this really cute guy. We danced all night and talked. We ended up kissing in the club. Then he drove me to an afterparty at my friends' house where we talked some more. Around 5 AM he drove me home (I live on the other side of the city). We were making out when I was leaving the car and he asked me if I want him to come over. I said "No". He asked for my phone; I gave him my phone and he recorded his number on my phone and asked me to call him. I said I don't like making the first move and he said that he will contact me. That night, an hour later after dropping me home, he texted me saying that he had a great time. I sent a msg saying I also did have a great time. It's been two days and I haven't heard from him. Should I stop waiting?
daphne Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 It's been two days and I haven't heard from him. Should I stop waiting? Probably. You met him at a Halloween party and didn't hook up as he was hoping to. Unless you change your mind and are into something casual, his actions aren't those of someone who's interested in something more substantial. But to be fair, I'm not sure that going home at 5am with someone you don't know is either. :/
Eddie Edirol Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 You should text him or call him and see if he answers. If you ask him "lets do this..." and he comes up with anything but YES, you have your answer.
Author annabanana85 Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 True. He also told me that he is divorced and was pretty closed about his personal life/relationship even though he kept asking me a lot of personal questions.
SmellOfRain Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Please, in the future, think safer.....going home with someone you just met is extremely risky.....
Pierre Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 We were making out when I was leaving the car and he asked me if I want him to come over. I said "No". He asked for my phone; I gave him my phone and he recorded his number on my phone and asked me to call him. I said I don't like making the first move and he said that he will contact me. That night, an hour later after dropping me home, he texted me saying that he had a great time. I sent a msg saying I also did have a great time. It's been two days and I haven't heard from him. Should I stop waiting? You don't make the first move? Who cares! You were already making out. Why play hard to get after making out?
orangelady Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 He didn't get to have sex with you and he may also gather that you would not likely want to have sex soon so that's why he didn't text you. If you are looking for a relationship, you're less likely to find it in a club. And if the guy is cute, why would he want to have a relationship when he can go around and make out and have sex with different girls as much as he wants being single?
daisydukes Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I kinda have to agree with orangelady. I have done the club scene before and it only leads to disappointment. 9 times out of 10 they just want someone to casually date nothing serious or they want a FWB. If you want to find someone that is serious and really wants to date I suggest steering clear of those kind of places.
Star Gazer Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 So, you met this one at a club too? This is different from the guy you're currently sleeping with, right? I can't keep them all straight.
Author annabanana85 Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Yes, it is a different guy from the one that I am currently seeing. It's not like I am in a relationship with the other guy though. We have not had the talk and he has never taken me out or referred to me as his gf.
Author annabanana85 Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 And I did not have sex with this guy. I met him in a club and we kissed and danced, that's all. We didnt even do anything more physical. He asked if he could come to my place but I said no and he was not persistent at all. But he was pretty clammed up about his personal life. I just know that he works as a customer service assistant and he goes clubbing a lot.
Professor X Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 And I did not have sex with this guy. I met him in a club and we kissed and danced, that's all. We didnt even do anything more physical. He asked if he could come to my place but I said no and he was not persistent at all. But he was pretty clammed up about his personal life. I just know that he works as a customer service assistant and he goes clubbing a lot. Club again, eh? tsk tsk.
Dust Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 You went out with "the Shadow!" He just wanted to enjoy your nude glowing body. He'd call and try to get to know you if he was interested in more then your pretty face.
orangelady Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 We were making out when I was leaving the car and he asked me if I want him to come over. I said "No". He asked for my phone; I gave him my phone and he recorded his number on my phone and asked me to call him. I said I don't like making the first move and he said that he will contact me. You made out, kissed and danced with him. These are the kind of activities a man would expect when he goes to a club because women who frequents a club would freely give them. He asked for your phone number probably to want to have a repeat session of this make out and hopefully you would change your mind about the sex part. He is divorced so I'm guessing he's not a 20 year old. This man has done the whole dating, relationship and marriage thing. Kissing and dancing with a pretty girl from a club isn't enough to sustain his interest in anything remotely serious for him. You're not dealing with a teenager - a teenage boy is one who would reminisce about the last kiss, dance and touch he had with a girl. But this is a grown man who have explored every part of a woman's body and has gone through the whole package. But you on the other hand, are still thinking about him a lot even after 2 days and obviously it meant something to you for you to post this problem on a forum. Although to him, it was just a kiss and a dance and he's probably done this a lot with other girls.
Emilia Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 And I did not have sex with this guy. I met him in a club and we kissed and danced, that's all. We didnt even do anything more physical. He asked if he could come to my place but I said no and he was not persistent at all. But he was pretty clammed up about his personal life. I just know that he works as a customer service assistant and he goes clubbing a lot. He is still married
geegirl Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I went clubbing with my friends on Saturday night for Halloween. I was kind of drunk and dancing and ended up meeting this really cute guy. We danced all night and talked. We ended up kissing in the club. Then he drove me to an afterparty at my friends' house where we talked some more. Around 5 AM he drove me home (I live on the other side of the city). We were making out when I was leaving the car and he asked me if I want him to come over. I said "No". He asked for my phone; I gave him my phone and he recorded his number on my phone and asked me to call him. I said I don't like making the first move and he said that he will contact me. That night, an hour later after dropping me home, he texted me saying that he had a great time. I sent a msg saying I also did have a great time. It's been two days and I haven't heard from him. Should I stop waiting? It's more concerning that you're intoxicated and you get in the car of a man you don't even know who takes you home at 5AM. Where is your concern for your safety? Self-destructive. Please be careful.
Michael930t Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Unless you are looking for something casual I would move on. Its been said in other replies--this guy is looking for a good time. If you hook up with him again I can guarantee it wont be a traditional date and he will expect sex at the end of it. Cute guys in clubs are there to get laid and nothing more! As long as you are ok with that then call him. --In the future I wouldnt make out with guys you meet in a club and have them take you home at 5am. There are alot of guys out there that would take advantage of that situation.
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Jay-sus woman, stop meeting guys in clubs if you're looking for a relationship! I reviewed your thread history, and most of them start with "I met this guy at a club..." and end with said guy losing interest (usually after some kind of physical exchange such as making out or sex). Clubs are not the place to find boyfriend material. Your experiences should have taught you this by now. I see it quoted many times on here, but..."insanity is repeating the same behaviour and expecting different results."
Author annabanana85 Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 To clarify my intentions, I wasn't necessarily looking for a serious relationship with this guy. I just think he is really cute and fun to be around. I would have liked to go out clubbing with him a couple of times, perhaps get physical and that's it. What bums me out is that he seemed really into me when we met. Like he was driving me throughout the city, from the afterparty, to a late night snack place then to home and he kept trying to impress me and ask me if I have a boyfriend. He kept giving me compliments and I felt that he genuinely liked me. So it is strange that he has not texted or called me yet and has acted shady when he put his digits into my phone by asking me to call him instead.
henderson14 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 What a romantic story to explain to your friends about how you met. Of course he was just looking for sex. He didn't even know you and you met at a club and asked if you wanted to come back to his place. DUH!
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 It's been two days and I haven't heard from him. Should I stop waiting? By "stop waiting," do you mean should you call him? NO. If you mean, should you forget about him? YES. Though, since you are seeing someone else anyway, I would not exactly describe you as "waiting." Please take the advice of some of your fellow members here and think twice before you pick up on any more guys at clubs.
dasein Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Truly absurd amounts of conjecture in this thread, even by zany LS standards. No, OP don't write him off after two days, ESPECIALLY since he sent a text that night. You may not hear from him again, but it's just as likely that he is waiting til Tues/Wed to ask you on a weekend date, or if he's like me, is waiting til Thurs to ask you for a Mon-Wed date next week. And I don't even have kids. If he has kids, you may not hear from him for a solid week. People have lives. Would you rather have a) a guy with nothing going on in life who starts smothering you with texts and calls incessantly after meeting you, or b) someone who has a LIFE and has to take some time to plan their socializing?
Author annabanana85 Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 To all the posters who suggest that I should stop meeting fellas at club, so where else am I supposed to meet them? At the grocery store! I work with only 2 other people and both happen to be gay and I go to an elite grad school where people around me are either not very social or are married/in relationships. Plus I love electronic music, dancing and drinking. It is my passion, so why not share it with someone who has the same passion! Plus it seems to be the place to meet other foreigners and I definitely click more with them than the locals!
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