USMCHokie Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Ladies, when you find yourself repeatedly looking at a guy, what is running through your mind? For guys, I can probably safely generalize that when we check out a woman, we are thinking sex with said woman. What about you...? In my case, every time I go to yoga, I constantly notice women looking in their oh so subtle way at me...or sometimes just straight up staring... It's the hot bikram yoga, so hardly anyone wears a shirt...and I will say with no shame that my physique is above average and does draw a lot of attention during the sessions, from men and women alike. So what the heck are the women thinking...? Narcissistic douche with no personality...? Please don't talk to me because you're only at yoga to pick up women? (which is false, by the way...as miserable as it is, I kind of enjoy it...) And what about in more general situations like when you're out at the store and someone catches your eye?
Cypress25 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 If it's that kind of stare, I'm probably thinking "He's cute, I wonder if he's single." In your yoga class, the ladies might be thinking "He's cute, I wonder if he's straight." Or they could be thinking negative things, like "He's doing that pose all wrong" or "It's really obnoxious the way he keeps looking around to see if the women are looking at him." You never know.
Nexus One Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 (edited) For guys, I can probably safely generalize that when we check out a woman, we are thinking sex with said woman. I often look just to see if the girl/woman is looking at me, doesn't mean I'm into her or want to have sex with her. Edited November 1, 2011 by Nexus One
Author USMCHokie Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 I often look just to see if the girl/woman is looking at me, doesn't mean I'm into her or want to have sex with her. Hmm, good point, and I would have to agree with you. I think I was just identifying the common stereotype associated with men when it comes to leering at women.
orangelady Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I often look just to see if the girl/woman is looking at me, doesn't mean I'm into her or want to have sex with her. I'm glad you came out to say that.
orangelady Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 It really depends. I know for me and my girlfriends, when we're staring at a guy or looking at him, it could be because: 1) we admire his looks/body/dress style 2) something very revolting about him e.g too buffed, weird tats, bad hair 3) bad sense of fashion 4) something just not right about him Last week when me and my girlfriend went jogging at the park, we saw this guy wearing a really tiny shorts until exposing the half bottom of his butt and we were grossed out. His thighs were kinda huge too. So we were saying "only thing missing is a fishnet shirt..."
Star Gazer Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 This really shouldn't be difficult to answer if you have any amount of social awareness. You're catching women looking at you. Well, what does the expression on their face say? If she likes what she sees, you will be able to see it in her eyes, and on her face. She will be smiling with her eyes, if not her lips as well. That said: Narcissistic douche with no personality...? Please don't talk to me because you're only at yoga to pick up women? Honestly? For me, this is usually the case. If I'm repeatedly looking at someone/staring at someone, it's probably because I'm thinking, "My lord, that guy is a douche/assclown/idiot/etc." But if he's someone I find cute and interesting, if he catches me staring or looking at him, I'll inevitably blush and/or smile. He'll know why I was looking, without question. As for yoga (bikram), I often stare at people as a way of focusing/balancing, and also sometimes when thinking, "Jeezus, how are they doing that?!" But again, that would also show on my face... and I suspect it would anyone else.
Author USMCHokie Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 In your yoga class, the ladies might be thinking "He's cute, I wonder if he's straight." This actually doesn't really bother me...I have heard it plenty of times...and if a woman equates a guy taking care of himself with homosexuality, then so be it...I can make my own inferences from that... Or they could be thinking negative things, like "He's doing that pose all wrong" or "It's really obnoxious the way he keeps looking around to see if the women are looking at him." You never know. This is true...thank goodness for mirrors and peripheral vision...
Star Gazer Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Or they could be thinking negative things, like ... "It's really obnoxious the way he keeps looking around to see if the women are looking at him." You never know. Yup. I think most women are pretty good at picking out that guy, the one who cares whether or not women are looking.
missed_theboat Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I think lots of things. Superficially, about his: body; his height; build; hairstyle; clothing choices; whether he's going for "punk", "hipster", "jock", "businessman", etc.; often, his demeanor (i.e. if he's happy-go-lucky and chatting with people, smiling or if he's serious and focused, etc. I often look and see how attentive he is to what's around him and think about what kind of guy he'd be... if he notices me or ignores me when we're in close proximity (i.e. in line together or walking past one another). I to tend to check out guys I think are attractive and wish that they'd look up and notice me. If I don't find them attractive, I won't look at them so much, because I precisely don't want them to think I'm interested. Or if he's some arrogant-looking dude, I'll purposefully ignore him, so he won't think so highly of his ego. Haha
snug.bunny Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 (edited) If he's extremely attractive, I'd most likely just get a few peeks in when he wasn't looking. I dislike purposely staring at someone regardless, if I can help it. As for what I am thinking ----> That all depends on who/what I am looking at.... Edited November 1, 2011 by snug.bunny
Author USMCHokie Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Yup. I think most women are pretty good at picking out that guy, the one who cares whether or not women are looking. That's not good... :laugh:
Nexus One Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 So when a guy is seated in the back row of a classroom and sits there all class staring while hiding his mouth as if to stare discreet-fully, it is cuz he wants to see if I am looking at him? Even when I am not? Or is it because he is thinking about sex? I read a study once where they had men keep track of the average amount of times they think about sex during the day. That number is 250 times per day (on average). But that doesn't mean the guy is thinking about sex with the woman he's looking at. However here's my take on the looks/gazes/glances/stares thing. They're meaningless unless something comes out of it. In high school we had this class where the tables were positioned in a circle. And this girl was staring at me a lot and I often looked back at her to see if she was staring AGAIN. I was a bit annoyed by it to be honest and during lunch break when I was munching on a sandwich I suddenly saw her appear in front of me and she had dragged her sister by the arm forcing her to follow her or something, then when she stood in front of me she pointed to me and said to her sister "That's him". And here's another weird thing. YEARS LATER, when I was in university I got a job at some company and she was the head of HR at that company and SHE had to hire me. They were out of desks in the main office, so they gave me my own office, yay. However, I was alone in that office, but every now and then I saw girls and women coming in to have a chat, like she sent them to have them check me out and hear me out or something. One of those women there also asked me out, but I didn't bite, however in retrospect I should have, because she actually looked a lot like Emma Stone and had a personality like her. F*ck, I've been thinking a lot about that lately. What the f*ck was I thinking? I was very much focused on other things in that period of my life. Dumb Nexus. I recently actually tried to look up the company I worked at back then, but it moved to another city. I'll probably never see her again. Auwch. But what's done is done, sigh.
Ruby Slippers Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 If I were staring at YOU all sweaty doing bikram yoga, I would definitely be thinking about having sex with you. And I'd probably hold on to that mental image to think about for a looong time.
Emilia Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 What Ruby said. If I kept checking out someone with your physique OP it would be definitely because I was wondering about having sex with him
Author USMCHokie Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 If I were staring at YOU all sweaty doing bikram yoga, I would definitely be thinking about having sex with you. And I'd probably hold on to that mental image to think about for a looong time. Noted.
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