quietGuy13 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Plenty of times to restaurants , etc. share time, i give her rides, shopping, movie, and keep in contact since long time ago. She seems always happy when we meet and we share alot. But if she didn't like me , she wouldn't be going with me and sharing her time. And getting in my car(woudln't she be scared that i'd do something bad)..so i think she trusts me. I haven't asked her anything like "Do you want to have a relationship with me?" because i'm just a shy guy i dont know how and she's also shy /quiet..she's not the type of girl that asks either. But well i feel she might at least like me alittle.
Cracker Jack Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 It all depends. If she only looks at you as a friend, it won't matter if she went out with you a lot of times. If you want to know how she feels, you'll need to ask her. No one here can give you the real answer.
USMCHokie Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 No, it means that you like her, and she's aware of it and taking advantage of it. You need to escalate the physical intimacy to determine her interest level in you, which frankly is all that matters.
Eddie Edirol Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 QG you obviously dont read other threads of women hanging out with men just for company, when they know the guy likes them. Chances are, you are being used for safe company, because she knows youre too soft and shy to make a move on her. When you do, she will reject your advances, and you will still hang with her and give her rides. By the way, you dont tell a woman you want to have a relationship with her until you have had at least a couple make out sessions with her first.
Pierre Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 By the way, you dont tell a woman you want to have a relationship with her until you have had at least a couple make out sessions with her first. That rule is BS.
Lucky_One Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Yes, she likes you. Whether she likes you romantically or as a friend only, I don't know; you will have to ask her. DID YOU EVER READ OR RESPOND TO MY POST TO YOU ABOUT TESTOSTERONE?
somedude81 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 No, I've done that with many girls and whenever I wanted to take things beyond friendship they always turned me down. For all she cares about, you might as well be gay.
orangelady Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I'm a woman and I'll tell you this. It does not matter how often a woman hangs out with or wants to spend time with you, or how often she texts you or how many hours she spends talking with you on the phone, it could just mean this woman doesn't have many friends or a life. She could be lonely. Yes, she enjoys your company but it doesn't mean she likes you as a boyfriend. But it doesn't mean she doesn't think of you as one either. But just don't think that just because a woman spends a lot of time with you, it would mean she's romantically interested. Women sometimes identify one loner guy who doesn't have much going in his life and will latch on to him for company. JUST company. It's even worse if you don't seem like you have a life or have other friends because now she knows she can depend on you for favors and company all the time. That you will drop everything and anything for her activities or favors.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 As other have said no. It could well mean that she only sees you as a friend. Furthermore women have even married men they did not like that much (for money, security, or just to not have the stigma of being unmarried). You can find out if she's willing to be intimate with you by initiating. On the next datey outing you go on ...like to movies or dinner try to make a move. Put a hand on her knee. Play footsee under the table. Put your arm around her waist and hold her close. If she is receptive to these little shows of affection then you can try to go farther. Just don't touch any place overtly sexual and erogenous (breast, butt, crotch) when you do these things. If that goes over well then you will know her true instinctual feelings for you. Which could be at odds with how she thinks of you. Remember it's possible she's going on these outings wondering if you are really into her. Don't hold back thinking she will respect you... you could just end up like Brian.
Author quietGuy13 Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Wow guys thanks. It all makes sense. Maybe yea maybe i'm just company to her.. interesting. I should touch her somewhere but i dont know....one time i touched her arms just like playful. i dont know if that was a good enough move. "DID YOU EVER READ OR RESPOND TO MY POST TO YOU ABOUT TESTOSTERONE? " About me needed testorone for my voice!!?? NO i'm not doing that . i have enough testerone
Lucky_One Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 "DID YOU EVER READ OR RESPOND TO MY POST TO YOU ABOUT TESTOSTERONE? " About me needed testorone for my voice!!?? NO i'm not doing that . i have enough testerone What were your levels when you were tested?
Author quietGuy13 Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 What were your levels when you were tested? i was never tested. but what makes you think i have it low?
Star Gazer Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 If a woman goes out with you often, you can assume she enjoys your company. Whether she's romantically interested though is another question. Based on what you've said in this thread, there's no way to tell.
Author quietGuy13 Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 If a woman goes out with you often, you can assume she enjoys your company. Whether she's romantically interested though is another question. Based on what you've said in this thread, there's no way to tell. Yeah.. i kind of told her that i liked her(in email) and she laughed it off (smiled in email message) and just said she goes out with her mail friends the same way. So maybe she was embarrased /shy and didn't know what to respond with so she just said that. or maybe she not really interested in romantic ways. Because some girls are more shy. dont assume all are outgoing .
Lucky_One Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 i was never tested. but what makes you think i have it low? High pitched voice Lack of muscle mass Weak bones Depression Anxiety Feeling of not caring about things Lack of energy Any chance you have sparse body hair? Difficulty concentrating? You haven't mentioned those, but they are also symptoms of low test.
phineas Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 No, it means that you like her, and she's aware of it and taking advantage of it. You need to escalate the physical intimacy to determine her interest level in you, which frankly is all that matters. It really doesn't get more concise than that. She knows what she is doing. He needs to make a move. She'll either sleep with him or get "busy" when he calls her again. She most likely has a boyfriend of an F-buddy that doesn't pay much attention to her.
PlumPrincess Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 As other have said no. It could well mean that she only sees you as a friend. Furthermore women have even married men they did not like that much (for money, security, or just to not have the stigma of being unmarried). You can find out if she's willing to be intimate with you by initiating. On the next datey outing you go on ...like to movies or dinner try to make a move. Put a hand on her knee. Play footsee under the table. Put your arm around her waist and hold her close. If she is receptive to these little shows of affection then you can try to go farther. Just don't touch any place overtly sexual and erogenous (breast, butt, crotch) when you do these things. If that goes over well then you will know her true instinctual feelings for you. Which could be at odds with how she thinks of you. Remember it's possible she's going on these outings wondering if you are really into her. Don't hold back thinking she will respect you... you could just end up like Brian. Eeew. If she only sees him as a platonic friend, she will not be pleased about that.
PlumPrincess Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 (edited) Yeah.. i kind of told her that i liked her(in email) and she laughed it off (smiled in email message) and just said she goes out with her mail friends the same way. So maybe she was embarrased /shy and didn't know what to respond with so she just said that. or maybe she not really interested in romantic ways. Because some girls are more shy. dont assume all are outgoing . She knows you're interested and she turned you down very nicely. She is not embarrassed or shy. She does not lack the social skills to deal with the situation. And she's also not uninterested in romance. What she should not do maybe, is hang out with someone who is into her. I would quit seeing her so often, work on myself and find someone who was interested. Edited November 1, 2011 by PlumPrincess
Mrlonelyone Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 (edited) Eeew. If she only sees him as a platonic friend, she will not be pleased about that. That's the whole point. He sees this woman as a romantic potential and he wants to know if he sees her that way. If he ask what he gets may not be the truth. He may not be the socially acceptable choice and she would not admit it if simply asked. I know what that's like. Being who and what I am practically no one openly admits to being attracted...so I just flirt with them and see if they respond. The mouth can lie, but the body, and eyes cannot unless you are a good actor or a spy or something. Edited November 1, 2011 by Mrlonelyone
orangelady Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Eeew. If she only sees him as a platonic friend, she will not be pleased about that. Yep, if you make a move on her like that and she freaks out, you'll lose a friend.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Yep, if you make a move on her like that and she freaks out, you'll lose a friend. The OP wants a GF not a friend. He has to find the boldness in him to assert what he wants in the relationship. OP, Quietguy... you have to remember one thing about women that can stop a man like you. Weather a woman is a shy quiet chaste truly good girl ... or a loose easy party girl...they ALL want to feel like sexuality was not their idea. This is because in our culture is is still not socially acceptable for a woman to openly admit to really enjoying or wanting sex. Which when you boil it down the main difference between a friendly relationship and a romantic one is the sexual component and all it entails. So you need to be that bad awful man who convinced her to drop her drawers and do that nasty nasty bump and slide. Make a physical move on her. If she likes you she will like it if not then really...do you need more friends. Especially ones who like this woman may well be only want you to service her needs?
PlumPrincess Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 The OP wants a GF not a friend. He has to find the boldness in him to assert what he wants in the relationship. OP, Quietguy... you have to remember one thing about women that can stop a man like you. Weather a woman is a shy quiet chaste truly good girl ... or a loose easy party girl...they ALL want to feel like sexuality was not their idea. This is because in our culture is is still not socially acceptable for a woman to openly admit to really enjoying or wanting sex. Which when you boil it down the main difference between a friendly relationship and a romantic one is the sexual component and all it entails. So you need to be that bad awful man who convinced her to drop her drawers and do that nasty nasty bump and slide. Make a physical move on her. If she likes you she will like it if not then really...do you need more friends. Especially ones who like this woman may well be only want you to service her needs? She already rejected him: Yeah.. i kind of told her that i liked her(in email) and she laughed it off (smiled in email message) and just said she goes out with her mail friends the same way.
musemaj11 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Yeah, she likes you ... she likes you spending money on her.
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Pushing things to a physical realm when many cues have already been given and received that this is NOT what the girl wants will lose QG a friend, which I believe he wants and needs MORE than he needs to be rejected by someone who he likes to spend time with. I think you know, QG, that she is not looking for a romantic or sexual relationship with you. If you do, it's up to you to decide whether this is okay with you. Do you like spending time with her as companions? Do you feel like she is taking advantage of you at all? Are you the one paying for the dinners, etc., or do you go dutch? From all of your posts, I think you are lonely and this friendly female companionship might be doing more for your quality of life than mustering your nerve to "make a move" on your friend, and then getting rejected and permanently dumped by her, will. It would be better to try to "date" different girls who are not already established as your "friend." For the record - I had a very close guy friend when I was in my 20's. We spent tons of time together. The boundaries of our relationship were well defined. But I guess he had a "crush" or whatever. Sometimes he would (so horribly awkwardly) try to make a move. It was AWFUL. I hated rejecting my good friend, and I felt angry that he was not respectful of the parameters of our relationship. His unwanted moves (and he knew better, too) almost damaged our friendship, which was golden By the way - we are still very close friends now, almost 30 years (marriages, kids, and living in different countries even) later.
snug.bunny Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Plenty of times to restaurants , etc. share time, i give her rides, shopping, movie, and keep in contact since long time ago. She seems always happy when we meet and we share alot. But if she didn't like me , she wouldn't be going with me and sharing her time. And getting in my car(woudln't she be scared that i'd do something bad)..so i think she trusts me. I haven't asked her anything like "Do you want to have a relationship with me?" because i'm just a shy guy i dont know how and she's also shy /quiet..she's not the type of girl that asks either. But well i feel she might at least like me alittle. She likes you, but it sounds platonic at this stage. I have a female friend, and she is friends with tons of men, new ones every day, and they do things together constantly just as you mentioned. She is very outgoing and friendly with all of them, but the one constant, is that there is no kissing or any form of physical affection (except maybe the occassional hug). So if you enjoy the friendship status quo, continue as you've been doing. She may just like "hanging out" with you, or she may be waiting for you to show romantic interest in her. If you'd like to date her romantically, then at some point, you are going to have to put yourself out there and demonstrate that to her. Or, you could wait for her to do it. But, if she's like my friend, you may be waiting for a very long time. Keep in mind, if you were someone my friend was interested in romantically, she would have no problem demonstrating romantic interest. See the difference?
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