ChelseaLS Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Its a rough day. He's hot and cold and says nice thing to me and stops by my office to talk.. Why? I haven't talked to him unless it's business and only face to face then. I want him to be hurting like me. People say he is but he's hiding it, and maybe that's true, as I am hiding it from him... But this really hurts. He hasn't told his family yet, and I have told everyone I know in my family and friends. I don't get it. He still has my photos up at work on his desk, it's weird. I love him so much and I am trying to move on. I feel like I am dying inside. I feel like I should be angry, but the hurt won't to away. I didn't see it coming.
Author ChelseaLS Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 The back story.. Let me see if I can keep it short. He's 34 and I am 27. We were together for just over 6 years. We are opposite but worked well together. Not even a month after spending a lavish birthday on me (my birthday was in sept), oct 8 he basically told me he wanted space because 1. He says he takes me for granted 2. I smother him (I won't disagree, however he never told me he felt that way) and 3. That he wanted time apart a break for 6 months to see if our relationship is really what he wants... So essentially it's a "is the grass green?" syndrome. I said fine, I moved out told him I was not going to wait for him. I said I wanted him to be happy regardless if that was with me or not and that he needs to work out his issues. A side note... We work in the same office. I have never contacted him via phone or text or email. I keep it business and only talk to him face to face at work ( whether it be business or if I have to go get something).
Bobby289 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Yeah sounds like GIGS, that is awesome you put your foot down and said you will not wait. He sounds like he is genuinely confused and holding on just incase. I can't really give advice to this but I can only imagine how hard it is to see him all the time. Don't poke at him with jealousy or anything but show you are serious about not waiting for him. You do need to become a stronger person and show him that.
mike588 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Its a rough day. He's hot and cold and says nice thing to me and stops by my office to talk.. Why? I haven't talked to him unless it's business and only face to face then. I want him to be hurting like me. People say he is but he's hiding it, and maybe that's true, as I am hiding it from him... But this really hurts. He hasn't told his family yet, and I have told everyone I know in my family and friends. I don't get it. He still has my photos up at work on his desk, it's weird. I love him so much and I am trying to move on. I feel like I am dying inside. I feel like I should be angry, but the hurt won't to away. I didn't see it coming. It's gotta be so hard to move on when you work with an ex. Your hurting and trying not to show it, invisable are the hardest to wipe away.
Author ChelseaLS Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 It certainly sucks, but I hold it together well at work and avoid him when I can. Of course when I get home I may have break down. I just love him. When I see him all I see is handsome, but I can't force him. So I am trying to be true to the both of us... " If you love something let it go, if it comes back its yours, if it doesn't it wasn't meant to be". This gives us both time to grow and learn. We have to keep moving forward, as going backwards isn't an option. It hurts, it definitely hurts.
rubberball Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I know what you mean about dealing with an x that is a coworker. It sucks cause you can't get them completely out of your life. With you just being professional at work shows your charater. You are there to work not day dream about your x. If he comes back it up to you to decide if you want him back, we all want what we can't have and if he does come back you may see him in an entirely different light.
EgoJoe Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 The next time he tries to play nice I want you to look him dead in the eyes, smile and then say, "Don't you have anything better to do than fool yourself?" Then walk away.
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