ShannonMI Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Anyone have advice on how I should actually approach this? Any screening techniques I could use on her to find out how crazy she is? Never been in this predicament before and I have virtually no experience with dating and relationships. What kind of questions would you ask a girl like this? I suppose I could find out if she's willing to date. Just tell her I'd like to get to know her. If she doesn't respond, she's probably not into dating. The fact her friend asked me if I was in a relationship still makes me think she might have actually wanted more from me. What's with you wondering how crazy a girl is? You said the same thing to me in a PM. Some of us aren't crazy. If you have any inkling she's nuts, steer clear. Questions you could ask are: Hey remember me? The guy you met (and sucked face with *optional*) at the bar the other night? And then go on to say you got her number from so and so and you were wondering if she wanted to go on a date or go for coffee sometime. Simple as that. See what she says
AngelTheSadPanda Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I did something like this once. Not that extreme... I kissed a guy... didn't make out but I told him I liked him and had a crush on him etc - he is a guy friend of mine that I've known for awhile ... anyhow... now he thinks I like him and he calls me and asks me out a lot and I am not into him that way. I kissed him because I was drunk and he was nice... and he was there. It's hard now because he likes me and I told him I liked him when I had been drinking but I really don't. Anything a girl does drunk- you can't really take seriously. I'd say she is probably embarrassed she did it and doesn't want to be reminded. I never go to bars or nightclubs because I don't like loud environments and the whole hookup scene disgusts me. Nevertheless, I was dragged out last Saturday and met this very hot blonde. I was with my brother and she was with a friend. I had never said a word to her, and she called me out on the dance floor. Within seconds, she's holding me close and making flirtatious eye contact. Before I know it, she's making out with me. Not how I imagined my first kiss, but whatever, it was fantastic. Throughout the night she must have kissed me 7 times while giving me those "**** me now" eyes after she pulled away. For the most part, I just looked back at her with a dumb smile on my face. We talked very little throughout the night. As a matter of fact I don't know anything about her. I was pretty drunk the whole time and before I knew it, the bar closed and she was gone. No goodbye or anything. She probably got frustrated I didn't make a move on her. My brother talked to her friend a bit. She supposedly admitted her friend was "really into me". My bro got her friend's number, but I didn't get anyone's number. Question... is there any tactical approach I can make to reconnect with this girl? Would she even be interested in reconnecting? I'm not sure what her intentions were as this has never happened to me before. Brother offered to text the girl's friend for me.
Author ksmit Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 I'd say she is probably embarrassed she did it and doesn't want to be reminded. Thanks for the reply, but that's just cold. You're basically saying she spent the night with only me because she was drunk off her ass even though the place was packed with good looking guys. For one, she didn't seem that drunk. Perfectly coherent and moved fine. FYI, never quote the original post of a thread. Pointless, and eats up a lot of window space.
ShannonMI Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I did something like this once. Not that extreme... I kissed a guy... didn't make out but I told him I liked him and had a crush on him etc - he is a guy friend of mine that I've known for awhile ... anyhow... now he thinks I like him and he calls me and asks me out a lot and I am not into him that way. I kissed him because I was drunk and he was nice... and he was there. It's hard now because he likes me and I told him I liked him when I had been drinking but I really don't. Anything a girl does drunk- you can't really take seriously. I'd say she is probably embarrassed she did it and doesn't want to be reminded. I've drunkenly kissed boys in bars before, but I usually find them attractive. Even in my drunken stupor. I don't ever have beer goggles, if you know what I mean. If I like you when I'm loaded, I'm gonna like you when I'm sober. Not all girls are like that of course, but I am. Ksmit, I'm sure this girl liked you. It wasn't just because you "were there" and "nice." She had a few attractive men to choose from according to you and she chose you, so that says she is smitten. Get her number and contact her.
ffw Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 OP, the only way to find out will be by calling her.
ShannonMI Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 OP, the only way to find out will be by calling her. Yeah just do it already. No sense in the "what ifs" here on LS. Get her number and call her.
Author ksmit Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Ksmit, I'm sure this girl liked you. It wasn't just because you "were there" and "nice." She had a few attractive men to choose from according to you and she chose you, so that says she is smitten. Get her number and contact her. Well put Shannon. I should also mention this tall handsome guy tried to flirt with her as he walked by and she brushed him off then looked at me like "ick". I was like WTF that guy was taller, older, and better looking! AngelTheSadPanda -- When giving advice on a forum when something could go either way, you should give the author benefit of the doubt (positive feedback). If you really believe the scenario leans to the negative side, that's fine but you should state the positive afterward.
Author ksmit Posted December 6, 2011 Author Posted December 6, 2011 I want to update this thread after some exciting developments. Her friend ended up inviting me out a couple weeks ago to meet up again and the girl who kissed me last time was drunk as usual. My friend claims that she made out with him and some other guy, but I only saw her kiss him in the cheek so I don't know (maybe to get my attention since I was dancing with her friend?). We both agreed she seemed like a slut and we told them cya later! She became really upset but what can ya do? I can tell my friend is really into her and seems like the type to fu*k me over so he might have been bluffing. He's really desperate and enjoys telling everyone I'm virgin for his own amusement. Dumbass. Well last week, her friend texts me again saying we should meet up sober sometime. Then just this last weekend, sure enough I get invited out to the bar again and we meet for the 3rd time. Turns out, the suspect slut who's been into me was all apologetic, embarrassed, and desperately trying to convince me she wasn't a slut. She stayed sober and well-behaved the entire night. I feel bad the girl was trying so hard to impress me and now want to take her out on a date to get to know her better. My only concern is that like the recent troll around here says, she might be a "cold sore covered whore". It's hard to ignore her past behavior, but I can't help but wonder she might have some decency... It's a shame because I like this girl but don't know if I can trust her.
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