ksmit Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) I never go to bars or nightclubs because I don't like loud environments and the whole hookup scene disgusts me. Nevertheless, I was dragged out last Saturday and met this very hot blonde. I was with my brother and she was with a friend. I had never said a word to her, and she called me out on the dance floor. Within seconds, she's holding me close and making flirtatious eye contact. Before I know it, she's making out with me. Not how I imagined my first kiss, but whatever, it was fantastic. Throughout the night she must have kissed me 7 times while giving me those "**** me now" eyes after she pulled away. For the most part, I just looked back at her with a dumb smile on my face. We talked very little throughout the night. As a matter of fact I don't know anything about her. I was pretty drunk the whole time and before I knew it, the bar closed and she was gone. No goodbye or anything. She probably got frustrated I didn't make a move on her. My brother talked to her friend a bit. She supposedly admitted her friend was "really into me". My bro got her friend's number, but I didn't get anyone's number. Question... is there any tactical approach I can make to reconnect with this girl? Would she even be interested in reconnecting? I'm not sure what her intentions were as this has never happened to me before. Brother offered to text the girl's friend for me. Edited October 31, 2011 by ksmit
Author ksmit Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) Id be weary of aggresive females, especially ones that persue That's true. Hence why I washed my mouth out with disinfectant afterward. Edit: I talked to her friend a little bit and she asked me if I was single. Sounds like she might have been screening me as a potential date with her friend. Edited October 31, 2011 by ksmit
Nexus One Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 While I think you can try pursuing her, I must say she didn't exactly act like girlfriend material. She made out with you without knowing you, without having spoken to you, in a club. Somehow that makes me think of the phrase "the way you win them, is the way you'll lose them". But you could try digging a bit deeper and see what she's really about.
Author ksmit Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 Well I shouldn't say she just dragged me out there randomly. I was standing with them both at the bar prior while my brother talked to them. I assumed he knew the girl. She probably noticed I was shy or something and thought it was cute. My brother was pissed she went for me because he wanted her. What eases my mind is how her friend was talking to me later that night. It seemed like she was qualifying me to see if I was right for her friend. One of the first things her FRIEND asked was if I was single.
ShannonMI Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I never go to bars or nightclubs because I don't like loud environments and the whole hookup scene disgusts me. Nevertheless, I was dragged out last Saturday and met this very hot blonde. I was with my brother and she was with a friend. I had never said a word to her, and she called me out on the dance floor. Within seconds, she's holding me close and making flirtatious eye contact. Before I know it, she's making out with me. Not how I imagined my first kiss, but whatever, it was fantastic. Throughout the night she must have kissed me 7 times while giving me those "**** me now" eyes after she pulled away. For the most part, I just looked back at her with a dumb smile on my face. We talked very little throughout the night. As a matter of fact I don't know anything about her. I was pretty drunk the whole time and before I knew it, the bar closed and she was gone. No goodbye or anything. She probably got frustrated I didn't make a move on her. My brother talked to her friend a bit. She supposedly admitted her friend was "really into me". My bro got her friend's number, but I didn't get anyone's number. Question... is there any tactical approach I can make to reconnect with this girl? Would she even be interested in reconnecting? I'm not sure what her intentions were as this has never happened to me before. Brother offered to text the girl's friend for me. Just get the girl's number and text or call her yourself. She sounds like she was really into you.
Author ksmit Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 Just get the girl's number and text or call her yourself. She sounds like she was really into you. I've never felt a girl this into me before. It was crazy and I was almost like a deer in headlights out there in disbelief. Your simple post actually made me realize if I don't do anything, I'll never know what we could have had. Taking action, worst case she's not my type and I move on. Thanks!
ShannonMI Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I've never felt a girl this into me before. It was crazy and I was almost like a deer in headlights out there in disbelief. Your simple post actually made me realize if I don't do anything, I'll never know what we could have had. Taking action, worst case she's not my type and I move on. Thanks! Granted she was most likely 3 sheets to the wind, but who cares. Just go for it.
Author ksmit Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 She could have had any of the MANY attractive guys in this bar/club, but she chose me. Thanks for raining on my parade!
ShannonMI Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 She could have had any of the MANY attractive guys in this bar/club, but she chose me. Thanks for raining on my parade! Ok well if there were a lot of hot men at the bar and she chose you, she probably liked you. Chill out!! I'm not raining on your parade. What I meant was that she was wasted and that's why she was all over you. Most SOBER girls don't act like that. Sober girls may flirt with a guy, but they aren't going to suck face all night and give you the "f*ck me now" eyes. I'm sure she found you attractive. She was just overly aggressive because she was drunk.
Author ksmit Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 Alright. You kind of gave me the impression that she only showed any interest at ALL because she was drunk.
Nexus One Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 What I meant was that she was wasted and that's why she was all over you. Most SOBER girls don't act like that. Sober girls may flirt with a guy, but they aren't going to suck face all night and give you the "f*ck me now" eyes. I'm sure she found you attractive. She was just overly aggressive because she was drunk. You don't know that for sure, some girls can be aggressive like that in their approach.
ShannonMI Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Alright. You kind of gave me the impression that she only showed any interest at ALL because she was drunk. No, no, no I meant she was overly aggressive because she was loaded. Ever heard of LIQUID COURAGE? That's what alcohol does to some people. I'm sure the girl would have acted a bit differently if she were sober. She may have chatted you up, flipped her hair, giggled etc. etc. but she probably wouldn't have had her tongue down your throat. Not saying the way she acted was bad. Believe me, we all act differently when we've had a few. Nothing wrong with that.
ffw Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I agree with NO. Personally, I'll be careful with fun & party type girls. Maybe, this is not her 1st time. But at the end of the day, it depends upon what you want. Just fun or a relationship.
Author ksmit Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 Thanks for the clarification ShannonMI. ffw, I'm the same way. Never liked the crazy/party type girls because I simply don't trust them. I don't know if this helps, but the kissing was kept clean. No open mouth or anything. If there was even a hint of tongue I would have probably ran away screaming.
ShannonMI Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 You don't know that for sure, some girls can be aggressive like that in their approach. No I don't know that. I just know how a lot of girls act when they've had some booze. She could just be a really aggressive girl. Do most girls makeout when they first meet a guy if they're sober? I don't know too many that do. I know I don't act that way when I'm sober and neither do my girlfriends. But get some alcohol in us and things could be different.
ShannonMI Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Thanks for the clarification ShannonMI. ffw, I'm the same way. Never liked the crazy/party type girls because I simply don't trust them. I don't know if this helps, but the kissing was kept clean. No open mouth or anything. If there was even a hint of tongue I would have probably ran away screaming. No you wouldn't have! Hahahahahaha you would have loved it:laugh:
snug.bunny Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I never go to bars or nightclubs because I don't like loud environments and the whole hookup scene disgusts me. Nevertheless, I was dragged out last Saturday and met this very hot blonde. I was with my brother and she was with a friend. I had never said a word to her, and she called me out on the dance floor. Within seconds, she's holding me close and making flirtatious eye contact. Before I know it, she's making out with me. Not how I imagined my first kiss, but whatever, it was fantastic. Throughout the night she must have kissed me 7 times while giving me those "**** me now" eyes after she pulled away. For the most part, I just looked back at her with a dumb smile on my face. We talked very little throughout the night. As a matter of fact I don't know anything about her. I was pretty drunk the whole time and before I knew it, the bar closed and she was gone. No goodbye or anything. She probably got frustrated I didn't make a move on her. My brother talked to her friend a bit. She supposedly admitted her friend was "really into me". My bro got her friend's number, but I didn't get anyone's number. Question... is there any tactical approach I can make to reconnect with this girl? Would she even be interested in reconnecting? I'm not sure what her intentions were as this has never happened to me before. Brother offered to text the girl's friend for me. You stud you. My take, is that if she walked up to a complete stranger and made out with him, chances are she is in a "party" phase.
Star Gazer Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 While I think you can try pursuing her, I must say she didn't exactly act like girlfriend material. She made out with you without knowing you, without having spoken to you, in a club. Somehow that makes me think of the phrase "the way you win them, is the way you'll lose them". But you could try digging a bit deeper and see what she's really about. I've never heard that phrase before, but it makes sense. This girl sounds like someone who just likes to have random makeouts at bars with cute boys. I wouldn't bother.
Author ksmit Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 I've never heard that phrase before, but it makes sense. This girl sounds like someone who just likes to have random makeouts at bars with cute boys. I wouldn't bother. Why not move from me to the next guy? Why was her attention 100% on me?
ffw Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Why not move from me to the next guy? Why was her attention 100% on me? Today it was you. Tomorrow is a new day
goodthoughts Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I never go to bars or nightclubs because I don't like loud environments and the whole hookup scene disgusts me. Nevertheless, I was dragged out last Saturday and met this very hot blonde. I was with my brother and she was with a friend. I had never said a word to her, and she called me out on the dance floor. Within seconds, she's holding me close and making flirtatious eye contact. Before I know it, she's making out with me. Not how I imagined my first kiss, but whatever, it was fantastic. Throughout the night she must have kissed me 7 times while giving me those "**** me now" eyes after she pulled away. For the most part, I just looked back at her with a dumb smile on my face. We talked very little throughout the night. As a matter of fact I don't know anything about her. I was pretty drunk the whole time and before I knew it, the bar closed and she was gone. No goodbye or anything. She probably got frustrated I didn't make a move on her. My brother talked to her friend a bit. She supposedly admitted her friend was "really into me". My bro got her friend's number, but I didn't get anyone's number. Question... is there any tactical approach I can make to reconnect with this girl? Would she even be interested in reconnecting? I'm not sure what her intentions were as this has never happened to me before. Brother offered to text the girl's friend for me. You should try to get the girl's number from your brother through her friend and give a follow up on that...with a call /text.
Author ksmit Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 I suppose there's no harm in following up. I need all the social experience I can get...
Professor X Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 You should get her number, but just be wary. It's a good idea anyway, either for experience or cause it will help you move on past that other chick from 2 months ago. And I agree with others saying she's probably not GF material (at least not now), but you never know. Proceed with caution!
Author ksmit Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 And I agree with others saying she's probably not GF material (at least not now), but you never know. Proceed with caution! Anyone have advice on how I should actually approach this? Any screening techniques I could use on her to find out how crazy she is? Never been in this predicament before and I have virtually no experience with dating and relationships. What kind of questions would you ask a girl like this? I suppose I could find out if she's willing to date. Just tell her I'd like to get to know her. If she doesn't respond, she's probably not into dating. The fact her friend asked me if I was in a relationship still makes me think she might have actually wanted more from me.
Professor X Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Anyone have advice on how I should actually approach this? Any screening techniques I could use on her to find out how crazy she is? Never been in this predicament before and I have virtually no experience with dating and relationships. What kind of questions would you ask a girl like this? I suppose I could find out if she's willing to date. Just tell her I'd like to get to know her. If she doesn't respond, she's probably not into dating. The fact her friend asked me if I was in a relationship still makes me think she might have actually wanted more from me. Get her phone number, talk to her for like 10-15 minutes, at the end of the conversation, if she sounds sane, just ask if she would like to go out on a date with you. Any answer other than yes should be taken as a no, with the one exception of her postponing/rescheduling to a different date (i.e. "next weekend" as opposed to "some other time"). P.S. If she remembers who you are, great, if not.. I'd bail lol.
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