Bobby289 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 So it may just be today but I feel like I am moving away from my ex. It's not quite resentment but I feel like I have tried so hard and get so little back. I get my ex is having a hard time with the break up too and is stressed out and needs to work it out herself. It has been a month+ since the BU but only NC again for a few days. I guess because I am emotionally letting her go, I do still love her more than I could say but I fear I am putting up my walls to her because I am hurt. I hurt her emotionally in our relationship so I don't think I should have these feelings right now. I have always had a hard time letting people in, it took me a year into our relationship to fully let her in so It feels like I am at the point emotionally where she is on the fence so to speak... any thoughts?
ChelseaLS Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 So it may just be today but I feel like I am moving away from my ex. It's not quite resentment but I feel like I have tried so hard and get so little back. I get my ex is having a hard time with the break up too and is stressed out and needs to work it out herself. It has been a month+ since the BU but only NC again for a few days. I guess because I am emotionally letting her go, I do still love her more than I could say but I fear I am putting up my walls to her because I am hurt. I hurt her emotionally in our relationship so I don't think I should have these feelings right now. I have always had a hard time letting people in, it took me a year into our relationship to fully let her in so It feels like I am at the point emotionally where she is on the fence so to speak... any thoughts? I think it could just be the day... just another twist in the roller coaster. I know I have days like that where I actually feel good (given they are VERY rare), like I might be moving on. But then I have days like today where it's been pretty much NC (we work together) for a week now and I feel like I am dying inside, wondering if he is thinking of me and how I just want him back, how hopeless my whole situation feels... blah blah blah. Perhaps don't think too much about it and carry on your day. One day at a time. Tomorrow you may feel different. Good luck.
Author Bobby289 Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 I think it could just be the day... just another twist in the roller coaster. I know I have days like that where I actually feel good (given they are VERY rare), like I might be moving on. But then I have days like today where it's been pretty much NC (we work together) for a week now and I feel like I am dying inside, wondering if he is thinking of me and how I just want him back, how hopeless my whole situation feels... blah blah blah. Perhaps don't think too much about it and carry on your day. One day at a time. Tomorrow you may feel different. Good luck. Yeah I think it is just a "good" day. I couldn't imagine working with my ex, sounds like salt in the wound everyday. It's never easy, not matter the situations. Same to you.
jordjones Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I had that feeling for the first time last week - over three months after things went south. It's perfectly natural and progress at an accelerated rate if contact is maintained at a minimum. I think a big part of the healing process for me was the complete recognition that I'm fine either way - with or without her. This is a huge step to where you ultimately want to be. Take care.
leoc1973 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I know what you guys mean. I have been broken up with my ex 5 months. after about 4 I started to feel better then she played some ninja jedi mind tricks on me or something cause she sucked me right back into day 1. I finally confronted her and she told me she has had a boyfriend for 2 months now. I have gone out of my way not to sleep with any other girls. And I have had many opportunities but somehow I felt like our breakup was temporary for some reason and I didn't wanna have to tell her I slept with someone while we were apart. Finding out she has had a boyfriend just helped me turn off so many feelings for her. The thought she could give herself to someone else after all we have been through and now I think of her as icky. lol Now I can finally move on and maybe have some sweet lovin myself! I know what you mean about the rollercoaster and today is a very good day. No thought of wanting her back at all. We shall see what tomorrow and the coming weeks bring.
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