primer Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 My aunt lived with a man for 30+ years. She did not work and he supported her. He took care of the household chores, grocery shopping, etc. and bought her whatever she wanted. She treated him like crap. She would belittle him in front of everybody. I have seen this in other relationships too. The man takes care of the woman and expects nothing from her. My question is - Why do some men accept this?
Pierre Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 My aunt lived with a man for 30+ years. She did not work and he supported her. He took care of the household chores, grocery shopping, etc. and bought her whatever she wanted. She treated him like crap. She would belittle him in front of everybody. I have seen this in other relationships too. The man takes care of the woman and expects nothing from her. My question is - Why do some men accept this? Some people are resentful to those that provide for them. It is a form of inferiority complex. Maybe he accepted her resentment because he loved her. The issue is not about him, but about her. Having expectations is a good way to become disappointed.
Leegh Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 My aunt lived with a man for 30+ years. She did not work and he supported her. He took care of the household chores, grocery shopping, etc. and bought her whatever she wanted. She treated him like crap. She would belittle him in front of everybody. I have seen this in other relationships too. The man takes care of the woman and expects nothing from her. My question is - Why do some men accept this? Probably his mother was like that. One of the nicest men I know is married to a real B___, and I could never figure out why he would choose to be married to someone so untolerable, until I heard about his mother. His wife has the same personality traits as his mother.
Pierre Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Maybe you have never been married. Marriages are not what they look like from the surface. Long term marriages tend to involve complex arrangements that benefit both partners, but are not obvious to those looking from the outside.
creighton0123 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 My aunt lived with a man for 30+ years. She did not work and he supported her. He took care of the household chores, grocery shopping, etc. and bought her whatever she wanted. She treated him like crap. She would belittle him in front of everybody. I have seen this in other relationships too. The man takes care of the woman and expects nothing from her. My question is - Why do some men accept this? S.E.X. Seriously. While you know your aunt, you don't know this man all that well - or at least not well enough to understand what he is getting out of the relationship. He could very well be 100% satisfied being a provider. The public jabs could be silly to him.
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 My aunt lived with a man for 30+ years. She did not work and he supported her. He took care of the household chores, grocery shopping, etc. and bought her whatever she wanted. She treated him like crap. She would belittle him in front of everybody. I have seen this in other relationships too. The man takes care of the woman and expects nothing from her. My question is - Why do some men accept this? I'm calling BS on most previous answers. The answer is $$$... The court is going to decide that after 30+ years of sitting around the bitch can't get or hold a job... so the poor bastard is going to have to give her everything he owns then pay all her expenses in the manner to which she is accustomed. It's funny how housewives have the most difficult and stressful job on the planet... yet they all seem able to find 200 hours a week to devote to another man when they decide to cheat. Marriage itself is currently the most stupid institution we have. It used to be great at providing the stability needed for raising children. Today it's about as stable as a one legged cow.
Metis Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 My question is - Why do some men accept this? The same reasons some women accept being beaten on a daily basis: fear, denial and lack of family support.
LittleTiger Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 My aunt lived with a man for 30+ years. She did not work and he supported her. He took care of the household chores, grocery shopping, etc. and bought her whatever she wanted. She treated him like crap. She would belittle him in front of everybody. I have seen this in other relationships too. The man takes care of the woman and expects nothing from her. My question is - Why do some men accept this? It's funny how people presume to know what is going on inside someone else's marriage. It may have been very obvious to outsiders that he supported her financially but you have no idea who did the bulk of the household chores, or the grocery shopping etc and nor do you know that he bought her everything she wanted - unless, of course, you had an intimate chat with both of them on this topic and they were both completely honest? For all you know the belittleing in public could have been a 'sex game' that they both enjoyed. You have seen nothing in 'other relationships' either - unless you happen to be a fly on the wall and following people from room to room. As Pierre says, most long term marriages are very complex in terms of roles and only the two people involved can say whether there is equal give and take on both sides or even if they want it to be 'equal'. I do find it rather amusing that so many single people on here create threads about how badly men and women in relationships treat one another. You'd probably have a lot more fun getting some practice at the real thing than criticising how other's choose to live their lives.
FitChick Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Sounds like a dom/sub relationship. Some people get off on that.
Woggle Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Most likely she has stripped every ounce of masculinity out of him and no longer respects him. He let it happen though.
Pierre Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Most likely she has stripped every ounce of masculinity out of him and no longer respects him. He let it happen though. If he likes a dominatrix he has the ideal marriage (for him). We don't really know what makes them tick.
Woggle Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 now the question is, how do women take a guys masculinity ? it may have be gradual? even planned by bad intentioned women? It starts off with trying to change little things and of course he goes out of his way to please her but she is never pleased so he is on a never ending quest to make her happy and keep himself out of the doghouse.
grkBoy Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 My aunt lived with a man for 30+ years. She did not work and he supported her. He took care of the household chores, grocery shopping, etc. and bought her whatever she wanted. She treated him like crap. She would belittle him in front of everybody. I have seen this in other relationships too. The man takes care of the woman and expects nothing from her. My question is - Why do some men accept this? No spine. You would be shocked how many "alpha male" types I've seen who let a woman wrap him around her little finger. This isn't even an attack on women, but more that these guys used to be the rough/tough "I am tha man!" kinds of guys...now they are completely "yes dear". It's sad how much power men have given up in the name of getting laid.
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