Patrice Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Hi, I am in a relationship that has been on and off for about two years. We, on many levels are great together - but, he is pushing for a commmitment and I'm not certain he is the one I want to marry. I was married for 27 years to another man who, was fairly neglectful and controlling. This man has made statements like, you can have two female friends, doesn't want me to have any male friends and wanted a big pronouncement on my facebook to "seal the deal" - meaning drive any other men away. I just didn't want to do that - whether it's because I'm uncertain about him being the one, or because it is ringing bells from the first marriage. He maintains that men and women cannot be friends - men will always want a sexual relationship. In fact, I have many male friends and there is no sexual activity involved. I've read up a bit on abuse - patterns of isolation, the statement about two female friends rattled me a bit. He is angry today because I won't honor his facebook request and I think the relationship may be at the make or break moment. My question, what is his issue and what is mine? I'm thinking I'm seeing red flags and don't want to shut out other people in my life because of it. Am I not healed from the first round? Any thoughts are appreciated!!
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