MIK1000 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Just got a text from my ex saying "Do you want your gamecube back?" For those that don't know, the game cube is a games console from about 10 years ago I lent her. It actually belongs to my big brother. Neither of us have played it in years but she wanted a go on it. Is this an attempt to break NC or is it an honest question (I mean if I wanted it back I'd contact her for it, i had completely forgot she had it) I don't particularly want it back but my brother might so ill need to ask him, I have a DVD box set belonging to her dad that she may want. Should I just reply being casual and say I will have to ask my brother but will let her know and also mention the box set that I have?
Rorschach64 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I was in a similar situation a month ago, had NC for 4 months and gave my ex f address where she could send my stuff, where I recieved an email asking for an address to send my stuff to but she had one already. I responded politely and a month later nothing at all. Your ex probably just asking to get rid of something she doesn't need. Just tell her yes and plan accordingly.
Author MIK1000 Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 I was in a similar situation a month ago, had NC for 4 months and gave my ex f address where she could send my stuff, where I recieved an email asking for an address to send my stuff to but she had one already. I responded politely and a month later nothing at all. Your ex probably just asking to get rid of something she doesn't need. Just tell her yes and plan accordingly. I waited 15 minutes and then replied saying "I'm not fussed about it but I'll need to ask my brother. Think I have your dads Stillgame boxset.". She replied there saying "Do you? I should probably get them, Do I have anything else of yours?" The thing is, I live literally round the corner from her so there will be no excuse for sending, I will have to meet up with her. She broke up with me while away in the states for the summer and i haven't seen her since she got back so seeing her is a pretty big deal.
Author MIK1000 Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Same with me. My ex had a cellphone that I gifted her. Then she contacted me few times to ask me how should she give it back to me. I haven't asked her about my phone for like 4 months after the break up. I thought she might be finding a way to talk. I met her once, she just gave it back to me, said nothing and went. Don't keep any hopes. Just return her stuff and move on. Yeah i'm trying not to harbour any hope that this is her trying to get me back in her life, despite my friends insisting that this is her looking for an excuse to meet me. Your story is very lightly what could happen. The correspondence went on like this; I phoned my brother and he said he wanted it back, and so i told her this. She said "How should I get it to you?" and I told her she could drop it off "whenever she got the chance" by saying this I was trying to avoid asking to meet up with her, I simply meant she could drop it off and if my parents were in or what, she could leave it with them. She replied saying "I don't really feel comfortable going to your house" which pissed me off because it sounds disrespectful I think but i suppose she wouldn't want to see my parents after what she's done to me. i said "Okay, what then?" and she said "I could meet you at the corner or something" (meaning our the corner where our streets join. I replied saying "Em okay but I can't tonight" and that's all the texts. I took quite a while to respond to each of her texts, half an hour/45 minutes for each. So how do I act when I meet her? I should probably add that after she broke up with me she started going out with a guy from the kids camp she was working at about two weeks later and is still with him (even though they're both back home and can only see each other like one weekend a month.)
Author MIK1000 Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 So the last text I sent was saying Ok to meeting her at the corner and getting the stuff but saying that I couldn't tonight (last night). She has not replied to that, my brother will probably ask me about the gamecube when i next see him at the weekend but I don't think it's too urgent. Do I wait for her to message me again or message her again asking to meet me at the corner so i can get it from her. Part of me is thinking that this text was just her trying to see what I would say to her because after last time she texted asking How i was, about six weeks ago I gave her a very short and abrupt answer.
confused kitty Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 wait until after the weekend and see does she text you, if not then text her saying you seen your brother over the weekend and he was looking for the gamecube, when can I get it off you? This way it doesnt look like your being pushy in wanting to meet her
Rorschach64 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Act polite and like this isn't a big deal, because it isn't unless she says something. If she says something along the lines of "I miss you" or anything non commital (Spelling?) just say "I know". I don't think you should contact her since this was her initative, so you said all you need to say about logisitical stuff.
Author MIK1000 Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 wait until after the weekend and see does she text you, if not then text her saying you seen your brother over the weekend and he was looking for the gamecube, when can I get it off you? This way it doesnt look like your being pushy in wanting to meet her Yeah I don't want to give her the impression at all that i want to meet her. It still won't be urgent though, even after the weekend. My brother will understand. My friend has offered to go get it for me so I don't need to meet her, but I would only be doing that to piss her off. I also thought about telling her to drop it off at the local pub that I work at part time which is just near our houses.
Rorschach64 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Na don't attempt to go piss her off, no matter what she has done to you, be the better person. I was talking about wait for her to come back at you with a confirmation on time and place. I don't think a gamecube these days is worth that much trouble. I am doing this same approach with my ex-fiancee that has my laptop, I am not pestering her about sending it because I don't want that to be a reason to talk to her and she will only send it when she wants to.
Author MIK1000 Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 Na don't attempt to go piss her off, no matter what she has done to you, be the better person. I was talking about wait for her to come back at you with a confirmation on time and place. I don't think a gamecube these days is worth that much trouble. I am doing this same approach with my ex-fiancee that has my laptop, I am not pestering her about sending it because I don't want that to be a reason to talk to her and she will only send it when she wants to. I'd just like to give her the impression that I have no need to see her. The gamecube is honestly so meaningless to me and so insignificant that it's very random for her to contact me over it. i think she is just trying to put herself back in my head or see how I would respond to her (if i sounded bitter or angry) because our breakup situation was so unique that she ended it while away, despite things being perfect before she left and now she's home I've removed myself from her life completely, maybe the NC has been bugging her.
Rorschach64 Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I've wondered the same thing about my ex fiancee still holding on to my laptop, which I understand since she has no laptop now and it is a good laptop, and my dog tags, which have no value at all but they MEAN something and can easily be sent via envelope. Then she e-mails me asking for an address AGAIN to send my stuff to which I give her the info and I am polite and throw in a stupid nickname joke I made on the fly 'cause I don't care. In all honesty, neither of our ex's probably care about us right now and probably don't have the time to be bothered giving our stuff back or in your case she just wants to get rid of whatever she doesn't need. I wouldn't look in to it.
Author MIK1000 Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 I've wondered the same thing about my ex fiancee still holding on to my laptop, which I understand since she has no laptop now and it is a good laptop, and my dog tags, which have no value at all but they MEAN something and can easily be sent via envelope. Then she e-mails me asking for an address AGAIN to send my stuff to which I give her the info and I am polite and throw in a stupid nickname joke I made on the fly 'cause I don't care. In all honesty, neither of our ex's probably care about us right now and probably don't have the time to be bothered giving our stuff back or in your case she just wants to get rid of whatever she doesn't need. I wouldn't look in to it. You're maybe right. It sounds like your ex is just being inconsiderate. An expensive laptop would seriously piss me off, why did you let her have it after the break up in the first place? I still think that the gamecube was the lamest excuse to contact me she could find though.
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