Reality Check Posted May 20, 2004 Posted May 20, 2004 This is a message for all the guys out there, who in this particular moment are traversing through the awful experience of a heartache, break up...... I speak by experience to you. I am currently getting my Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy but to be quite honest I have doctorate based on personal experience. Guys remain focused and steadfast... I am not attacking women, or the fact that you express your emotions on this message board... what I am saying is, do not be sadden by the twist of faith that is a break up.... things honestly do happen for a reason. If she asked for time off..... that means "it's over" if she cheated on you.... that means "it's over" if you asked for time... that means, yeah you get the picture... if you cheated... as well. For many this is not the first break up... for those who it is, I hope it's the last... but highly unlikely..... So why do we crumble under the weight of reality? reality is offering you a second chance, even if she isn't Reality is telling you... move on... better is coming. Reality is actually saving your life.... and yet you glue yourself to misery. Does that make any sense? Why do we realize we love someone when they hurt us, leave us etc? Isn't that a hugh condradiction to love? Love is constant... it doesn't take breaks, it doesn't hurt, it doesn't make you cry... it makes you feel happy all the time... that is what love is. So friends... if you are a situation where love is hurting you, and you have done the impossible, than look at the bright side of things.... this is a second chance, or maybe a 3rd, or 4th.... do not settle for less, do not settle for pain. Again I speak from experience and not a text book... put faith in love, in God ( if you are religious) and in fate.... yes it's going to happen someday. Good day friends.
Durden Posted May 20, 2004 Posted May 20, 2004 Thats the best post ive read for a long time. Well done that man. You win a lolipop* *Collect it from your nearest convenience store
olderisnowiser Posted May 22, 2004 Posted May 22, 2004 I could have used that advice on Christmas eve, when after a 2 year relationship and an engagement that lasted several months, out of the blue she gave the ring back. Several more months of trying to work it out, and today I had to end all contact. So I can move on, and let her move on. But life will go on, and maybe In better times our paths will cross again. I have a question that needs no answer but just to stop and ponder. Why do we cause so much pain to other people, and then cause more pain to ourselves, because of this?
Durden Posted May 23, 2004 Posted May 23, 2004 I've just got back from an ight on the town and im **** faced. I went with my best friend , and he nearly got us in two fights with a gfew ppl. At the end of the day, life is too short to waste it with omne person. F**k it! ive been **** on enough times! I got dumped a few months back and it hurt me alot. Even got told by the ex that she had a threesome. That hurt ,me like f**k to hear that. But, I know ive got friends that think im great and a good laugh. The only bit of advice i can give to anyone who has been dumped is....... F**k 'em they aint worth it, think of number one. I'll meet someone oneday who is special, but at the moment i dont give a s**t. Sorry for rambling on but im a bit worse for wear. i'm off to bed with my pet cat. At least he loves me the little bastard
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